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The overwhelming majority of people on rentmasseur did not go to massage school, are not licensed and have no training. You are paying for something other than a massage (what they'll do, how they look). If you want a real massage go to a legitimate massage therapist. 
 

This was all I needed to hear "I'm very glad I did.  He's a really nice guy and the massage was great and it included head" 😉

Perceptions of things being “dirty” are highly subjective. And culturally based as well. Muslims often find domestic dogs are “dirty” and won’t allow them in their houses. 

He partially answered your email maybe he didn't like what you said and he didn't want to see you as a client. I get tons of messages per day and if a client says something I don't like I don't bother wasting oxygen in a response. 
Maybe you and him are not a good match hopefully you find somebody that matches with you better.
Side note just because I'm showing up in a city doesn't mean I'm actively taking clients unless it says available now... 
I'm currently in San Francisco getting messages at 2 am to 5am.. I don't respond because I don't work late.. should I be attacked because I don't respond to clients when I'm sleeping or not available? 

Your bias is showing since you failed to deal with the actual facts.
He ran his ad in New York, which says to the world that he's saying he's available.
He partially answered one of my emails and one of my texts with information about a session but then said nothing more in response to follow-up inquiries.  He could have easily simply said instead "not available" but didn't.   Instead he started a conversation about meeting and then abandoned it.  That's just bad client relations.

OK, even if the guy you hire isn't completely faking it he's still doing it just for the money. He might be a really nice guy he might think you're a nice guy but it's a transaction. You should not develop feelings for a provider. If you do you need to realize that they are one way only and when the money stops the relationship is over. If what you really want is a boyfriend with real feelings you need to find that in other places. Go on dating apps or meet somebody in real life and do the work.
You say that you are not emotionally intelligent, but you're clearly stating what you're feeling and what happens. If you get jealous and angry when a provider is with someone else you're just setting yourself up for a really big disappointment and unnecessary heartache. A lot of guys want the emotional part of a relationship just as much or more than the physical part of a relationship. If you need and want that you are never really going to get it from a provider. You can get the illusion of that but it's not the real thing.
Providers are real people and once in a while they might have real feelings with a client but most of the time they are just performing and even if they like you they're gonna be with lots of other people and do the same thing. When you stop giving them money the performance is over. Someone who has real feelings for you will not need to be paid.

This was all I needed to hear "I'm very glad I did.  He's a really nice guy and the massage was great and it included head" 😉

I think it’s always a good practice to ask for rates up front, regardless if it’s posted on rent masseur or not. Many masseurs charge extra for escort services, or have different fees for erotic level of massage. And rentmen doesn’t list pricing publicly. I don’t see how this is wasting someone’s time. You want to be paid correctly right?

I had someone text me tonight asking me what my rate is. The rates are listed on my rentmasseur page. I would think that the rate would be one of the first things they look for on the ad. Why do they ask for information that is right there on the page?

I think it's because they want to know if there's any specials going on, and sometimes we don't change our rates when we change our rates, and we forget to change them. I don't mind clients asking that .   I prefer clients asking that because you could have a special going on.   I honestly don't mind clients asking anything at all.  You simply don't know unless you ask 😃

Actually, in my experience as a client, there have been providers who change (or have attempted to) their rates after booking, claiming that they "forgot to update my profile". Happened to me twice with masseurs. Considering that, it might be annoying to those who maintain their rates up-to-date, but to me as a client is a valid question. However, I don't ask "what is your rate", I make a statement like: "just to verify, it is $XXX for X amount of time, correct?". That shows that I am aware of what the profile says.
The reality is that this type of work is prone to "misleading" information, so confirming everything is how I protect myself and my money.
May I ask, is that a big bother to you and if so, why?

I think you've misunderstood what this is about. It's not about haggling, it's just about being on the same page. As others have said, the rate a provider lists is usually a price for one specific service. If the client is requesting other services, the rate will change and it benefits both the client and the provider to be on the same page about what is being requested/supplied and for how much. This prevents confusion and miscommunications, which are annoyances for both the client and the provider. It's just the correct way to do business, of any kind.

I have seen a couple of providers posting different rates for the same services on different sites - probably posted at different times.  I don’t feel that the question is unreasonable or asked out of stupidity. They may be asking to reduce the chance of a misunderstanding at the time of the encounter. 

The overwhelming majority of people on rentmasseur did not go to massage school, are not licensed and have no training. You are paying for something other than a massage (what they'll do, how they look). If you want a real massage go to a legitimate massage therapist. 
 

The overwhelming majority of people on rentmasseur did not go to massage school, are not licensed and have no training. You are paying for something other than a massage (what they'll do, how they look). If you want a real massage go to a legitimate massage therapist. 
 

The overwhelming majority of people on rentmasseur did not go to massage school, are not licensed and have no training. You are paying for something other than a massage (what they'll do, how they look). If you want a real massage go to a legitimate massage therapist. 
 

Well for one, a lot of the employees at H&S (and other chain spas) are probably fresh out of massage school and the people you find online typically have more experience to justify a price increase. Next, people in those chains rely on tips more than independent workers do (which makes it appear to be cheaper at first). Lastly, you're right, you shouldn't pay extra for an unlicensed/inexperienced massage, but some of these pages are just really hot guys trying to get money from being that and I guess people go in for it. You could argue that assuming the risk of doing less than legal things is worthy of a premium but I'm not too knowledgeable on that side of things. 

I think you have it backwards. Massage is usually from a licensed masseur. Bodywork is not protected as a legal term and anyone can offer it. 

The overwhelming majority of people on rentmasseur did not go to massage school, are not licensed and have no training. You are paying for something other than a massage (what they'll do, how they look). If you want a real massage go to a legitimate massage therapist. 
 

Absolutely. There are one or more websites where they do this and I think the places where they advertise probably have some information sharing as well. But they definitely do.

The overwhelming majority of people on rentmasseur did not go to massage school, are not licensed and have no training. You are paying for something other than a massage (what they'll do, how they look). If you want a real massage go to a legitimate massage therapist. 
 

The overwhelming majority of people on rentmasseur did not go to massage school, are not licensed and have no training. You are paying for something other than a massage (what they'll do, how they look). If you want a real massage go to a legitimate massage therapist. 
 

Fair to middling experience doesn't sound all that great. Any other thoughts on his personality, hygiene or skills?

Yes, they are all over Pornhub. 😉

OK, even if the guy you hire isn't completely faking it he's still doing it just for the money. He might be a really nice guy he might think you're a nice guy but it's a transaction. You should not develop feelings for a provider. If you do you need to realize that they are one way only and when the money stops the relationship is over. If what you really want is a boyfriend with real feelings you need to find that in other places. Go on dating apps or meet somebody in real life and do the work.
You say that you are not emotionally intelligent, but you're clearly stating what you're feeling and what happens. If you get jealous and angry when a provider is with someone else you're just setting yourself up for a really big disappointment and unnecessary heartache. A lot of guys want the emotional part of a relationship just as much or more than the physical part of a relationship. If you need and want that you are never really going to get it from a provider. You can get the illusion of that but it's not the real thing.
Providers are real people and once in a while they might have real feelings with a client but most of the time they are just performing and even if they like you they're gonna be with lots of other people and do the same thing. When you stop giving them money the performance is over. Someone who has real feelings for you will not need to be paid.