BCMan

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Yes, I get separate rooms for a number of reasons. I am a very light sleeper, and have to sleep alone. I either get a two bedroom suite or adjoining rooms. I’m pretty introverted and the separate rooms mean I don’t have to be “on” all the time. And I think it’s nice just to offer some “down time” on occasion for my guest. I generally schedule the mornings to be “down time” where they might go to the gym and I sleep in. I find it more relaxing for myself, and the guys seem to appreciate their own space. To each his own. 

I have a regular RM contact in Atlanta.  He had a friend (guy 2), currently a classic twink porn star, who tried RM and took himself  off because he was tired of being treated like meat!   Our common friend arranged a threesome because he said I was different.  We had a blast and Guy 2 and I traveled several times together in the last few months and remain friends and talk regularly even though he’s out of porn and escorting and has a boyfriend   
After that, Guy 2 introduced me to a childhood friend (Guy 3) who was thinking of getting into escorting.  He thought I’d be the right “first experience” for him.
The three of us met in Detroit for a weekend.  We had a blast.   Guy 3 and I have traveled several times.  At the moment, he’s sitting to my right as we watch movers pack one of my houses.  He will be here for two weeks helping me settle in.   We have great chemistry.   I’ve also introduced him to another forum member and they have a great (and regular) travel experience.   He’s not on a platform and we’re his only two clients.
The moral of the story:
- rude is a transaction 
- polite pays dividends
and with familiarity, we have mutual awareness of each other’s needs without asking or demanding  
 
 
 
 

Yes, I get separate rooms for a number of reasons. I am a very light sleeper, and have to sleep alone. I either get a two bedroom suite or adjoining rooms. I’m pretty introverted and the separate rooms mean I don’t have to be “on” all the time. And I think it’s nice just to offer some “down time” on occasion for my guest. I generally schedule the mornings to be “down time” where they might go to the gym and I sleep in. I find it more relaxing for myself, and the guys seem to appreciate their own space. To each his own. 

Moderator comment/warning…this thread is starting to derail. The OP started a topic about being polite (or too polite) to providers. Let’s quit the sniping and get back on topic.

Hunk more like it. 

I do not hire often, but whenever I do, I always switch into “host” mode and treat my escort as a “guest”. It’s just how I was brought up! I see him as company. Of course I want to treat everyone with the respect they deserve. But it can get in the way of asking for things I might like for fear of offense. Or worse, I ask them what they would like. I still generally have a good time, it’s just always a weight on my shoulders.Anybody else have this trouble? I’d love to hear from providers and clients who might have thoughts on this. Thanks!

Yes, I get separate rooms for a number of reasons. I am a very light sleeper, and have to sleep alone. I either get a two bedroom suite or adjoining rooms. I’m pretty introverted and the separate rooms mean I don’t have to be “on” all the time. And I think it’s nice just to offer some “down time” on occasion for my guest. I generally schedule the mornings to be “down time” where they might go to the gym and I sleep in. I find it more relaxing for myself, and the guys seem to appreciate their own space. To each his own. 

As others have suggested, don’t overthink this @BCMan 
It seems you have discovered that escorts are not mind-readers.
It’s good that you’re gracious, but it’s simply proper behaviour to look after a guest.
I’d suggest to you that, as part of the preliminaries before meeting a new man for a date, you ask whether the two of you will be compatible in bed.
For example, I used to say
‘I love foreplay and deep kissing’ and  
’I like to see a fit guy in sexy underwear/classic white briefs/a jockstrap’ and
’I’m only a top and I’ve a dominant streak’ and  
‘I love getting my dick sucked, especially to completion, and I really love it when a hot guy like you swallows my load’.
Whatever your fantasy or kink or simple preference is,  I’m sure the other guy has heard all sorts of requests.

@BCMan Nothing wrong with being considerate.  I treat them like I want to be treated.  Very well.  The good ones recognize it quickly and appreciate it.  It puts everyone in a better mood to have more fun together.  👌

Don’t over extend yourself.
You are the paying entity, you have control over the situation. This is your fantasy, you need to live it. 

I agree with gist here but there were many ways to phrase this without insulting clients by suggesting we’re all less attractive or desirable than you are. 
I hire mostly for convenience. I’m perfectly capable of getting laid by very attractive men anywhere their 20s - rarely my type - to their 60s. But being married and enjoying threesomes with my husband complicates matters. And when together we tend to draw mostly twinks and bottoms. Again, not our preference. 
So rather then waste time on apps, which are annoying, or stay our past my bedtime, hiring is the most efficient means of getting who we want when we want him. 
it’s funny when we were in PV, we hired a couple oF guys but the best hook up we had was with another guest at our hotel. We met him at a club, started chatting, he was tall, lean and handsome. He was very sweet and naughty, kissing us on the dance floor. So we asked him back to our room, had a great languid shower, and then two hours of incredible sex. It reminded me of the great one night stands and flings I had when I was single in NYC before apps. You could meet a guy and talk for a couple of hours really enjoy their company and connect which always lead to really hot sex. It’s a bummer most millennials and younger don’t get that experience. 
Maybe more relevant to @BCMan original question. We tend to host at our home and I’m neurotic about that place being clean. It’s a working class thing I cannot get rid of. But I have gotten better at assuming I’ve done my job to assure a providers comfort and then I tell them what we want. 😈

I do not hire often, but whenever I do, I always switch into “host” mode and treat my escort as a “guest”. It’s just how I was brought up! I see him as company. Of course I want to treat everyone with the respect they deserve. But it can get in the way of asking for things I might like for fear of offense. Or worse, I ask them what they would like. I still generally have a good time, it’s just always a weight on my shoulders.Anybody else have this trouble? I’d love to hear from providers and clients who might have thoughts on this. Thanks!

I was not very clear. My first meet up with a new friend is usually just for drink drinks and or dinner. Nothing more. After that, it’s easily half a day to a couple of days.  Always at my hotel. I get them their own room if it is overnight. I do stock it with snacks and drinks if they’ve told me what they like. But during the day I always have running around in my head “are they enjoying themselves, are they having a good time?” I always ask them for input into lunch and dinner and daily activities. And I enjoy doing all of that. And I do like to see them happy. But I always have a nagging thought in the back of the head, “are they enjoying themselves? What else should I be doing?” and that can sometimes interfere with my asking them For some more private things I might enjoy doing with them or to them that I’m not sure about. 

I do not hire often, but whenever I do, I always switch into “host” mode and treat my escort as a “guest”. It’s just how I was brought up! I see him as company. Of course I want to treat everyone with the respect they deserve. But it can get in the way of asking for things I might like for fear of offense. Or worse, I ask them what they would like. I still generally have a good time, it’s just always a weight on my shoulders.Anybody else have this trouble? I’d love to hear from providers and clients who might have thoughts on this. Thanks!

I do not host for a couple of reasons, one of them being that guys are not gonna be turned on when I turn into Sue Ann Nivens. 
Basic: Preset sealed water bottles in the kitchen and in bedroom. Provide a clean shower/toilet, fresh towels and mouthwash set out in the bathroom. Offer soft drinks first, but make sure you know whether they're driving, as you offer more. Set out ice and glasses in reach so hunting time is not on the clock. Fuck the coasters, just for tonight.
 

I do not hire often, but whenever I do, I always switch into “host” mode and treat my escort as a “guest”. It’s just how I was brought up! I see him as company. Of course I want to treat everyone with the respect they deserve. But it can get in the way of asking for things I might like for fear of offense. Or worse, I ask them what they would like. I still generally have a good time, it’s just always a weight on my shoulders.Anybody else have this trouble? I’d love to hear from providers and clients who might have thoughts on this. Thanks!

Great feedback everybody. Thanks!

I was not very clear. My first meet up with a new friend is usually just for drink drinks and or dinner. Nothing more. After that, it’s easily half a day to a couple of days.  Always at my hotel. I get them their own room if it is overnight. I do stock it with snacks and drinks if they’ve told me what they like. But during the day I always have running around in my head “are they enjoying themselves, are they having a good time?” I always ask them for input into lunch and dinner and daily activities. And I enjoy doing all of that. And I do like to see them happy. But I always have a nagging thought in the back of the head, “are they enjoying themselves? What else should I be doing?” and that can sometimes interfere with my asking them For some more private things I might enjoy doing with them or to them that I’m not sure about. 

I do not hire often, but whenever I do, I always switch into “host” mode and treat my escort as a “guest”. It’s just how I was brought up! I see him as company. Of course I want to treat everyone with the respect they deserve. But it can get in the way of asking for things I might like for fear of offense. Or worse, I ask them what they would like. I still generally have a good time, it’s just always a weight on my shoulders.Anybody else have this trouble? I’d love to hear from providers and clients who might have thoughts on this. Thanks!

Please, please, please - and I am saying this the nicest way I can - get over this.   
We scream inside our heads when clients ask us 'what are you into?'. To be frank -  If we were into you - you wouldn't have to pay us. 
What we really like is for you to tell us what you want. What we want is clients who are polite, kind, punctual, clean, hygienic, generous and are up front about their desires. Nothing makes us happier than making a client happy and them becoming a regular. 
This shows you are a great person, and probably a great client!  I read your second post and you really do sound like a dream client!   I can assure you, any good provider will never be offended or put out by you requesting your desires. PLEASE DO. I can almost guarantee it won't be something we have not heard before.  
If you like - please DM me and I will help you phrase how to approach it with them. 

I was not very clear. My first meet up with a new friend is usually just for drink drinks and or dinner. Nothing more. After that, it’s easily half a day to a couple of days.  Always at my hotel. I get them their own room if it is overnight. I do stock it with snacks and drinks if they’ve told me what they like. But during the day I always have running around in my head “are they enjoying themselves, are they having a good time?” I always ask them for input into lunch and dinner and daily activities. And I enjoy doing all of that. And I do like to see them happy. But I always have a nagging thought in the back of the head, “are they enjoying themselves? What else should I be doing?” and that can sometimes interfere with my asking them For some more private things I might enjoy doing with them or to them that I’m not sure about. 

Great feedback everybody. Thanks!

@BCMan thank you for that follow up.
Working in reverse, do not be shy about asking for what you want. I want to believe that most of these guys are pros and they have heard it all before. When I struggled once to ask for what I wanted my provider said to me, “Michael - a closed mouth does not get fed.” Solved that problem. And it gave me a great deal of confidence to ask for what I want. From him and from others. 
Moving on, you provided your provider with a comfortable, clean hotel room and stocked it with drinks & snacks. I feel safe in saying that - most likely - they ARE enjoying themselves. Don’t worry about it - and don’t feel like you have to do more. From my own life I can tell you that I spent years making “grand gestures” only to discover that it was the smaller ones that meant the most to the recipient. You are kind to consider your provider’s preferences and tastes when choosing restaurants, but do not lose sight that the provider wants YOU to be happy, also. (Case in point - I was once accompanied by a vegetarian to a steakhouse.)
I think you’re a very kind person to be so gracious concerning your provider’s needs and wants. I hope your providers take care of you as well as you care for them. 

You are not alone. I always make sure there are some refreshments available, and ask what they like in addition to telling them what I want in bed. I do want them to enjoy themselves as much as possible, even if they are the provider. It might make it easier to act like their into it when they aren't  ;).
I also sent a provider some information about attractions and restaurants in a town we were visiting so he could give some input and maybe look forward to something he wanted to do. I think its just part of being human to be kind to people you are spending time with, even if they are being paid to be nice to you.