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I tried him out today. His advertised rate is for a therapeutic massage, but his upcharge for sensual or erotic is very small.

I give him a B+ for the massage, and a B+ for the sensual elements. I will probably repeat, but I'm in no hurry to do so.

I know of brothels in...

Sydney: http://www.knightcall.com.au/escorts (seems to be temporarily closed, except for outcalls)

Amsterdam: https://www.boysclub21.nl/home-eng.html

London: http://villagiani.uk, discussed in this thread

If they include a link to a website in their profile, or in a private message, they can be reported and banned. By directing you to their instagram account, it is more difficult to get banned. In my experience, all these guys will be trying to scam you for a "small deposit" to get your credit card information.

Although I'm not in favor of reporting legitimate escorts and masseurs to get them banned, I aggressively report these scammers. If you tell them that you don't have an instagram account, they'll usually provide a direct link to the scam website. Then, you can report them and get them banned. I do this hoping to prevent them from victimizing a more naive user, and in hopes that if they get banned enough, this scam won't be worth their effort and they'll stop.

Is this what as known as a "nuru" massage? I've never gotten a really good explanation of that term.

A biggie that gets overlooked - DON"T BE EARLY!!

When I arrive early (often 10-15 minutes), I usually text the provider something like "Parking was easier than I expected, and I'm nearby. Text me when you're ready... no rush."

Is this appropriate, or am I still guilty of a social faux pas?

Exactly. The site apparently hosts multiple masseurs and you can’t get past their home screen and generic “about us” information without registering and paying the booking fee. You can’t even browse the masseurs until you book.

I doubt very much that there is anything more to see. There are probably no masseurs to browse, and once you've handed over your credit card information, I doubt there is anything there.

This is the latest scam on Grindr. I've seen this literally dozens of times already.

I suspect the goal is to gather your credit card information which will probably be charged much more than $3 eventually.

The websites they link to change a lot, but they never seem offer specific information about the masseur, especially not their location or phone number.

...you gave me a chuckle when you claimed that Apple doesn't have such conflicting business interests? App store? Music/video purchases? Accessories purchases? Device purchases?

I've seen no reports (or evidence) that Apple actually uses your personal info that way. I think that music that you listen to influences the music that they suggest, but I feel like that is fair game. One of Apple's key marketing strategies revolves around the protection of your privacy and security. I acknowledge that there is a certain risk that is just a big lie, but I think this idea is dangerously close to a conspiracy theory.

I think this is mostly alarmist click-bait. Sound is not transmitted from your device until you say the "Hey Siri" and then, during that time, there is clear visual feedback that Siri is listening. Sometimes Siri is activated by accident, when your device hears something that sounds almost like "Hey Siri." These are the times that Apple employees, like the one in the article, have mentioned hearing private conversations.

Siri requests are anonymized so that (supposedly) they can't be linked back to your or your personally identifiable information.

To me, Google and Amazon devices are of more concern. Google collects as much information about you as it can to target ads to you and Amazon collects information to sell you stuff. Apple doesn't have these conflicting business interests.

I look at this question a little differently...

I think that it's always difficult to discern from ads on the massage sites whether a masseur is really serious about massage or just an "Escort Lite." In my experience, if the masseur is serious, they will offer a table and if they're all about the extras, they'll do it on a bed.

I contacted him a few years ago when he first started advertising. At the time, he seemed quite full of himself, and requested that I send photos so that he could tell me my rate... apparently the rate varied depending on how hot you were. Needles to say, I passed. His ad seems much more professional now.

will you share your reasons?

I'm concerned about the crossing the line and getting too close to a review, but the massage was nothing to write home about, and "extras" weren't enough to make up for that. I was out of there within 45 minutes.

He's for real, but I wouldn't repeat.

I've had a massage from him at his professional studio in Mission Valley. It was strictly legit, and pretty good. I was a bit disappointed that it didn't go further, but I think that if you contact him for massage, that's all you'll get.

I've seen him advertise on rentmen, so I think he's available for more and into heavy kink. He also pops up my grindr all the time, and I've seen him out and about. He seems to be putting on weight quickly, so if that's an issue for you, be aware of it.

I recommend.

I think it's a little bit creepy to reach out to someone who has just looked at your ad. I look at a lot of ads, but that doesn't mean I contact most of them.

Maybe it's just me, but if you reach out to me this way, you might get feedback that is more honest and less polite than you want. I might tell you exactly why I didn't respond to the ad, and it might not be flattering.

So, I surmise that it doesn’t work with Safari and most reviewers don’t leave text. Would those be correct?

A VPN will work with Safari, but if you start your browsing session before activating your VPN, Rentmen may only recognize your original location and therefore show you the USA version without reviews. You can probably get around this by using a "private browsing" window (File > New Private Window) after turning on your VPN.

Here's a suggestion:

Bring along you cpap/bipap/apap (whatever) and rather than "having a talk" about what it is, just say "oh, by the way, I'm a loud snorer, but I don't want to keep you awake, so I brought along my cpap machine, which shuts me up. Just give me a nudge if my snoring bothers you, and I'll put it on."

This turns everything around and casts your cpap as something that you do out of consideration for him. It also downplays the medical importance of it, and opens up an opportunity for a conversation about it if he wants to go there.

In London, escorts put diamond emojis on their profile.

I'm never sure whether that is a diamond indicating an escort, or a crystal indicating drugs.

I don't think you're going to get a useful answer to this question.

Clients, especially those who value "discretion," would like to believe that providers don't keep any records, and there is no "little black book," digital or otherwise.

Some providers probably keep records with varying levels of detail about their clients. It's totally understandable that they would like to remember which clients to avoid, and it would be a good business practice to keep track of clients' likes and dislikes, and even personal details so they can easily make repeat clients feel valued.

Keeping these records is a good business practice. Disclosing that you do is not.

It seems that his ad has changed to use different stolen pics. Now Cory Kane.

Absolutely when traveling to Brazil do not let anyone online know until you are safely home.

I don't think I understand what you're saying here.

I gave him a try. Not great, not terrible. I won't repeat.

I'm among those who had some excellent experiences with him and also found him extremely unreliable. Then, the last time, I made an appointment and showed up at his place. When I walked in, he recognized me and said "Oh, I can't do it. I have a boyfriend now." He showed me the door and explained that he was accepting new clients for purely therapeutic massages only. He wouldn't see anyone that he had previously had more "fun" with.

I'm not surprised that he's gone radio silent.

I was there last Thursday evening. The first two dancers started at 7pm, and it's my understanding that more were coming at 9pm. I wasn't there long enough to find out.

It's still a work in progress, but I think it has promise.