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About a year and 6 months.

Definitely not 50! Because by the time I sent all those 50 messages, even if 1/2 of them responded...someone would get flaked out on. Not seeing 25 guys in a week let alone 4 days. Good God, no. But no, I’ve never had one contact a month later saying they didn’t get my text. That would be weird, because obviously they got it if they replied out the blue. Or maybe not. Who knows. I’ll send out messages though, but I don’t keep everyone’s contact. Although I missed reaching one in Pittsburgh back in May. He told me I should have hit him up, but he’s discreet and didn’t think he’d want to meet locally. So, I’m trying to get back to keeping touch with my contacts...but it would have to be previously met clients, not just guys who text me asking, “Are you in...(insert every city you could possibly advertise in, then multiple it by 5,000 text messages)

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I just want to say a word about flakes since we’re on the topic: Flakes are definitely everywhere in 2018 porn/app driven gay American culture. But what distinguishes a city is when they come in droves and there’s not real ones to take their place. 5 flakes in a row and 1 client: not good. 3 clients in a row and 1 flake: thats okay. Similar to Boston, Miami and most of Florida can be flake central, but I’m getting around it strategically. Grindr in Florida is extreme flake central. And we’re not even talking business here. Just basic meet and greet (or fuck). Mofos here are SICK with it. Which is why I don’t even go on dates in Orlando anymore, I deal with them here on a biz oriented manner only. I think what makes flakes so pronounced for traveling escorts, is that they don’t get the proper break in period to weed out the flakes when just visiting for say, 2-4 days. That’s probably why we still see guys around in cities which are usually touted for being flaky...they’ve been around to recognize who’s who. They’ve developed the antibodies to the BS. They also get that exposure over an extended period of time, versus just when they’re in town. So many factors can be at play which can make it challenging for traveling guys. Not saying that’s the case always either. Some cities are good for traveling through, other cities you’re not going to be doing very well after your first 6-12 months (Nashville comes to mind).

True. I can’t really base prior travels with today. So many cities have changed market wise. Places I used to pass up are busy, and I don’t always find myself rushing to places that used to be busy. My reasons for having not gone back were more due to the logistics of traveling there, than whether it was good for work or not. When I went in 2009, I was getting 3-4 star hotels downtown for around $70. Each time I considered planning a trip, they were 3, 4, 5, even 6X that amount. And staying out in Farmington or Worcester just wouldn’t work for where most the calls were coming from. Seattle was the same. I went once, but for whatever reason a second trip just didn’t happen. At some point I’ll be looking to make some reunions with cities I’ve not been to in awhile. Taking a break from travel right now. Edit: Framingham

I recently put some feeler ads out in Boston. Not because I was planning to go there again, but in case anyone up that way was coming down to Florida. You pretty much summed it up. I can’t add much else. But, I think Boston might of shit the bed way back when that one woman was killed in a Boston hotel. The alledged killer later killed himself: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philip_Markoff That said, my experience in Boston was bittersweet. I met a former forum member for dinner, had a photo shoot and then had 3 clients in 24 hours on the weekend of 4th of July, 2009. However...I was there for a week straight and dealt with ALOT of flakes. Characteristic and typical of many rust belt locations such as Ohio, Chicago and Indianapolis. I consider Boston to be like Seattle. 2 cities on furthest ends of the coast, very different and unique set of people, expensive hotels, business that doesn’t meet expectations, and just overall never made a second or third working trip to. Not that the cities aren’t beautiful and interesting, but trying to be a visiting sex worker can be quite a challenge. I get the vibe that some cities like Boston just don’t appreciate visiting sex workers. To them it’s a game of pogs or monopoly, not a serious enterprise. I’ve also met people from Boston elsewhere, and even though they CAN be nice, many choose to maintain the hotheaded Irish label (e.g. think the American version of CONOR MCGREGOR) So, if you didn’t meet enough clients in Boston...count your blessings.

The missing link that negates all of that is: risk group. Whenever clinics hear “MSM”, they’re generally going to be more inclined to treat things beyond the scope of the “vast majority”. 2 things I do less of nowadays: rim and crowded community pools. Although last month I played volleyball in a community “luxury apartment” pool that had about 50+ some people out there.

That's why people can't bet their health on just 1 pill. When people tell me they are negative and on prep, it's like and? I have an asthma inhaler, but that doesn't mean I'm going to be fine with you blowing cigarette smoke in my face.

It's so common in the community. That's why nowadays I'm not as eager to go to gay bars and such like when I was in my early 20s. I'll have my mood once or twice a month that I want to go out and be all fake and phony with the fakes and phonies, but then after that I like to get back to dealing with genuine people. You could meet seemingly perfectly good people, and then it turns out they're doing coca or meth. And if you're not doing the stuff they're doing, they don't give time of day. Do you ParTy?

I'm kinda focusing locally considering we've gotten like 200% over of our rainfall totals and warming doesn't seem to be slowing up:

Unbelievable. But typical. The privileged one usually gets away with murder. If the tables were turned...there would have been an entire racket of charges from possession to prosititution to murder. But that's something a lot of people who like to claim "playing the victim" will never understand. To them, it's all about being a "victim". They don't understand the on-going system of disenfranchisement that continues to exist in a residual form, from hundreds of years of oppression. That's why ya can't trust some of these doping mother foers. Clients who associate around drugs are HIGH RISK and best to be avoided or dealt with briefly. But considering this person took advantage of people off the streets, it's understandable how one wouldn't know the risks involved. I had a client locally who bless his heart he's a fun guy, but encouraged me to get high (on the T tree) with him. HELL MFing NO! I don't trust you or the drug you're taking. Why the F I would need to take something with him is unnecessary. There's also some gay guys who can't even enjoy to HAVE SEX WITHOUT BEING HIGH ON SOME HEAVY DRUG. So what does that say? It's a bunch of BS is what it is. At the same time, I've (unintended) been in such sessions, and probably the only way this guy got off, is the fact that these type of things are usually consensual. You really can't force someone to shoot up. Even though someone can pursuade you to do it, whether it be a gay guy at a bar, a friend or a client...ultimately it's up to the person to have the will to decline it.

Mos Def...it's a quickly evolving market so new strategies always come in handy. That said, seems like an update of my photos from a new photo set was all that was needed to boost my local area demand. Definitely is looking set to be improving going forward! At the same time, photo shoots can be mentally exhausting and time consuming, not to mention the differing personalities involved when working with a new photographer. I prefer to only do them 1 to 2 times per year. But when it's good, it's worth the stress lol. To me, a new photo shoot is like Drake, Adele or Beyoncé dropping a new album!

Actually no, my ad is still up...Paid for theu Novembe. But I forget slight changes in screenname changes the entire link.

And there’s also a4a and various hookup apps that clients may want to chat on as well...but I wouldn’t offer 101 ways to communicate, just pick your 3 and optimize communication for those. I’m the opposite. I used to talk on the phone for HOURS, and I still miss the days when people actually did spend time talking on the phone. My new beau is Latin but has some southern black swag so he doesn’t mind talking on the phone, but I always find guys I date (not speaking of clients here) who don’t talk on the phone, or get off real quick are usually only about fucking. “We would sit and talk for hours about anything, baby you hang up, no you hang up, on 3 hangup -Tyrese” But now I get that times are different now. Most people don’t have the capacity to sit on the phone for hours. And it’s certainly not something I’d do before meeting a client for the first time. I also like to be prepared with a text or email first, but sometimes I’ll just go ahead and answer. In the past week, I’ve had 2 clients call me straight up, and they turned out to be superb. Whereas, I’ve got 150,000,000,000,000 texts from people...some of who see my ad and have BARE MINIMUM in it that warrants me a response. It’s almost like they didn’t even read my ad. They just saw pictures, seen a number, and assumed I was available. I also have a thing where if someone texts me, they must provide name, age, stats. It just boggles my mind why some people feel it’s appropiate to just text someone out the blue, ask them to come over or they come over...and not have an inking of who they are, whether they’re even male or female, 20 years old or 60 years old. Just nothing. Some don’t bother responding, but I say if it’s an issue...just call. I can usually grasp who I’m talking to by voice alone.

So how do you direct the conversation when they text, if you don’t mind? For awhile I disabled email from rentmen all together. We have the option to accept email, only from registered users, or not at all. I only accept emails from registered users because I’ve had BS MOFOS contact me by email, and it’s usually when I allow non-registered users to email me, which I’ll never do again. However, I understand it’s all about compromise. I’ve gone ahead and opened up email, and I even don’t mind texting. Especially now that rates aren’t up anywhere now. But so I don’t waste time, I already have my first 2-3 emails/text automatically answered to both weed out idiots, and help encourage serious clients to save precious time. Works it well.

Understand also that, an escort also has the right to refuse a client if their number cannot be screened to verify. Something I may be doing myself in the near future. Unless it’s a verified client, for now on I will not be taking anymore google voice/non-verified phone number so out of town unless a deposit is made upfront. I had a sheisty MOFO fraud me out of a Paypal transaction the other month. He used a google voice number to contact me, but used his real number for the transaction. And it was two weeks after the actual transaction, which caused my account to get messed up because I don’t usually keep money lying around in PayPal. I ain’t mad though. What I wanted to do to him, could never measure to what’s waiting for him. And the coward couldn’t even have a conversation with me, and then got nasty and threatened me...calling me a “sex worker” and saying he’s hired an attorney. Despite him being 1,000 miles away and me having all evidence that he committed charge back fraud. Like Toni Braxton says on her latest CD, “Fuck outta here”. I’ve also had clients no show, or do other weird, suspect things...and then turns out they’re calling and playing games from a google voice phone. If we don’t want google voice to crackdown, people need to use it properly. Google voice wasn’t made so people can fraud/harass others and avoid detection. Not saying you’re doing that, but some are. “They tried it”.

To add what you’re saying, I want to clarify that I’m not opposed to networking or referrals by any means. But it has to come from the right place. Can’t be a 1 way street. They have to be wanting to refer and network as much as me. Not just in it to get free information. Matter of fact, years ago I even referred a client to an escort on the forum...but the escort turned it down for whatever reason. But it was for a 3 way scene. Other time’s I’ve met or played along with other providers in an arranged manner and it turned out great.

My latest best client turned out to be from India. So either @FTM Zachary Prince referred me to someone. Or its true that there's something to be said about the fact that despite majority of our clients are "American", we can't underestimate the fact that most gay Americans just aren't supporting the bulk of the escort business. That's true. I had a client from a fairly mid sized Midwestern city south and west of Chicago, hire me the other week in Orlando while visiting a convention hotel. I asked if he would ever see me when I pass thru sometime. It was pretty much a no, not because the D wasnt good, but because he's partnered and it's a small market. Which stands to reason why some escorts like have stated that town hadnt been a good place to travel. Ive been traveling for quite some time, and I'd think I have a pretty good idea of the "circuit". But to be clear, Chicago Columbus and Cincinatti are all 900+ miles from me. I may need to double check that I've updated my location, because I'm in Florida aka, "the bottom". the places nearby to travel to are all within Florida. And Florida has the same overall demographic throughout: White, Black and Latinos in a weird gumbo like melting pot. Some get along, others stick within their own, the rest are the R word on the DL....and being an ethnic gay male escort out here, there's intolerance and indifference all around. But there's also more acceptance than many other states to a degree, because of the differences and exposure. Florida is like NYC, just spread out over long distances. In a place like SLC where @VictorPowers lives, that's easy. It's an ALL American city, and anyone not white is exotic. Very easy. I don't have to do much to turn heads and make a presence. In Florida, you can look good but there's still 1,000 other good looking people, who are probably the same race. The other issue is, not all nearby cities have the potential to be worth travel to. I used to advertise in Cincinatti all the time, and it was never somewhere to stay for more than a day. Ditto with Columbus. Ditto with Chicago. I was working that region remotely from Milwaukee and had made 3 trips thru the area over a 2 week period. Didn't get shit but a whole bunch of traffic and tire kickers. But my friends did take me to a baseball game and some good food in oak park. And free sex is readily available in Chicago if you end up not getting any business. But the reality is, there's simply some cities where a certain escort type just won't do good in. And in my experience, BBC's (big black cities) generally don't for me. Atlanta, Chicago, and even DC can fall into that category sometimes. It's not that I can't get laid in those places, just hard to get paid to get laid because there's so much of it going around. Sometimes being "exotic", even if that only means not being White, goes a long way. But if the majority a cities population is "exotic", you've just eliminated a big player in your selling point. I am working on being more proactive in my approach though. I've gotten comfortable with waiting on people to hit me up first...which is always going to be the best results way, but now I'm stepping out to go thru my contacts and approach first.

Lol...I highly doubt it was creepy. Again, I was very professional about it and introduced myself. You seem to infer that I just came straight out and said I had seen the person. If the person is flabbergasted by being seen in public, that's his fault. He showed his face just like mine. And...it was a barbershop, not his bathroom. What if I'd seen him at the gym? It's like on Grindr. I seen a guy at Home Depot one day, and he hit me up. I was shocked because I wanted to talk to him at Home Depot, but he had a girl with him. Atleast I had tack to introduce myself privately versus right there at the moment. Like I said, your approach sounds good, but not everyone operates that way. I've reached out to eacorts in the past in the way you've mentioned, and they've either flaked or played silly games. Fuck that. I rather work on my own and deal with men who aren't in the business. That's been my lesson since I turned 30 last year, going on 31 in two weeks. I no longer care to seek out escort friends beyond the forum and Twitter. Too much jealousy and competition involved. If it happens great, but for me...I've come across very few male escorts (in person, not referring to anyone I've met on the forum...but then again, I might) who are consistent in their intentions. I almost consider the escort business to be like 2 other businesses that you don't fuck with: A) the church business: preachers don't usually go around referring members to other churches. What church member walks up to the pastor and asks if there's another church or preacher can he recommend? B) barbershops. You don't get your hair cut by Michael for 6 years, and then go ask him if he can refer you to other barbers in the shop, just because you want to try something new. If you want to find a new barber, you take yo a** on to a different barbershop. **Some barbers are okay swapping clients, but it's rare and only if the barber is sick or out of town, in which case it's a 1 time only thing and best to be avoided.

Well I guess if you see a pic of a Mercedes, but when you arrive it turns out to be an Infiniti...by all means. (Not suggesting either car manufacturer would play such games with people, but...to each is own).

I used to be very into Puerto Rican’s when I was high school, but now I kind of let them come to me first if they want me. Many of the ones in central Florida can be pretentious and dismissive. I’m talking to a guy now and he’s Columbian. He is much more humble than the Puerto Rican’s I’ve come across here. Florida in general has “bias” tendencies, despite the many cultures. That’s why I believe you’ll find less in the hicks of Nebraska, than you will in the center of big cities. You hear about the examples in the news. As much as I can try to be positive and still do what I can to enjoy day by day, you have to be a strong person to deal with even the little things out here. And I’m not a 100% mentally strong person at all times and regularly come close to mental breakdowns being out here due to constantly having to encounter (whether it be calls coming from Rentmen, guys at the club, driving on the road, or standing in line at the store) inconsiderate, dismissive, impatient, entitled, phony, plastic, self-absorbed, rude, condescending, fake pretend people out here.

I’m considering that, but still not easy lol. Air bnb has exploded in many areas. And I’ve been looking at listings (the private whole home types) that are mostly booked weeks out in advance. What gets me is, I’ll see those places going for $59 a night or something. But then, it’ll only be that rate for a couple of days or for a week. Then the other nights can be double that.It’s also a bit hard to find the month to month non air bnb property. Which isn’t practical if it isn’t furnished. Personally I would not want to come back to Florida if I moved, unless I had something tying me here, like I do now. I will go out of business if I stayed here. It’s barely enough. With the exception of Orlando, in all these other Florida cities, 9 out of 10 when a client does book, it gets cancelled. I’m doubtful if the appointment I have tomorrow is even going to pan out. I really can’t see why there’s so many people advertising out here when there’s really not enough market for it here. It’s Horrendous.

I did at one point, but similar to other northern Lake states...those places can be good during the summer. But business can really hit their plateau in the winter. I also follow weather and climate in various cities, those areas get some killer temperatures for days on end. Having dealt with 100+ Arizona heat and -0 Colorado freeze, I know for a fact the cold weather is much harsher on everything, even though heat feels worse. It only feels worse because of the industrial materials all around us. Thankyou. I would probably love to live in NYC if I had the right startup for it. Unfortunately, I just don't think it's something I could put into action with the finances I currently have to work with. High cost of living is something I'm stealthily trying to avoid.

One thing I can't stand: Being in a home base location, and for whatever reason...there's not only no appointments in town, but all surrounding areas as well. That's been the case in my current market. I've been advertising in my local and nearby areas on all the sites (except massurfinder, which I'm contemplating each month), and nothing locally. Yet, I also have my ad in other cities as I'm ready to get touring ASAP. Weeks like this mess up my budget, and motivates me to just stay on the tour and avoid stagnating in one market. I'm getting requests in other cities I am advertising in, but yet can't get much out here since last week. I'm just like how is it humanly possible that I can't find a single booking client for a whole week or 2 in 3 local cities with fairly large populations and tourist influx, yet my phone is ringing off the hook in the other states I put my ad up in? If I were visiting this area, I would have left the Monday before last (after I met a lovely forum member and had the bestest Saturday night all summer), and got the hell on to the next market. But I'm forced to stay because I've been having car maintenance issues to tend to, and have to pay for new insurance/registration. All of which has me pressed for cash, which is not happening. Fortunately I've not made a permanent home in the area yet. At this rate, I have serious reservations about doing so. In the past...Florida has too many of these dead weeks. I just feel like this place has too many options. There's lots of escorts, lots of free sex, bath houses, I just don't feel anyone can realistically get a steady hold on business here. It's fun, and yes there's tons of hot guys everytime you turn your head. But that's not always good when it comes to relationships and trying to sell "product". Then, the rates are all over the place. The tourists are willing to pay more, but most of the locals don't like to pay jack SHIT. There's also a lot more Puerto Ricans here since the hurricane, and even though my dream man used to be a Puerto Rican guy, when it comes to sex, they don't like to pay for diddly squat either...And it's discouraging knowing that there's an entire ethnicity of people here who, generally won't use my service. It's like an intermittent hell here. Some weeks business is okay, other days no matter what I do, nobody comes through. I'm thinking about moving to a smaller western town where I can actually stand out, and keep a regular flow of clients. I just fantasize a western where I am like the town "provider", versus competing with dozens of guys of all backgrounds, where the clients are quick to drop you for the next piece of penis. This here is horrendous.