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Ironically, that situation only scratches the surface to a separate situation that occurred in the last week, but that’s another topic for another thread 🥸

Oh Sam….Sam, Sam, Sam…those are the words of MY youth! 🤣🤣 Welcome to the 80’s

My weekend companion is 42. He knows them all

Me Too!

My weekend encounter in New Orleans was with a long time - younger - friend (our first following a mutual “coming out”) At Oz last night, he said something about “Ohio Skibidi Toilet” and I had to look this one up! Other terms learned in my encounters with 20 somethings this week: - heard = I understand you - word = I agree - dipped = Left Abruptly What are some of the other words/phrases you hear??

A lot has been said here. On either side, families are complications to planning. Some grace is warranted. In the end, it’s more relevant how either party responds to the situation and how that might affect future encounters

Yeah, I had this happen with two Chicago guys several weeks ago. The mistake I made was asking Guy 1 for a blessing to see Guy 2 which he took as asking for permission. He was instantly offended and said he wanted to think about it. After two weeks of silence, I approached Guy 2 directly, explaining the back story. Ultimately Guy 1 gave permission and we planned a weekend trip. During the trip, Guy 2 suggested that Guy 1 was furious with me. So I tried to clear the air reaching out to Guy 1. He replied with the most histrionic, gaslighting, accusing tirade by text that one could imagine. There’s a much longer story here - and I’ve subsequently learned some things about Guy 1 - but it’s a shame - Guy 2 is a prince (and better than Guy 1 in so many levels) But I will not do anything more to come between or create conflict for them. Guy 2 will have to figure out the unhealthy relationship dynamic on his own. But to avoid making issues for him, I’ve been silent since the tirade and moved on and had outstanding encounters with new guys. Ironically, I have reason to believe that Guy 1 moved to poison my well with some other guys - but that’s on him.

I understand. And to be clear, I continually assert that every party in these encounters warrants respect and should be respectable to each other. What you’ve described is an occupational hazard that IMO can be managed but not eliminated.

How? Usually face down and ass up?

Not all ads are clear and articulate. And many are static. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve responded to one - in the manner instructed - only to find out that the provider “really didn’t mean it” or “wasn’t on top of maintaining the ad” So, the criticism cuts both ways. Now, as to calling a potential client an idiot, it might just be better to block them to try and connect dots that make no sense. If they really are an idiot, do you really want to meet?

Sounds like you need to try sniffies on the gulf coast where I live 🤣

New Orleans (my closest market) is a magnet for hustlers and meth heads. Couple that with preferring twink profiles and pickings are thin (except for a couple of exceptions like FTM AngelaGabe) unless there’s an occasional traveler. So, I import talent for weekends there or go to them. So, I use filters extensively

Gentlemen, I do not get into specifics on the public forum since chemistry is important to each individual experience…plus all my engagements are weekends or longer so I have to be very picky. PM me if you have specific questions This has been a year for me of narrowing down to the best matches for me. My three primary criteria are 1) maturity - Sam is smooth like a younger version of James Bond 2) education - Sam is educated as an engineer and an absolute pleasure to spend time with and talk to 3) sober - Sam has no addictions and seems grounded in every way After those things, the other important things can flourish. He is kind, affectionate, chill, sexy as hell (that man meat in his pics is 100% legit and his face and eyes are beautiful), and takes BFE to another level. We have at least two trips scheduled in the first half of the year including a week long trip to the Virgin Islands with CuteBlondeBoy, and an exploration of Austin (I’ve never been because who needs to visit a knock off of Nashville 😅🤣 EXCEPT to see Sam) in January. Sam is a keeper and among a short list that I’m focusing on in 2026.

Merry Christmas, Company of Men We came for growth, stayed for the laughs, Shared a little truth and slapped a few backs. Awkward moments, courage shown, Real men learning we’re not alone. Here’s to showing up just as we are See you next year, same hearts, same scars.

I’m a big fan!