Cody Ramsuer

I do wish you could search vers/top and vers/btm. I know when I want a mainly bottom guy I hate when I click vers and it's all vers/top guys.  😂
I've never done the safe/bb filter but I feel if you search for safe or bb it should just include guys who also put ask me instead of leaving them out as that usually will signal to me that they are open to both.
I am surprised as well on that note that you can't do a filter search of HIV status at all.

I hate that one of the filters you can search for is "travelers only" but not "locals only". When I have a place in mind I want to go visit and want to see what providers are there I don't want to be seeing ads of guys who won't be there when I will be.

I had my first sex with a man when I was 17, but I didn't start hiring until I was in my late 30s, and I never did it regularly until I was too old to get it any other way. I finally stopped hiring when I actually lost interest in doing it any longer. I don't think it changed my life in any way, except that turning sex into a commercial transaction made it easier to get what I wanted when I wanted.

After 40 yrs as husband and provider (two ex-wives, two kids, one ex live in girlfriend),
it gave me a chance to focus on pleasure without commitment It allowed me to ease into and explore this side of my sexuality at a measured pace to places I’d never have imagined without commitment or creepy possessiveness It built my confidence (since I was completely new to it) to make connections outside the hired space it offers the opportunity to have high quality companions for my frequent travels without having to worry if they can “get off work,” afford the type of travel I do, or match my healthy/energetic pace. 

Oh man he’s legit one of my favorite here, on top of it all, he gives such an incredible massage, genuinely. 

I did book a session with KC.  Very good massage.  He has a good body for and older man.  Wears a basball cap and talks a great deal.  Was quick to let me know that anything beyond mutual touch was extra.  

"I'm sure you're worth it, but that's out of my price range." is what I've said and nobody seemed offended.

Massage is not good. Extras are mechanical. Seems ill at ease most of the meeting. Def get the impression this is a “no other choice and not a fan” situation vs “choosing more/faster money instead” situation.

No, but he is very handsome.  

"High End", "Exclusive", "Limited", "Expensive".
What the fuck am I buying, a goddamn Hermès bag?
More words that dissuade me:
”Top", "Dom", "Findom", "Worship", "Dirty", "FFanything", "PnP", "ParTy", "Shopping", ”Uber". 
And anyone with a picture taken in Dubai.

Good looking guy.  No Reviews (although he's been a member of RentMasseur for nine months and his ad says ten years experience).  Rates look okay.  Ad is articulate, clear and well-written.
Link to the ad here.
Anyone have any experience with him?
 

No!  They should be mindful of how I want to pay. I don’t want to leave a paper trail with these kinds of transactions.  Should the provider be involved in a scandal or crime, I don’t want feds tracing anything back to me.

Simple answer: I am the client and I want to pay in cash.  If the business does not accept my preferred mode of payment, I will go somewhere else.  In this case, I will hire someone else.
Why would I ever transact business with someone who makes it so difficult for me?  I am the client, I am the one to be pleased and satisfied, not the other way around.

It would be worth a scouting trip to Fayetteville to find out. 😈

I’ll be 82 in a couple of months and I’m still raring to go. True, the body parts are wearing out and nothing works quite the way it used to. But, a couple of weeks between orgasms, a couple of viagra, a couple of a hundred dollars, and the right provider do the trick. I have always been a chicken hawk,  and today “chicken” for me is definitely someone over 30…or more…someone who has been around the block a couple of times, who understands they are not god’s gift to the world, who are skillful at what they do, who understand that they are in business and each of us have a role in the transaction. My role is to respect them and their work, to be flexible in setting up appointments as with any professional, to be clear on what I am buying, to pay the fee asked, to show up on time clean and prepared, to be complimentary as appropriate, to express gratitude for a service well rendered, to write positive reviews on their ad page and on COM, and to be a loyal repeat client. In the situations where it works best, I have become the old guncle who shares whatever wisdom I have gained in a long life and they share the excitement of youth and change. With the right person that goes beyond sagging tits and a limp dick. 

Nice replies here. There’s no age limit, it just depends how you feel. The right provider won’t care about your age. What matters most is your attitude. It also doesn’t matter if you don’t get hard. I’ve older clients who don’t get hard, some don’t cum (medical reasons) but they still have a great time. Everyone wants to feel special sometimes don’t they? The right provider will get off on making you feel special, that’s why they do the job. 

That’s going to vary a lot. “Too old” isn’t a number so much as it is about what you want out of the encounter. If the goal is penetrative sex, the body might set limits sooner. But if the goal is companionship, touch, conversation, or even one-way pleasure like a blowjob or massage, age really isn’t a disqualifier. It just depends on your objectives and what makes the experience meaningful for you.

One of the things that has affected people of all ages who are interested in making new friends is the development of social media, like the site on which you raised this topic. More and more people are sitting at home in front of their computers rather than physically interacting in person. Most of the people on this site who I think of as "friends," because I interact with them online regularly and know a lot about their personalities and beliefs, but I don't even know their real names and could walk past them on the street without recognizing them.  I don't want to deny the importance of this kind of friend, but it is not the same as a friend whom I could call to get together for lunch or ask for a ride to the doctor. Going to a movie with a friend and discussing it afterwards is not the same as commenting about it here, although both may be satisfying experiences. When I moved to a strange new place where I knew no one, I found the best way to make new friends was to join groups where I could interact with others who had a similar interest. For my spouse it was volunteering at a place which helped people who were recovering from a stroke, an experience which he could understand. For me it was joining a tennis club and learning how to play a sport which I had never tried before. We all need real friends as much as, or even more than, Internet friends.

It does get harder.  When I was young, friendships formed with people who were all in the same situation as I was.  College, job, you name it.  We bonded out of common interests and difficulties.  Finding people with the same interests later in life has been more difficult.  It’s compounded by my disinterest in bonding over “things”—sports, superhero movies, etc—and my desire to form connections over common feelings, attitudes, and, yes, emotions.  Joining clubs related to hobbies won’t necessarily provide that.  Mens groups geared toward inner thoughts and desires might help but those are hard to find. Sorry, I realize I’m just commiserating….

This is really the sort of thing a good psychotherapist can help with. He can be someone you can also pay to be real, open, and vulnerable with, but the outcome will be greater self awareness. 

I think of Connie Francis every time I plan travel to Ft Lauderdale.  She was beautiful. 
 
 

Didn't know she was still alive. She was 87.

In the desert, home to so many retirees, seeing a "hot" young guy is a rarity. So enjoy Chelsea!

Me @ 53. Don’t have Beckham’s muscles. Don’t want his tats. But i do work out and try to take care of myself. It’s all just a numbers game i guess