Johnrom

Being out isn’t about publicly discussing your sex life. It’s simply publicly acknowledging an inherent, immutable, enduring same-sex emotional, romantic or physical attraction that doesn’t conform to heteronormativity. Like when you and a boyfriend are traveling and check into a hotel, and the desk clerk asks “one bed or two?” When you say “one,” you’ve just outed yourself to the clerk. You haven’t said, “We plan to give each other head, and maybe try out a new double-header dildo, so two beds are a waste.”

I agree with taking the massage route.  Learn how to accept touch before you escalate to more intimate encounters

Saw him in Philly a while back.  Great fit guy. Very good masseur.  Cool vibe. Client focused. Nice experience.  Would def repeat ! 

Fairly vanilla here, but I was staying at a very nice hotel and asked the provider  not to show up slovenly dressed. When I met him in the lobby he was in  a (almost) Brooks Brothers suit!

Once a provider asked me how he should dress when he came to my hotel. I said he should dress like Allen Iverson. I was joking but he knocked on my door kitted out in a Pistons jersey, sweatband, long baggy basketball shorts and a very stinky pair of sneakers. 

Alexxxcol is a great guy in Vegas.  Highly recommend him. Simply the best in my opinion. 🙌😎

Alexxxcol is a great guy in Vegas.  Highly recommend him. Simply the best in my opinion. 🙌😎

I saw those comments, but they're from several years ago.   All I know is that my time with him yesterday was quite enjoyable.

Try Kodesummit, I recently tried him - fantastic erotic, full-body massage with lots of intensity and contact. Highly recommend

I’m looking for more than just a massage and happy ending, but without the penetration. I want it to be intense and have body to body contact. 
 
 

Moses does a fair amount of stretching and I’m sure would do more if requested:
 
https://rentmasseur.com/MosesM
 
Richard 

I spent 18 months going through a series of experiments.  I generally hire 2-3 times/month for travel and weekends - never less than overnight and usually 2-3 nights.  So connection matters.   After suffering through a few dramas and disappointments over a pool of about 20-30 guys, I’m focused on 5 who are mature, intelligent, and sober.    Might I experiment with others?   Maybe.  But I don’t need to change a good thing with the ones I have 
Edited to add:  one or two is not enough.  One side or the other risks excessive dependency - either emotional, financial, or both 

Each person has their own preferences and so one approach isn't better than the other.
Some people want only the constantly new... some want only the comfort of someone they know and who know them (on whatever level)... and some like a mix of the two.
Personally, I enjoy regulars and the occasional new hire. For me, the more I see someone and get to know them... I get more attracted to them (to a point). So much so that just knowing I'm going to see them again arouses me greatly. With my regulars, usually the experiences I have have always been just as good or better than the previous time we met.
I hire new providers because sometimes someone comes along I find hella attractive whom I've never met. Also i hire new because over time regulars retire or don't travel as often to my area. So I am filling the gap so to speak.
 

Both. Even when it gets very good with a long time regular it can also sometimes get repetitive, which can happen in relationships too. So i gotta change things up and keep it fresh after a while. So when i was hiring more actively i had regulars i loved seeing repeatedly. They'd get about 60% of my spending. 20% would go to trying new guys on my own. And the other 20% would go to a mix where me and my regulars who like group fun would find new guys to try together, usually either friends/colleagues of theirs or guys i found on RentMen.
There would sometimes be overlap there where i'd send him some guys RM link and he's like "oh i know him/worked with him before" or he sends me some guy and it ends up being someone who was already on my wishlist.

I contacted Luis for a 90-minute massage in Philadelphia and he responded immediately, sending his prices, location, and more information! When I arrived, he offered me water, coffee, and juice, but I declined. It was very kind of him, though. This guy knows what he's doing. He offers massages on the table or the bed, and I chose the bed—it's what I'm looking for: much more sensual and with more contact! I asked for a final release for both of us, and he agreed for an extra fee, which I accepted! This guy covered my entire body with his semen; I couldn't believe it! Excellent massage with a fantastic ending. I'll definitely do it again! I loved his young, soft skin! And I won't forget that Latin accent. Really a good boy. 

I, too, haven't experienced any trouble like the op describes.

Many years ago in Windsor Canada, I was enjoying the evening with all the hot nude dancers. As the evening progressed, one of the dancers, approached me and asked if I would like private time with him. Of course I said yes. Well after his shift, he took me to his apartment where we had animal sex. No charge!! A fond memory for sure. What I didn't realize is he wore a heavy rubber band on stage to keep hard. That wasn't needed at his apartment! 

Since 1996, I've been hiring hot dancers for private hotel shows at both Campus and Stock. I'm no longer interested in spending my private hotel show budget on $20 dances in the back, so whenever a hottie at the club I'm interested in approaches me or vice-versa, I politely let them know right off the bat that I'm only looking for a private hotel show, in order not to waste their valuable time. By doing so, it eliminates the dudes who are either not open to doing them or not available that night, while starting a brief convo / negotiation about connecting back at my hotel with the guys who are open. Having cut to the chase, I then let them know briefly what services I'm ideally looking for and ask about their specific fee. I'm typically only looking to give perform one-way oral + kissing, so anything above $300 is a total non-starter for me and I make that politely clear in order not to waste anyone's time. Many dancers though aren't actually doing much more than that from my experience, although there are certainly exceptions! And depending on multiple factors, the dancer may either agree, decline, or let me know he'll circle back later depending on how his night goes. His decision will typically be based on multiple factors, including how busy the night is...how much $$ he's made...what monthly bills need immediate paying...other customer offers for private shows...the specific services being sought...if you're a regular private hotel show client...if you have a solid reputation with other dancer friends of theirs at the club...if you're staying at a nearby hotel...and whether you're asking early on in their shift or later near closing when they have the best grasp of their financial situation that night and other higher-fee private show opportunities!:) At the end of the day for most of these guys, it all comes down to bottom-line $$$ offered and their financial need, provided you don't come across in a sketchy, unprofessional, unfriendly or disrespectful manner. Some dancers typically will give you the familiar line about "let's do some dances in the back first" before talking further about a private hotel show, "so we can get to know each other better". LOL > some guys mean this sincerely, but for most of them it's just another way of getting your $20 private dance business at the club and they're never really available for private hotel shows!:) The dancers who are truly open to & experienced with high-fee hotel shows do not require to "get to know you better first" in the back > I've learned that the expensive way many times in the past!:) And while dancers can certainly leave the club on their breaks throughout the night for nearby private hotel shows, I've typically found these to be much more rushed vs waiting until after they finish their shift and they're then more focused on you for the standard unrushed standard full 60 minute session!

It's a thing, but definitely not new (though a bit surprised they did it without you asking them for that specifically). They're probably just playing to the "masc bro" aesthetic/vibe a lot of people are into. Certain clothing that plays to that is backwards baseball caps and keeping your socks on during sex.

Three guys I hired in the past couple of months wore a baseball cap the entire time we had sex. Naked otherwise. Just a coincidence or is this a thing now? Seemed weird to me, but to each his own I guess....

I have only been hiring for 6 months. In half a year, I have spent over $5,000. Some providers were enjoyable and others disappointing. My budget is tight due to health issues and retiring earlier than anticipated. So, I have decided to take a long pause from hiring. 

I used to spend a ton ten to twenty years ago, but now I’m down to ~2 2-hour sessions per month. Maybe it’s me, but the quality on offer has declined over the years. The real hotties are in distant cities and I hesitate to fly someone in with whom I have no experience. 

I’m adjusting my retirement at 55 plans because of a recent hiring spurt. Why? I’ll likely need the disposable income.  I’m still saving for retirement, but when I run across someone whose company I enjoy, I’m not going to trade the present for a future where I’m older.  
 
I don’t know where my budget number will end up - just yet for the year. The next couple months will show if I stay mainly in Chicago market or travel occasionally. 
 
Previous years I ran somewhere about 5k between massage and the occasional provider.  I’ve blown through that a bit when you include travel to escape the winter this year.