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This whole thread is unnecessarily mean.

OR...if you can pick a mate for physical traits that are largely or entirely immutable, or "intelligence" or sense of humor - also difficult or impossible for some to change- why not pick one for money?

http://www.livescience.com/33525-foot-fetishes-toe-suck-fairy.html

But fetishes for non-sexual body parts themselves are not common. Most straight or gay men do not have foot fetishes. It's just a fact.

Far from most. I wish it were otherwise- especially in regards to foot tops. But its uncommon.

I can understand how the site is useful for people who enjoy the hunt, and perhaps I'm missing something, but how does it help cut through the freaks and flakes, if you know what you want and are ready to pay for it? As @latbear4blk has said, this is a lot more clear cut in escort-client interactions.

You want to date, not just have sex. Match has income too.

Oh yeah...BB is a no no for me. Good catch.

TOP posited that this is a very common fetish. It's not.

Dick pics do zero for me. I need a handsome face.

Again I find it hilarious (like laugh out loud funny) that any self-described sugar daddy finds $80 a month expensive. I shit that out after lunch.

These are accurate statements. For real.

And your point? Gay men and straight men alike mostly ONLY date and marry people who meet some exhaustive list of physical attributes. That is somehow better than dating or marrying someone who makes or has money? Plus looks fade. Money earns interest

Not when they are paid...

But that's all a trophy spouse or SO is, really!

How is it better?

Huh? You think people don't want boyfriends? Or husbands?

I may get lambasted for saying what I think about this site but the word "ARRANGEMENT" is in the title and the boys LIST the level of financial support they "expect" High Moderate Minimal etc. No matter HOW you slice it you are in essence hiring a scort. Granted, in "some" cases a non-professional, but you're paying someone to be with you on a regular or full-time basis and have sex with you. My bud paid to join looking for someone to live with travel with he's a tad naive he was answering all these boys and I had to say "STOP LOOK" he says New York but he LOGGED IN from Brazil! Or his profile says MEN/WOMEN and all his pics are with a blocked out girl he's STRAIGHT and IF he includes sex it's NOT his pref he'll eventually hate himself and YOU and maybe kill you somewhere in Mexico etc (with the help of the girl in all the pix) If you're looking for ANYTHING more than a boy to have on retainer to satisfy your needs whenever you choose, then you're looking for tsuris (grief). And if all those honest humble ones saying they really aren't there for the $$$$ they're there because they're genuinely INTO older men were telling the truth, they'd be on a silver daddy site and not there. All that said, there is NOTHING wrong with finding a permanent young man who doesn't run scort ads to whom you will have regular rights to and share perhaps a higher level of intimacy re his and your private lives, but as I said to my bud, keep it real. If he's gay he's having sex with you for $$$ then having sex with guys his own age on the side and if he's straight he's having sex with you for $$$ then buying drinks for girls to have sex with on the side and you MUST be down with that. If you're looking for the gay Pretty Women that was just a movie WITH Richard Gere as YOU lol. WHY not just find a great safe professional scort you click with and hire HIM regularly to be with you accompany you evening out take on vacations etc ??

(K now someone post a great SA love story that proves all of what I said is wrong lol)

I'm super cynical but at least one guy I met WAS a young guy into dating older guys and money or gifts never changed hands. So it Does happen.

However, MOST important of the guys on the site at least want a rich boyfriend, or in more extreme cases are literally rentmen guys I recognize looking for more steady gigs.

The former makes them no different than half the straight wives I know in Manhattan- and not a few of the straight husbands. Income IS very highly correlated with the likelihood that a straight person has multiple marriage opportunities. Fact.

And a hot boyfriend/rich boyfriend arrangement is better than an escort one.

Sure. He still sounds racist. Two separate posts where the only way I read it is "black men from big cities have criminal records." I do not by the way. Not even a traffic ticket, ever.

Nope. I posted your ENTIRE quote. EVERYONE but you thinks it was racist. That says all you need to know.

Yep. You said BLACK escorts have criminal backgrounds:

"Everyone deserves a second chance, even if he is a convicted criminal, which is not the case presented by the OP, but even in that extreme case I would consider the circumstances to make a decision. Circumstances are everything.

Specially those of us who like playing with young black urban boys from the hood, you better have an open mind about criminal backgrounds."

I've been with plenty of white escorts, and plenty of THEM have criminal records. A few got to three strikes. But I don't recall any of the threads about them (or other criminal white escorts) talking about their race at all.

Please, read carefully. I said "young black urban boys from the hood", which is still a generalization but significantly more restricted than how you are paraphrasing. You probably do not work closely with at risk populations as I do. By no mean I mean all young urban black boys from the hood hold criminal records, I just imply that you have to get used to those cases if you are engaged with that specific population. I do not even mean that holding criminal records mean that they are criminal, I am just pointing out to a fact common in communities victims of discrimination.

Maybe it is my bad English, but I reread my post and I still do not see anything wrong about it. Peace!

Uhhhhh.... you CLEARLY implied black men have criminal records.

They lie about and change their location. So many who WANT to live in NYC or LA say those places in their profile but are really all kinds of other places. I've noticed quite a few who say "I actually live in Florida but you could fly me there" or " once I graduate I want to move there."

I agree with all of this^, but am disappointed when, before we even meet for coffee or Skype or whatever, they start asking about money or "how generous " you are. It's too much too soon. I don't ask them up front the sort of intimate questions one asks a rent boy, so why do they start haggling on price?

Well it's been a few weeks but here's a recent run one from Estonia:

 

"wantdaddy97 about 2 hours ago

I have just one question Are you financially prosperous? Please dont be angry! This is just a question. I have big heart and im opened boy. I like older mans and traveling. I dont look only sex,just look a daddy who have big heart and love me like son.

And you have thiss problem to pay my plane tickets/visa.

Want to be my daddy?

 

NO SEX!"

That is the best/worst ever.

My SA meet-up I took a rather handsome Latino to a nice dinner, he gave me a goodbye hug at the end. Following day he texted me "Can I ask you a question?", "Sure, go ahead." "Would you help me with my $1150 rent?"

Some I've met did not even wait that long.

"I'm rich, and you're not" article. Rather lengthy:

 

http://www.sfgate.com/living/article/I-m-rich-You-re-hot-The-cold-mathematics-of-6133072.php

That's a good one.

It doesn't matter anyway since he's so hot. Right?

Get an antifungal prescribed!

I don't know what Jed said, or didn't say, about his nationality. I said that the Adonis Lounge promoter marketed him as Australian. I didn't ask Jed about it, since it wasn't foremost on my mind, given the context of our meeting.

No, we all got that email, which in your above post correctly says he was marketed as SOUTH AFRICAN. In your same above post you say he is really Australian.