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I think they fuck you a little bit more energetically.  
Clearly, if an escort knows you and has any professionalism to him, he will know where is push, where to pull, if a bit is a snack or a turn on.  However, once you become a regular regular, I think you do run the risk of being taken for a bit of a given and the efforts may not be as strong.  So if you are thinking about developing a regular thing, watch for waning interest and more perfunctory performances once you have known each other for awkile.  It is a bit like marriage in that regard.  

Definitely more selective. It’s not just about looks for me, either. I have to vibe with their personality as well. I don’t like leaving things to chance, so I tend to stick to the same provider exclusively for a long period of time. 

Definitely more selective. It’s not just about looks for me, either. I have to vibe with their personality as well. I don’t like leaving things to chance, so I tend to stick to the same provider exclusively for a long period of time. 

Agreed!
And the sessions are just a lot more pleasant. None of that initial awkwardness or trying to scope each other out. The two providers that I see somewhat regularly have also become way more intimate over time and are always the ones who initiate the ‘extras’. 

Definitely more selective. It’s not just about looks for me, either. I have to vibe with their personality as well. I don’t like leaving things to chance, so I tend to stick to the same provider exclusively for a long period of time. 

Absolutely.  I love the intimate part as it just makes things so much better...amazing connection.
I get it is a transaction, but it is still a friendly comfortable relationship.

Definitely more selective. It’s not just about looks for me, either. I have to vibe with their personality as well. I don’t like leaving things to chance, so I tend to stick to the same provider exclusively for a long period of time. 

Definitely more selective. It’s not just about looks for me, either. I have to vibe with their personality as well. I don’t like leaving things to chance, so I tend to stick to the same provider exclusively for a long period of time. 

Definitely more selective. It’s not just about looks for me, either. I have to vibe with their personality as well. I don’t like leaving things to chance, so I tend to stick to the same provider exclusively for a long period of time. 

You gave a gift with expectations, which is never a good thing to do. 
 
 He is not out clubbing and partying. 30 min late when he was WITH FAMLY AT CHRISTMAS is not a big deal.
 
 

It’s always better to be clear with escorts on your expectations.  If paying for the hotel should get you some additional time then ask for that upfront.  If it’s you wanting to be nice and hoping it gets u additional time, then do not be disappointed if u don’t.  

Always up front.  Looks like I'm in the minority here, but just seems like a courtesy to me and clears the air of any doubt or uncertainty.  As soon as we meet, the first thing I do is say, 'This is for you' and hand over the £££ and it's never been an issue.  I really wouldn't want to put a guy I'm about to get properly intimate with through the angst of wondering when or whether I'll pay.  Every guy I've met has appreciated it and it always makes me - and I hope them - feel more relaxed and at ease so we can get down to things. 
Maybe it's a UK thing, or just how I was brought up??  

I always pay before. I either leave the money out  on the side or send it via bank transfer. I much prefer it that way so I can focus on enjoying the experience. 

I do enjoy watching certain types of gay porn and think it's pretty hot. And I love this forum since it has some really GREAT porn recommendations.
But on the hiring side, it's not actually what drives me to hire on RM specifically- Even though RM caters to and is intended for a gay male audience it's really the only place I can find reputable and safe providers that might accept female clients.  Where I'm located the websites sites targeting a female client audience to advertise "straight" male escorts have fake listings filled with sexual predators, or "fake" fly-by-night guys looking to monetize their sex life but have no intention of providing any professional service. I think Cowboys for Angels is the one exception, but none of their providers are in my area. 
on RM even the "straight" providers will have taken male clients and gotten good reviews from them, which validates that they are indeed a "professional" escort. If some do porn professionally that just serves to bolster their reputation as an escort, that's a plus but it doesn't increase their sex appeal for me. I'm largely motivated to avoid "fake" escorts and sexual predators masquerading as "straight escorts", so RM is the site I hire from: it's where the professionals tend to be. I'm not saying the RM might not have it's scammers, but they're easier to spot and filter out by sticking to the ones who have decent reviews and their profiles contain information/photos/ links to their social media accounts with longevity to validate that they've been escorting a while. 
 

I take great pride in showing mutual respect toward the provider, acknowledging their boundaries, personal space, and time. It is quite simple to ask rather than assume that something is acceptable, to remain courteous, and to be considerate of another person’s schedule. Maintaining proper hygiene also speaks volumes.
Whenever I engage someone’s services, I make every effort to behave respectfully, even in the rare instance that the same courtesy is not immediately returned. Once an appointment is agreed, I ensure I arrive punctually, well-groomed, fresh-smelling, and with clean breath. I always allow the provider to set the tone, taking their lead at all times.

Before we get too zealous in "taking down" masseurs let's remind ourselves. There can be some pretty batshit crazy clients out there too. I've heard some really concerning stories as I'm sure others have too. Stalking and other things. So it works in both directions folks. 

It makes complete sense when showing pics as a provider to give a potential hire the idea of what you look like. There have been countless disappointed clients expressing dismay that while they know from the face that the guy is indeed the same, the photos were clearly taken in the past. This, however, is an OPPOSITE concern.
Within the last year, there have been two gentlemen, one a "holy shit, look at you!" surprise, and the other who was already in nice shape, but in person looked like they were closing in on hitting the big stage with rippled abs that were non-existent in the photos, and a further defined upper body. 
The latter of the two was a nice surprise, but the first one I feel could be off-putting if I was expecting a mildly obese dude like I am, only to get a stunning stud who enjoys giving unsuspecting clients a "$250 an hour body for a $150 an hour donation". I'd imagine there could be a few clients that of course would be happy for the hire's hard work, but frustrated that the out of shape look MIGHT have been what the gravitation to hire him in the first place was. 
I don't doubt he gets asked all the time "Why don't you post more recent pics?" I did, and he told me that his body fluctuates, and he wants clients for his massage skills and to return, rather than the superficial clients who only care about his body. 

take it from someone legally trained - there are MANY jurisdictions where having sex with a se worker and then not paying them is considered rape.  
for your reading pleasure -
@José Soplanucas since you think I don't know the definition of rape, you should read and learn before you type and say I don't know what I am talking about.
 "In some jurisdictions, courts have found that when a person cons a sex worker – refuses or evades the agreed payment for sex – such acts constitute rape, because consent for the sexual act was obtained fraudulently."
 
'It absolutely should be seen as rape': when sex workers are conned | Australia news | The Guardian
WWW.THEGUARDIAN.COM Brisbane case reveals divergent ways in which the law treats sex workers who are tricked by customers  

Why not. The regular is not going to reject it, I'm sure. I don't think you are mandated. You know him better than all of us, so you could take a better guess at what his reaction to you offering help will be.

i have had my bed break during activity.  I am a larger man and the escort was a 360 pound muscle man.  At one point he decided to stand on the bed and jumped up and the bed cracked.  It is years later and I am finally getting around to throwing the bed out.  It was a fun time and a fun story.  

After seeing the Twilight bedroom scene I now offer all my providers a bonus if we break the bed! 

Hey everyone,
I would appreciate your insight into this as I’m still reeling from embarrassment.
I had a session with my regular at his place the other day. We usually alternate between my place and his, and this time the festivities took place at his place. We don’t always have sex each time we meet, but this time he was up for some very, very animalistic sex this time (as was I!)
Anyway, as we were getting into it I hear a crack coming from the bed. I was absolutely mortified as he heard it too. I heard a further crack after that but he kept going and didn’t mention it again.
My question is; should I offer a tip to cover the damage? I’m not suggesting replacing the entire bed I was just thinking of sending him a little extra for the inconvenience. 
 
Any thoughts would be appreciated. 

Hey everyone,
I would appreciate your insight into this as I’m still reeling from embarrassment.
I had a session with my regular at his place the other day. We usually alternate between my place and his, and this time the festivities took place at his place. We don’t always have sex each time we meet, but this time he was up for some very, very animalistic sex this time (as was I!)
Anyway, as we were getting into it I hear a crack coming from the bed. I was absolutely mortified as he heard it too. I heard a further crack after that but he kept going and didn’t mention it again.
My question is; should I offer a tip to cover the damage? I’m not suggesting replacing the entire bed I was just thinking of sending him a little extra for the inconvenience. 
 
Any thoughts would be appreciated. 

Probably not necessary since he was by the sounds of it a very willing and active participant so it’s as much his fault as yours. Also the equipment is his responsibility, if he’s going to encourage vigorous action then he should be prepared with suitably robust facilities! 
I’ve experienced equipment problems a few times. Once was at a sex party (I wasn’t there in any professional capacity) and the bed broke because there were too many people on it. It was some rubbish bed from Ikea. Everyone just carried on regardless, as one would expect. It appeared that some didn’t even notice…
Another time I was an assistant at a sensual massage event (think 12 tables, 12 volunteers on the tables, 24 trainees and the teacher plus the assistant- me). The teacher demonstrates a not especially vigorous move on one of the volunteers and the massage table under her collapses. Fortunately no one was hurt and it certainly broke the ice. 
Another time I was doing a 4 hands at my studio. I have an electrically powered adjustable table. The head end can be moved up or down (as can the whole table) through a foot pedal. This time I was kneeling on the head end because the client wanted to suck me as I sucked him (69 position). The 4 hands partner was behind me also kneeling on the head end. Let’s not worry about what he was doing…I sensed that something was wrong when the client said “I’m slipping off”. (I’m sure he managed to say it with his mouth full too). I got off and saw that the head end was bent downward so that the client’s waist was well above his head. We thought the table hydraulics had broken, but fortunately it was ok. That would have been expensive…but my cost. Lesson learned not to overload the adjustable end of the table.