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Before we get too zealous in "taking down" masseurs let's remind ourselves. There can be some pretty batshit crazy clients out there too. I've heard some really concerning stories as I'm sure others have too. Stalking and other things. So it works in both directions folks. 

I pay my current regular £700 for 2.5 hours (including showering together). It’s absolutely worth it to me. 

I pay my current regular £700 for 2.5 hours (including showering together). It’s absolutely worth it to me. 

It makes complete sense when showing pics as a provider to give a potential hire the idea of what you look like. There have been countless disappointed clients expressing dismay that while they know from the face that the guy is indeed the same, the photos were clearly taken in the past. This, however, is an OPPOSITE concern.
Within the last year, there have been two gentlemen, one a "holy shit, look at you!" surprise, and the other who was already in nice shape, but in person looked like they were closing in on hitting the big stage with rippled abs that were non-existent in the photos, and a further defined upper body. 
The latter of the two was a nice surprise, but the first one I feel could be off-putting if I was expecting a mildly obese dude like I am, only to get a stunning stud who enjoys giving unsuspecting clients a "$250 an hour body for a $150 an hour donation". I'd imagine there could be a few clients that of course would be happy for the hire's hard work, but frustrated that the out of shape look MIGHT have been what the gravitation to hire him in the first place was. 
I don't doubt he gets asked all the time "Why don't you post more recent pics?" I did, and he told me that his body fluctuates, and he wants clients for his massage skills and to return, rather than the superficial clients who only care about his body. 

take it from someone legally trained - there are MANY jurisdictions where having sex with a se worker and then not paying them is considered rape.  
for your reading pleasure -
@José Soplanucas since you think I don't know the definition of rape, you should read and learn before you type and say I don't know what I am talking about.
 "In some jurisdictions, courts have found that when a person cons a sex worker – refuses or evades the agreed payment for sex – such acts constitute rape, because consent for the sexual act was obtained fraudulently."
 
'It absolutely should be seen as rape': when sex workers are conned | Australia news | The Guardian
WWW.THEGUARDIAN.COM Brisbane case reveals divergent ways in which the law treats sex workers who are tricked by customers  

Why not. The regular is not going to reject it, I'm sure. I don't think you are mandated. You know him better than all of us, so you could take a better guess at what his reaction to you offering help will be.

i have had my bed break during activity.  I am a larger man and the escort was a 360 pound muscle man.  At one point he decided to stand on the bed and jumped up and the bed cracked.  It is years later and I am finally getting around to throwing the bed out.  It was a fun time and a fun story.  

After seeing the Twilight bedroom scene I now offer all my providers a bonus if we break the bed! 

Hey everyone,
I would appreciate your insight into this as I’m still reeling from embarrassment.
I had a session with my regular at his place the other day. We usually alternate between my place and his, and this time the festivities took place at his place. We don’t always have sex each time we meet, but this time he was up for some very, very animalistic sex this time (as was I!)
Anyway, as we were getting into it I hear a crack coming from the bed. I was absolutely mortified as he heard it too. I heard a further crack after that but he kept going and didn’t mention it again.
My question is; should I offer a tip to cover the damage? I’m not suggesting replacing the entire bed I was just thinking of sending him a little extra for the inconvenience. 
 
Any thoughts would be appreciated. 

Hey everyone,
I would appreciate your insight into this as I’m still reeling from embarrassment.
I had a session with my regular at his place the other day. We usually alternate between my place and his, and this time the festivities took place at his place. We don’t always have sex each time we meet, but this time he was up for some very, very animalistic sex this time (as was I!)
Anyway, as we were getting into it I hear a crack coming from the bed. I was absolutely mortified as he heard it too. I heard a further crack after that but he kept going and didn’t mention it again.
My question is; should I offer a tip to cover the damage? I’m not suggesting replacing the entire bed I was just thinking of sending him a little extra for the inconvenience. 
 
Any thoughts would be appreciated. 

Probably not necessary since he was by the sounds of it a very willing and active participant so it’s as much his fault as yours. Also the equipment is his responsibility, if he’s going to encourage vigorous action then he should be prepared with suitably robust facilities! 
I’ve experienced equipment problems a few times. Once was at a sex party (I wasn’t there in any professional capacity) and the bed broke because there were too many people on it. It was some rubbish bed from Ikea. Everyone just carried on regardless, as one would expect. It appeared that some didn’t even notice…
Another time I was an assistant at a sensual massage event (think 12 tables, 12 volunteers on the tables, 24 trainees and the teacher plus the assistant- me). The teacher demonstrates a not especially vigorous move on one of the volunteers and the massage table under her collapses. Fortunately no one was hurt and it certainly broke the ice. 
Another time I was doing a 4 hands at my studio. I have an electrically powered adjustable table. The head end can be moved up or down (as can the whole table) through a foot pedal. This time I was kneeling on the head end because the client wanted to suck me as I sucked him (69 position). The 4 hands partner was behind me also kneeling on the head end. Let’s not worry about what he was doing…I sensed that something was wrong when the client said “I’m slipping off”. (I’m sure he managed to say it with his mouth full too). I got off and saw that the head end was bent downward so that the client’s waist was well above his head. We thought the table hydraulics had broken, but fortunately it was ok. That would have been expensive…but my cost. Lesson learned not to overload the adjustable end of the table. 


 
 

Typically this happens when a customer wants something that the escort won't provide such as bare services or bondage.  Some clients will become aggressive to try and get what they want.  For instance I told one client that I didn't want to let him top me bare and aggressively he pushed me onto the bed, bound my hands and started doing what he wanted.  Even prior to the session we had discussed safe services.  Thats just one example.  
Keenan

I’m seeing a regular right now about once a month.  I have no illusion that we are in a relationship, but when I’m with him, I forget all about the money and let myself be lost in the fantasy that I’m with my boyfriend. His sweetness towards me feeds the fantasy.

He texted Sunday night with pics of him in HI. He looks better than I have seen him in 2 1/2 years. And seems very happy. Also pics of the couple he is now with and another boyfriend of theirs in the mix. Glad he's having fun. He has canceled his RM profile account so I guess he's in it for the long haul.  Said he will be coming back to gather a few more things he left before he moved. If he sees me it will be platonic bc he does not want to cheat on the others in this arrangement.  It's new so who knows if it will last but I know him and he is probably one of the nicest most passionate men I have ever met, even setting the sex aside.  So I expect it will be a long term thing.
So, my heart still aches. Perhaps more now.
Thanks for all who have responded and supported this newbie during this time. I know this isn't the right forum so I'll stop now. But it's really helped 

What happens if one does not drink tea? Asking for a friend 🤣

What happens if one does not drink tea? Asking for a friend 🤣

My position is that people can like and dislike based on age as much as they prefer. My only problem is that some seem to just have their preferences; they also attack those who differ in their preferences. That's where I intervene to either educate or set boundaries. One thing is what you like, another one is attacking others who don't share the same preference.
When it comes to me, my saying is "I find both beauty and ugliness in all ages, shapes, races, ethnicities and types". Those things are not necessarily the most dominant factors for me to decide hooking up or hiring.
I respect, so I can demand respect.

My relationship with money is a committed one.
I haven’t hired very much in a while, maybe two legit massages over the past several months. I would really like to do more but have been saving. To economize, I’ve been doing massage trades from time to time, 1:1 with local guys, usually 90 mins each.
A few weeks ago I hosted four other masseurs for a group massage exchange. We shared tips and techniques and enjoyed switching off on one another for 25 mins at a time, rotating out who is getting a massage and who is giving, 1:1 and 2:1 since we had an odd number (5) and space for two tables. All nude of course - purely for practical and efficiency reasons, I assure you 😆.
It was a lot of fun. Good guys.

From left to right: André, Brant, Yours Truly, Peter, and Newell (not pictured) Newell had to run to his next client before we thought to take this group pic. Sorry for the low quality selfie. Better than nothing, I guess.
We all showered together afterwards in my large dual head shower and scrubbed each other down. Yes, we all fit together, even hulking Newell, with space to spare. Truly a big shower! One of these days I’ll have a whole rugby team in there #goals.

 

Isn't that false advertising?? Why should I have to wait until my 6th or 7th time visiting to discover his place isn't impeccably clean, and he's a bit of a slob? I'd rather see the horrors up front to know if it's beyond what I can deal with, and then I cut and run early on in the relationship.

I think that it’s too difficult to track test results,  as once you take the test, the moment you touch someone else, your current status expires…. For example…. You’re feeling great, and you get a full panel of blood work on Monday . Tuesday afternoon you hook up with someone who has the clap and they give it to you. On Friday, you get your results that come back all negative, so you believe you have your license to ditch the condoms and hav a nice hot time over the weekend. You have naively exposed your weekend partners to the clap, but not intentionally. 
 
Test results are only impactful if the tested individual abstains from sex from the date they’ve been tested until The date they have sex with you. Otherwise, test results are pointless. 
 
This is also why testing has holes in it, in the porn industry. Once the circle of actors (who may have negative test results), have sex outside of their circle of tested peers, they all can get exposed. 
 

I would caution you regarding this tingly desire to impress him.  

I wish I could. I don’t know how people aren’t embarrassed to bring someone back to their place if it’s disgusting, especially if they plan on getting intimate. I’ve heard some real horror stories on this which is why I ensure nobody who comes to my place has a terrible experience. It’s a case of treating people how I would like to be treated. 

The dog can stay, he can leave 😂

I think everything you've outlined is fine, just to have on hand. The only thing you need to mention when he arrives is the offer of beverages. Everything else can just be there in the background. If either of you get hungry, the food can be out on the counter as though it was gonna be there anyway. I like @Vegas_Millennial's suggestion of having the condoms and lube in sight, which is the same thing I do when hosting in a hotel. No need to say anything about it, he'll understand what they're there for.
My only concern is you mention the house will be well scented. I'm not sure what that would involve, but I'd suggest against any artificial "room fresheners" like Febreze, Carpet Fresh, etc. since they can be disagreeable to some people (like me - they give me a headache). Scented candles should be OK though, particularly if they're subtle.
Lastly, a gift is nice but not necessary. Depends on what it is, but as others have suggested, it might be a bit over the top in trying to impress. Just be freshly showered, welcoming, and respectful of boundaries... that's really all a provider is looking for (and of course to get paid).