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https://goldenglobes.com The Golden Globe nominations are out. What did you think? Snubs? Surprises? My surprise? Hugh Grant snagged a nod for Best Actor… in a Musical or Comedy for Heretic, a psychological horror thriller where he plays a deranged madman who kidnaps and tortures two Mormon missionaries. Because nothing says “musical or comedy” like religious fanaticism, torture, and murder!

What a wasted life. Sad all around.

Keeping emotional boundaries is important for providers, I completely agree, especially when intimacy is involved. And for clients!! That said, as I mentioned, assuming personal boundaries weren’t crossed, if maintaining boundaries was the provider’s primary concern, it seems there could have been a more direct or professional way to handle it rather than pulling away or being subtle about it. Clear communication would benefit both parties—allowing him to maintain professionalism while still valuing the trust and consistency of a regular client. Subtlety tends to lose its power in situations like this—especially when there’s already been a level of intimacy involved. The act itself removes a layer of pretense, making subtle signals far less likely to land as intended.

As a man also up there in years, I understand where you’re coming from. But my advice would be: don’t make that assumption or decision for the provider. Even when I was younger, I couldn’t really know if a provider was genuinely attracted to me—and honestly, that was never something I could control then or now. Is my body the same as when I was 25? No. But I’ve learned it’s not about trying to get inside the provider’s head. That’s not something I need to question. At the end of the day, this is a business transaction. Let the provider decide how they feel about you, and I can say with certainty that for true professionals, it comes down to respect, decency, kindness, and hygiene. Focus on what you bring to the connection and the moments you share together.

Hands gripped on the sofa… the backwards baseball cap… yeah, he’s gonna feel it. 😍

Assuming personal boundaries weren’t being crossed, from a purely business standpoint, it doesn’t make much sense to me why a provider would push away a known, steady regular — especially after a vacation trip where he was paid even more. For the sake of argument, if his goal as you say was simply to secure a trip, you’d think he’d want to maintain or even strengthen the connection in hopes of getting more trips or consistent work. One thing to consider — and this is important for you — is whether you can truly move past this if you continue seeing him. If this situation is going to gnaw at you during sessions, especially when being intimate, you need to address it now. Otherwise, you’re spending money on an experience you won’t fully enjoy. Consider sending him that message (or a variation thereof). It allows you to gauge his response without making things awkward or jeopardizing future encounters. If what you really want is closure, then feel free to say what’s in your heart. Just keep in mind that’s a hard, if not impossible, road to come back from if you later decide you want to continue a professional relationship. Ultimately, the choice you need to make is whether you want to preserve that connection or express your hurt and disappointment at the risk of burning the bridge.

Eyes meet… that smile with the tongue… 😍

Age should not be a barrier to having a fulfilling sexual experience, especially with an escort. If it feels like it is, you haven’t found the right escort. They are out there.

Agreed. And I have enjoyed him 😊

There’s so much to love here—a true feast for the eyes. From his round, sculpted ass resting naturally against the chair, the curve of his crack leading to his dangling nut sack, to the beauty of his cock, the soft hairs on the inside of his legs, and his chiseled abs complemented by his rugged, hairy pitts...

You’re seen, you’re appreciated, and you’re making a difference. Sending love and strength your way ❤️.

I think he has one in his private gallery. He does have a job outside of this. Discretion is key, which I also greatly value and appreciate with him.

Based on your prerequisites, off the top of my head, I think Dave could be a good fit. I really enjoyed my time with him. https://rent.men/DaveXLNYC Another option to consider is Wagner, whom you’ve already met and have an established relationship and rapport with. Perhaps all it takes is asking, and he might be up for it. However, a caveat—if you don’t want to blur the boundaries of your relationship with your masseur, it’s worth reconsidering.

Your story is deeply personal, and it’s great to hear that this has positively impacted your mental health. However, if you’re still in a relationship and also seeing a provider regularly, it’s worth considering whether you’ve discussed this with your partner. Depending on the safety choices you make with escorts versus your partner (ie, condoms, raw, etc.), they have the right to know and make an informed decision for themselves. Open communication can also give them the opportunity to explore their own needs—whether with an escort or in other ways—to support their own well-being. Transparency and honesty can foster trust and a deeper connection in any partnership.

You’re not weird at all! I think it’s beautiful—it’s a form of self-expression that can be incredibly fulfilling. I’m not a psychiatrist, but I’ve been told that the desire to maintain control in sexual situations can often stem from past experiences where a person felt a lack of agency or power. In these cases, expressing control within a safe and consensual dynamic can provide a sense of empowerment and confidence. The preference for scenarios like undressing or having a partner undressed might reflect themes of vulnerability and intimacy. Being undressed can evoke a sense of emotional exposure, while the one who remains clothed holds a certain power in the dynamic, creating an arousing contrast. These power dynamics allow individuals to explore trust, connection, and emotional depth in a controlled way, where vulnerability becomes a form of strength. Ultimately, these desires are a way to engage with both emotional and physical intimacy, creating a fulfilling, meaningful experience that goes beyond mere physical attraction.

Oh, you bring up a very good point. One of the reasons I prefer a provider to arrive fresh and clean is because I don’t want to smell the session before me. And believe me, I can definitely tell when that happens! It’s occurred more times than I’d like, and it really turns me off.

Yes, it’s that easy. With tipsy guests around, you’ll be handing out your number. A lot. Looks like you’ll have a busy January ahead!

I also find it such a turn-on when a guy’s just wearing sneakers while we’re in bed. There’s something incredibly sexy about him standing at the edge of the bed, fully in control, using those sneakers to brace his weight and get a good grip as he’s going all in.

I feel the same way about paying for a provider’s Uber or Lyft—just factor it into your fee. Don’t tell me. I don’t want to use my personal account to arrange transportation to/from or know where you live. That’s none of my business. Many first-time providers only offer outcalls, so you end up covering the cost of the hotel and their transportation (in addition to their fee).

For me, I only engage in role play scenarios with regulars—someone I’ve been with before and with whom I’ve built a level of trust in the bedroom. I think any kind of role play requires a certain amount of trust to really work. The best role plays are the ones that let both people get creative and fully lose themselves in the story. Some of my favorites include professor/student, boss/assistant, a private tutor session where things get… educational; a summer fling; or even an end-of-the-world scenario.

This is a very individualized niche and really depends on the guy and the specific scent someone finds appealing. That sour musk can be a major turn-off for some but an undeniable turn-on for others. It’s important to find a provider who truly understands this and can deliver accordingly. Personally, I’m all about being soap-and-water clean when I’m with someone. I’m not a fan of a provider showing up ripe from the gym or going a day or two without showering—it’s a turn-off for me. That said, I actually love when I’m the reason a man works up a sweat. I find it incredibly sexy and a huge turn-on when my top is sweating because he’s really plowing into me. Feeling the glisten of sweat on his back and ass, as I run my hands up and down, or wiping sweat off his brow while he looks at me—it’s just so intensely arousing and satisfying.

Very true.

Standing Room would be better at the St. James if it meant not having to sit down.

To answer Ali’s question flipped around, I’m not a therapist or doctor, but if I were with a regular provider who seemed off, I would gently inquire. And if there was a problem, I would offer to help. I once helped a regular provider with a legal matter.