Topseed

If his ass is available, I’m interested.

It’s wonderful to visit. It’s a snow globe as a resident (which I was). Yes, plenty of disposable income and gay men…who, with few exceptions, are partnered. When I lived there, I left town to have a sex life.

No.

Am I living in the truth?

Some of the loneliest people I know are married. I see this as not a question of which is “better”. There is no ranking. Instead: do I know what brings me joy? …what brings me purpose? And is a relationship additive to these?

I'll add my endorsement of Nate Grimes. Fun.

Least favorite: Orlando. Dull as dirt. 2nd place, least favorite: Boston. Not much receptive to outside (and outsider) thinking. Favorite: NYC. The "push and shove" of dealing with clients there always kept me on my toes as a professional. And I never took it personally.

I've met him in WeHo. Great time. His pics are accurate. His ass is a work of art. Seemed like a decent guy.

Santa Fe. The usual summer throng is long gone. Hiking is great this time of year. No excuse for a bad restaurant meal. Be mindful that it's an early-to-bed town, however.

I hold the door open for my buddy to leave. And that's after I placed his coat on a proper hanger when he arrived.

Mine: the long ago retired Rick Hammersmith.

The idea of being surrounded 24/7 by old(er) people makes my flesh crawl. I both need and enjoy being around my younger friends. My grandmother spent the last years of her life in a community with a "continuum of care". During my visits she would have me join her and her friends at their lunch table. Their humor was of the gallows variety, to say the least. And little wonder my grandmother would sneak out of there for regular trips to the casino and their slot machines! (I am not kidding about this.) And: during the pandemic the high-end senior homes here in Chicago became expensive prisons. All the amenities disappeared. Residents not allowed to have visitors. No communal anything. I understand the reasons for all of this, and it certainly has made me rethink my desire to move into one of these places unless I have to. Instead, I'm thinking I'd rather lean on Instacart, Hello Fresh, GrubHub, Uber, and Amazon.

Cain Marko. Projects the Daddy vibe. Big ol' bottom on the pickup sites.

My (straight) brother and his family lived there. He adored the place; me not so much.

Adam Driver.

Yes. Happiness has nothing to do with relationship status, imo.

Unicorn: Chicago. I faced this situation several years with a boyfriend who did not pay me rent (or in any way contribute to the home’s expenses). The relationship fell apart, and it was hell getting him out of my home.

Discuss this with your attorney. Here's why: Should this go off the rails, in some jurisdictions your roommate may have legal protection to remain in your home, even if he has not been paying rent. In the most extreme case, this may require you to go through a lengthy and costly eviction proceeding. I encourage you to think through all the possible outcomes. Plan wisely. Have an exit strategy mapped out well in advance.

And a few lemons......

Kris Bryant Christian McCaffrey Jimmy Garoppolo

Echoing jeezifonly: I too hoped for a larger discussion. If that’s possible, my suggestion: Live outside yourself. Volunteer.

I’m interested as well.

Michael B Jordan Shemar Moore Kellan Lutz Hugh Jackman

Met him when he was here in Chicago for a while (which, I suspect, was due to our gyms being open). Pics are mostly accurate; I say "mostly" as he now has a significant tat of religious icons all over his back. I found it distracting (to say the least) when he was on all fours for me. Felt like he was watching the clock and the experience wasn't one I care to repeat.

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