I have a one time close friend who married young and they havr two great children. I was in the Army, and remember him sending me a strange letter focused on was I shacked up with someone.
When his wife died of cancer young, all of his subsequent sexual partners were men. Recently he told me how much sex he had with men in high school
I am not going to ask him about his marriage under any circumstances. But it must be bothering me to mention it here/
Added later*
All these years later, it is more about his lack of honesty.