I have never had any concerns about bringing someone to my home. Why?
I met my first hire in a New York bar, and we talked several times on the phone before he took the train here to Philadelphia.
The second reason: I often hired from a Philadelphia agency (Premier), which provides some back-up protection.
And my job was not depending on being straight or gay.
Also, I was in the Army for two years, with one year overseas. I had slept in the same rooms with dozens of other guys in the service, especially in basic training and in SE Asia.