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I respect your take. For me, it’s the opposite. If the other person doesn’t finish, it feels like a performance, or just reinforces that this is a paid encounter. I know this topic has come up before, so I’m not trying to rehash old debates in a new thread. At its most basic, primal level, when I hire, it’s when I’m single and part of what I want is to see and feel another man climax. I miss it. That’s what makes the experience feel authentic and meaningful for me.

A topic near and dear to my heart. LOL I love a daddy, though some days I feel more like a granddaddy myself. 😂 Why providers list it, I can’t say. For me, whether as a client or in my personal life, a daddy is a mix of both. Sure, the physical presence is appealing, but what really resonates is the behavior: that grounded blend of authority, steadiness, and care. Age can play a role, but for me it’s more about the energy someone brings into the dynamic.

Why? I believe there are psychological and fantasy-driven elements as to why some clients seek out “straight” providers. 
There’s a perception (whether accurate or not) that straight men embody a more traditional, unfiltered masculinity. Some clients may see that as more attractive or dominant.
There’s the taboo factor. The idea of “turning” a straight guy, or at least being desirable enough to make him cross a boundary, is a common fantasy. It plays into power dynamics and the thrill of the forbidden.
There’s the ego boost and validation. Some clients may feel more validated if they can attract or seduce a straight man, as if it confirms their own desirability.
I would surmise that for some clients, straight providers may bring a different vibe compared to openly gay providers, sometimes less performative or more detached, which can be appealing to certain clients. (Though I’ve had a few “gay” providers that were equally detached.)
Clients who seek out straight providers may also do so to prevent any potential for emotional connection. 

Why? I believe there are psychological and fantasy-driven elements as to why some clients seek out “straight” providers. 
There’s a perception (whether accurate or not) that straight men embody a more traditional, unfiltered masculinity. Some clients may see that as more attractive or dominant.
There’s the taboo factor. The idea of “turning” a straight guy, or at least being desirable enough to make him cross a boundary, is a common fantasy. It plays into power dynamics and the thrill of the forbidden.
There’s the ego boost and validation. Some clients may feel more validated if they can attract or seduce a straight man, as if it confirms their own desirability.
I would surmise that for some clients, straight providers may bring a different vibe compared to openly gay providers, sometimes less performative or more detached, which can be appealing to certain clients. (Though I’ve had a few “gay” providers that were equally detached.)
Clients who seek out straight providers may also do so to prevent any potential for emotional connection. 

There’s a lot to unpack here, but the core issue seems to be the idea that being attracted to “straight” men is somehow more natural or universal among gay men than being attracted to other gay men. That’s simply not true. Yes, many gay men have had crushes on unattainable straight guys growing up, but that’s often because we lacked representation and safe spaces to explore our desires. That doesn’t mean all of us fetishize straightness into adulthood or see it as an ideal.
The real issue with “straight guy” fetishization isn’t about individual preference—people are attracted to different things, and that’s perfectly fine—but about the way it can reinforce internalized homophobia. Elevating straightness as the ultimate form of masculinity suggests that being openly gay makes someone less desirable, which is a toxic mindset rooted in shame. It also plays into a broader cultural problem where queer men are often expected to diminish or hide parts of themselves to be seen as attractive.
As for the escort argument, marketing is about selling a fantasy, and “straight” sells because of lingering stigmas about gayness, not because it’s some universal truth about attraction. The idea that most gay men prefer “straight” men is a broad generalization that erases the many men who love and desire other gay men without apology.
At the end of the day, everyone is entitled to their preferences, but it’s worth asking—do those preferences come from an authentic place, or are they shaped by cultural bias and internalized messaging?

I hear you, and I’m not saying your attraction isn’t real or valid—people are drawn to what they’re drawn to. But I think it’s worth examining why masculinity is often seen as more “authentic” in straight men versus gay men. Masculinity isn’t something that only straight men inherently possess, nor is it something that gay men have to perform or belong to as part of a “subculture.” There are plenty of gay men who are naturally masculine without it being a “show.”
I think the bigger issue is how society conditions us to view certain traits as more desirable when they’re associated with straightness. But at the end of the day, attraction is personal, and as long as it’s not rooted in shame or invalidating others, people are free to have their preferences. I just think it’s important to question where those preferences come from sometimes.

You’re right, it shouldn’t be an issue. I mentioned it because of the earlier photo drama. Personally, you don’t need to do that. Wishing you nothing but the best. ❤️

First of all, confidence is everything. And that’s hard if you’ve just met the person. Being in the moment and authentic makes your words hit harder. Let it feel natural—if it sounds forced or out of character, then in my opinion, don’t do it; it could kill the mood.
Start by focusing on the carnal—what you’re feeling, seeing, and wanting in the moment. Talk about HIM and what he’s doing: “I love the way your tongue feels on my cock.” “You look so fucking good down there.” “I’ve been wanting this all day.” 
Be direct about what you want to see and feel: “Look at me when you suck my dick.” And the moment he takes his eyes off you…“Keep looking at me—I want to see those beautiful eyes.”
“I want your lips all over me—don’t stop.”
Narrate the moment to amplify the heat: “You’re driving me insane.” “Fuck, I love how hungry you are for me.” “That mouth is so perfect. YOU are so perfect.”
Pay attention to how he reacts. If he’s into it, double down. If he seems shy, keep it encouraging but firm—confidence is contagious. 
Your tone of voice matters just as much as the words—use a low, firm whisper to command his attention, or let your voice grow rougher and more urgent to match the intensity of the moment.
Above all, match your tone to the energy: primal, dominant, or playful. Make him feel desired and seen. When you’re fully present, every word lands harder.
I hope this helps. Good luck, Daddy!

Wow. I have… no words.
Actually, just one: sorry.
Reading this felt like a horror movie. 
I’m the extreme opposite. I am legitimately OCD about hygiene. Think Jack Nicholson in As Good As It Gets. I’m so thoroughly scrubbed you wouldn’t find a fingerprint on me, including my own. Even my fingernails are manicured specifically so I don’t accidentally exfoliate someone’s anal canal while fingering them.

It really started with Professor Plum, in the bathroom, with the toothbrush…

It really started with Professor Plum, in the bathroom, with the toothbrush…

It really started with Professor Plum, in the bathroom, with the toothbrush…

I wouldn’t say “dirty.” I’d say, “It looks like the crime scene from a Law & Order episode they never aired because it was too upsetting.”

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