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Brysen from SeanCody.

You may be reading too much into it. He responded and said nothing discouraging. Had he been averse to clients like you, he either wouldn't respond or he'd say your not a good fit. He left the ball in your court. If, for whatever reason, you feel uncomfortable meeting somewhat who isn't affirmatively encouraging, it's probably better that you don't book him. Whether that's because he's not into it or you need more encouragement than he provides, it's not a good set up for a great time for you.

Bingo.
 
From your initial description of the encounter, his behavior, and your response to it all, it sounds like a lot of your sense of disappointment has more to do with your own issues and not as much with how you were treated. If you are going to continue hiring, you'll need to go into sessions with less psychic baggage and set more reasonable/achievable goals for yourself. You reacted negatively to the escort in large measure, per your description, because his physical mishap left you feeling unattractive and blaming yourself. That's a lot to put on an escort, especially one who is pleasant, looks as you expected, and tried to provide a good time. You even said you opted to cut the session short because of how you felt (embarassed?). Unless you can get past being concerned about whether you're attractive enough to the escort, that worry will overhang any future encounter. Escorts may help you/one feel better about themselves, but they're not therapists helping you work through your issues over a period of time and sessions.
 
My guess, without knowing you or who you saw, is that you are too hard on yourself and that leads you to need affirmation, and when something went wrong you projected your own issues onto the escort because he wasn't able to make you feel attractive. Try to work on whatever it is that's causing you to feel the need for affirmation. That should make much more of a positive impact than finding the "perfect" escort.

Now you're forum name makes sense.

I'm surprised no one has mentioned Kristian Elix. I've never had the pleasure, but if I were visiting LA for a night of a few, he'd be one who I'd try my best to spend some extended time with him.

The self-loathing in this thread is palpable

Now you're forum name makes sense.

Now you're forum name makes sense.

Now you're forum name makes sense.

Now you're forum name makes sense.

I'm surprised there's no firing squad directed at you yet for such close minded comment ?

Agreed, it's complete bullshit.

Masculine?
 
I thin you're falling for stereotypes. Again some escorts lie about being bi or straight.

Existing thread: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/midwesthungjock.164180/

Thank you!

Both the time and the transport cost the escort. If you think those cost are negligible, go to them and bear those costs yourself.

Both the time and the transport cost the escort. If you think those cost are negligible, go to them and bear those costs yourself.

The rationale for charging more for an outcall is the additional time to travel to/from the session.

Wow. some of you guys are very stingy.
 
Considering escort rates have not gone up with inflation over the past 10 years or so, Paying a bit more for an Uber is not too much to ask for.

You seemed to have posted this query twice....might want to ask a moderator to delete this one...there are replies on your other lost.

Thank your for sharing this information. It is heartening to know he had lifelong friends who cared about him and about whom he cared.

Perhaps I was unclear. We each perceive subjectively. There may be an objective "ideal", but each or us has our own sense of whether someone matches that, comes close, falls short, etc.

I agree that we are subjective. Your "not classically handsome" may be my "classically handsome". I tend not to think of pretty and handsome as interchangeable. In Ivy's case, I found his features quite handsome, proportional, great eyes and lips, nice facial structure, etc. And I found his body to be a wonderland. Plus there's how he uses it.

Being a bottom myself, I totally understand.

I've met him twice now, for extended sessions. Exceptional guy, smart, intuitive, caring and tremendous at the play time stuff. Really knows how to read you and provide what you enjoy and provide it in just the right way.