Ok...pragmatist here...but if the kid is on Grindr, maybe he just wants some attention and sex? I don’t see any mention of “scam”, or inappropriate request for care/money. I’m ok the OP not going through with it...but maybe the kid just needed some lovin’
I’ve always been far more attracted to the person, personality, vs. than the equipment attached to them. Big, small? Give me a smile, a laugh, a cuddle all good!
I’ve decided against further interest in either. But in our discussions (months ago) there were periods of time where you could visit one or the other ...but generally only as a duo