Luv2play

Getting back to the original subject I think it is hard to make a move to another country unassisted. I only moved once for a four year posting overseas by my employer but that was a different matter. 
I knew it wasn’t forever but a good 4 year stretch appealed to me as sufficient time to get immersed in a different culture and language, although I could speak that fairly fluently already. 
Living there I  acquired a live in boy friend so the assimilation  was pretty complete with his friends combining with mine that I acquired on my own. 
All good things come to an end though and my job there ended after 4 years and my relationship with my bf a half year later. 
 

I would say they are de jure vers/tops, meaning that’s what they advertise as but are de facto tops because that’s what their clients want. Whether they are vers with their boyfriends or casual non paid hookups is irrelevant to their business.

I saw a provider I have met 3 previous times over 2 years a couple of days ago. He advertises as vers/top. With me he is top but on our first date I hired him to top me and bottom for another escort I had hired for the night. 
He was great at both and we reminisced about it this time. I asked him how often he is asked to bottom and he said not too often. Of course his great asset is a huge dick 8 1/2 and thick. Hard to pass up.

When I lived in Europe I had a few wild nights on the Med. Involving yachts, fast people and lots of drinking. Those days are past for me and had I persisted I would be dead by now. 

This has been my experience. For years I listed as vers but I’m rarely if ever asked to bottom, do I switched to listing as vers/top. The other day I was thinking of switching to listing as just top since that’s where the demand is, and I gotta admit I love topping guys. 

Most of my clients want to bottom if it comes to that. I’d say 80% are bottom but of course that’s not a statistical measure, just my estimation. It could be affected by me being quite large lol. Rarely am I asked to bottom. 
I think there’s a difference between advertised status and real status. For professional sex (clients / films) I’m vers/top because that’s what the market wants, 90% of the time I’m top. For recreational sex I’m generally 50:50 vers. I suspect that many of the guys advertising as vers top or top do so because that’s what the market is driving them towards. In their non work lives they’ll have a different designation. 

One book I am currently reading is my own which is to be published this fall. I have spent over a year in writing it and the last 3 months in reading proofs. Getting down to the final proof in the next week and hope to have it come out in late September.  
It’s an historical treatise of limited interest but should do alright in the local market. I will do a book launch and it will be featured at our local museum, at which I am the curator. 
It’s my second effort at writing a book. My first was a self published family history. This latest I got a publisher to pay the costs.
Satisfaction at the end of the day but lots of sweat invested in the research and writing. Got to get things right in a historical book as much as possible. 

Southern Ontario is parallel with Northern California. And grows peaches, plumbs and all sorts of other fruits which are now in season. Of course it doesn’t have the coastal climate but wine is grown seriously there. 

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Southern Ontario is parallel with Northern California. And grows peaches, plumbs and all sorts of other fruits which are now in season. Of course it doesn’t have the coastal climate but wine is grown seriously there. 

Very true. Windsor is close enough  (13 miles from my house to the border) that the radio often reports the weather there, and refers to it as "South of the Border".  Honestly that joke has gotten old. 

If you are rich and seek a spousal sponsorship, I’m very high maintenance and require a non-prenup pledge. 
If you apply for entry through the Home Support Worker program, I’m very high maintenance and you must buy your own Pledge. 

Thank you all for this - and an overseas rugby education, to boot! I was eyeing the city of Brandon, due to its close proximity to the U.S. border, and its very low crime rate for such a large population. I recently saw a coffee house in Brandon hosting a heavy metal singer from my hair band glory days of the early 1990s, so I know that there's an existing music scene. Many of my favorite artists are from there - I've requested a Sam Roberts Band song to be played at my memorial service.
 
 
For the immediate future, I need to work on me, clean up my place to make it sellable, and likely wait until the Winter of '26 to see where things are at with the financial state of myself and both countries at that time. I have confidence that we'll still be separate, unless the ghost of James K. Polk intervenes.

The biggest livability factor for many is the ratio of median income to median home price.  As a general rule, median home price 3x median income is considered affordable.  In Canada the ratio is a whopping 9x!  It’s lousy in the US as well, 5.8x, but not quite as backbreaking as our northern neighbor.
I got ratios only for Vancouver 12.7x, Toronto 10.7x, and Montreal & Calgary 6x.  To compare:  LA 10x, San Francisco 8.5x, New York 6.8x, Boston 6x.  But cities in the Midwest are much more affordable:  Oklahoma City 3.1x, Cleveland 2.7x, Detroit 1.9x.
Many millennials are frustrated they can’t afford to buy, and many Gen Z are still living with their parents.  If home ownership matters to you and you’re not making a high finance or tech bro salary, do your due diligence before making the move.

Oh. Yes, it is.
For some of us that's such basic knowledge that it didn't occur to me that it wasn't obvious. My bad.
And in a play on that name, the national football team of Aotearoa is the All Whites, and the basketball team is the Tall Blacks.

In the interest of any cultural misunderstanding, "All Blacks" is the name of New Zealand's national rugby union team for their all black uniforms.

I can understand that for some Americans, the idea of Canada is enticing. Less drama, the idea of a friendlier life. But moving is not easy, there are hurdles to jump, and no guarantees of being able to move. If you could move easily it may be a simpler choice, to move for now hoping that the things you think you need to escape might cease to be an issue and you could go back. Your own country always has a pull on you, emotionally, practically, families.
Five years ago, I was disillusioned by the way I saw Australia going, and in the glow that New Zealand held across the ditch, there was the kernel of an idea to move. For us, moving there is far easier than it is for Americans to move north. We can simply move, no questions, 'register' as a resident, and in five years obtain a passport. It's more complex for Kiwis to go the other way, but for us it's easy. The pandemic snuffed out any idea of doing that, neither of us could at all. Five years later, the tone of Australia has changed. If I had moved, the pull of home would have been strong. I may not have regretted the move. But I do not regret now that I couldn't. But I could never, ever, ever have cheered for the All Blacks.
Canada may have an allure now, but today in America is not forever. Escape may feel urgent in this moment, but whatever has changed, much remains the same. There is a rhythm of life, moving will disrupt it, the idea of change may promise something better, but it will be different in ways that you will not know until you try it. That can be a caution as much as an objective.

I read about this a week or so ago in the NYT. Mini forests. Invented by this Japanese guy. Very interested as I had unconsciously done this on my town property 16 years ago. They were all saplings which I harvested from my country property.
Today I have these different big compatible trees all happily growing skyward together ( about 18 to 22 feet) They now touch branches a little but that’s ok according to the Japanese originator. And they will become stronger as a result of their diversity and closeness. 
Sitting in my garden this morning with the wind rustling the leaves both deciduous and coniferous was wonderful to see. 

absolutely not Darling! You wish I was but I am not! Don't you wish b+++h?

Not sure who you are talking about your post doesn’t have anyone named. Are you sure your not the one on drugs?