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She died in 2019, in Rancho Mirage. They could visit her grave site. Matt Bomer seems to love to sing. There are plenty of samples on YouTube. Apparently, he did a guest spot on Glee.

This came out yesterday. It's about 30-minutes too long, and the interviewer is too much of a fanboy for my liking, but it's easy to see the pressure Mike White has been under, and learn more about his process. I think the interview reveals how difficult and challenging it is to put a hit show on paper, and do everything you can to keep it a hit on TV. It's all one big gamble. A lot of hard work, sleepless nights, dealing with HBO execs, and fearing disappointed fans.

So disappointed to hear this. It is interesting that they are teasing on YouTube. Probably hoping to drum up word-of-mouth.

Handsome guy. Looks like the type of actor who would appear in action movies. I like the Puerto Rican-Irish mix. Would love to see his junk. His body is very natural, and I like that. Might be worth it to ask about the PNP. Could be an error or misleading.

This was in today's Feed. Too bad the Broadway hairdressers couldn't get her hair right. Didn't they see the movie Blonde? (Can you tell I was once married to a fabulous hairdresser?)

I saw Brendan Fraser in The Whale. It was a painful movie to sit through. Being gay and trying to experience love is tough enough. Add extreme obesity, and I don't know how a guy can be expected to survive. Thank goodness for the sensitive escort types. It's too bad they can be very expensive and out-of-reach for a lot of budgets. I grew up with relatives who struggled with extreme weight. One cousin was a closet gay, and he died in his mid-40's from an infection in his foot. He was so miserable, he refused to see a podiatrist. Many of us quietly felt that he preferred death, and that's why he let go. The vast majority of America is obese, and millions of those people are married with children. Lots of overweight people having sex and trying to find happiness in life. I would say this is the norm. Why should overweight gays be doomed? Porn has a way of distorting reality. Don't gay men watch an excessive amount of porn? Aren't we gay men competing with those idealized images? I have noticed among amateur porn, there are a fair number of chubby guys filming themselves with hot partners. They used to call these hot guys chubby-chasers, but I've never known any. If only the group was large enough to satisfy the need for meaningful companionship. I left my conservative home town because I was afraid to be there and be openly gay. Gay men were violence targets back then. My own father had a reputation for beating on gays in his youth. Living in NYC has had a way of shielding me from the pain and frustration of other gay men, however, there is plenty of pain and frustration here. We have models and porn stars to look at and envy. I don't have any answers. I just try to find a way to continue to love myself through it all. Now pass the Häagen-Dazs.

I think I am. I want better for our less-than-physically-perfect gay men. Because I'm older, I find myself more inclined to say "fuck you" to child-like insecurities. I came to NYC in my youth, and worked hard on my body. And then I turned 50 and all hell broke loose with my DNA health. The lifelong bodywork went to shit, and I refuse to cry over spilled milk. Nobody appreciates a beautiful body more than me. If I shared a hot-tub with Matt Bomer, it would take enormous restraint to not touch him. But in that restraint, I would want to show him my confidence, and my acceptance of who I am now. Confidence, for me, is the sexiest aphrodisiac, and I'm a little disappointed in Nathan Lane's stand on nudity. On the other hand, I'm glad he's executive producer and can command that his wishes be respected. He won't lose his job because he refuses to enter the hot-tub without a shirt on.

I was making a joke. But I have heard that regular douching is not a good idea. I had no idea what lube was until I moved to NYC. Even if I knew about in the 70's, I wouldn't have known where to find it my home town. My teenage butt was lube free until I turned 24. Even then, it took me years to settle on Astroglide, and I seldom needed to use it. I kept it around for the bottoms I was fucking who had really tight holes and screamed if a finger merely touched it. What a joyless pain they were.

I'm sorry, but maybe some of you who bottom and douche regularly have reached Sahara Desert status of the butthole. In my 20's, I never needed lube for anal sex, especially after a run or a gym workout. My sweat mixed with everything else was perfect. That is how I learned to enjoy gay sex. In my 30's, I had a massage therapist who loved 20-minute butt play with no lube or oil. He was gentle and sensual as anyone could be. He absolutely loved getting me worked up. The first time he climbed on my back to slide his erection along my butt crack, his x-large condomed cock accidentally slid right in. No oil, no lube, no spit, no scream. He was more surprised than I was, but that appointment was the beginning of a fun relationship. I never bottomed very often, but he was not the only massage therapist I shared this experience with. I admit my bottom days are long over, and I'm more careful now about my butt than ever. But my memory of elevated sex has not left me, and I hope it never does. That is exactly the tone I got from this post, plus I could relate to the issue personally. Causing pain or discomfort in any way is a turn-off to me. In fact, if a guy is fucking too hard in porn, I can't watch.

They definitely don't lubricate in the way a vagina does, but many guys get moist through arousal, especially if they are groin sweaters.

I've never been a fan of lube. I learned to view it as a necessary evil. When I see it being used in porn, it's a turn-off, especially when the actors do no-edit oral without washing it off first. I know it can be a challenge to experience, but arousal can produce natural lubrication. Great foreplay can sometimes take care of the rest. Those are the instances when sex reached an all-time high for me. I wish I had someone to recommend, but thanks for conjuring fond memories.

Drew Starkey claims he wore a prosthetic for his nudes scenes. I wonder why? He's barely seen full-frontal, and the scene where it happens is quite dark. It happens so fast. Why would a young male actor care about this? I guess I can't blame anyone for wanting to keep their private parts private. But that's no fun. This photo from the film has been lightened. The actual scene is much darker. In the movie, you can't even see Starkey's face. They could have used a nude double, and no one would have known. I don't get it. At least someone in make-up gets the thrill of gluing the damn thing on and taking it off. Truth be told, I didn't enjoy any of the sex scenes in this film. All I could think about was their awful breath and Daniel Craig's ugly man-hands. Starkey is pretty though. He reminded me of a former college boyfriend, without the eyeglasses. Fond memories.

That's exactly where my mind went. Wearing a shirt in water draws more attention to you, which is why Nathan Lane immediately stood out in the hot-tub scenes. His fellow actors were shirtless, and the writers had to write something into the script about his "being that way since childhood." I get that Nathan may not want to be shirtless standing next to Matt Bomer. Fully clothed, I'd have a difficult time standing next to Matt Bomer. I'm curious how those conversations with the creators went, when they told Nathan there would be hot-tub scenes.

I finally saw it last night. What a disappointment. Now I know what my friends were talking about. Boring is an understatement. Perhaps the whole thing went over my head. Other than serious addictions, I have no idea what this film was about, or its connection to anything queer. None of it made any sense to me. The only moment I found sexy was when Drew Starkey came to the door naked in the dark. I did not understand this relationship at all. Why would a young guy that good looking be interested in a heroin-addicted old man with dirty, ugly hands? There is no evidence he was motivated by money. Daniel Craig is looking rough, and in some of his drug/drunken scenes, he looks awful and behaves like a fool, as most gay drunks do. I just didn't find any of this nonsense compelling or even interesting. The ending, a complete dud. WTF? At least I got through the whole thing, unlike with Suspiria. Not sure about Luca Guadagnino anymore. Why on earth would these actors want to make this film? What was it about this story that needed to be told? I wish I could hear Luca's sales pitch to the lead actors. What happened to Jason Schwartzman? He used to be so cute. Was he wearing a fat suit? I didn't get any of the other players, and the dialogue went over my head. I need to read more about it to see what I missed. I doubt I could ever sit through it again.

That was so fabulous. I really loved that show. Hats off to Eric Stonestreet (who isn't gay) and Jesse Tyler Ferguson. Without perfect Hollywood gay bodies, they went shirtless on national TV. There is no way Nathan Lane would ever do that, and he's been honest about that for a very long time.

He's affordable? Super impressive. I watch each episode twice and I could not have written that, or conjured the questions. After awhile my brain tunes out. I think he loves fucking with his audience. He seems to be quirky that way. I'm still trying to process the image of Belinda filling her plate with food in the house of the man who murdered the woman who offered to back her business proposal, but backed out. That is some appetite. Mike White needs a vacation.

I should have said sunburn sensitivity or skin cancer does not count. If I had any of these, I would never step foot in direct sunlight. I don't think these are the issues with Nathan Lane, and I have not heard he has ugly surgery scars, which I could also understand. I was simply thinking basic vanity. Would a gay man cover his wet body in a wet area simply because he doesn't want to show himself shirtless? I love swimming naked, so I can't imagine. I have seen videos in the Middle East where the men wear those baggy pants when they swim. It's weird to me, but I did not grow up in a hyper-religious society. A good reason to avoid dipping the toes into water wherever children are present. Now we're talking. LOL.

That did it! Now I need to rob a bank.

Are there any members here who would admit to wearing torso clothing when they enter a pool or hot-tub? Seeing Nathan Lane do it in Mid-Century Modern made me wonder if there are any gay guys who would actually do this.

Maybe not enough board members have seen it yet, but I'm surprised no one has mentioned Nathan Lane's refusal to do nudity. How weird was it to see Nathan Lane wearing a t-shirt in all the hot-tub scenes? Who among us would do that? (I'm going to ask in The Lounge.) I remember listening to Nathan do an interview many, many years ago, where he said he would never take off his clothes for a role. Seeing him in the hot-tub scenes reminded me of that interview. He definitely does not want to be seen in public shirtless. How bad could it be?

I'm still thinking about last night's episode, but I can't get beyond Mike White's choice of having Belinda, who believes Gary/Greg killed Tonya, accept an invite to his home, with her beloved son in tow. What loving mother would make this stupid choice?

It sure worked for me. Linda Lavin was terrific at throwing zingers and making a Maude face. She had millions of Broadway theater fans. That's my greatest fear, they're going to promote Pamela Adlon playing Mindy, and the show will go south for me.

I just wanted to say, this is a very thoughtful response. I'm assuming BFE stands for boy.friend.experience. You definitely exhibit this skill in your talented writing. There are a few statements that stand out for me: People evaluate looks all the time, especially gay men. You don't even have to visit the photo galleries here to experience the intensity. Evaluation is with us every day of our lives. Hello Grindr. There seems to be no escaping it, especially now in this Instagram age. Many of us have become socially wired to be insecure about our looks, especially as aging gay men. I applaud you for sharing your approach on how to rid us all of this hurtful scourge to our precious self-esteem. When I worked in corporate, we had code names for certain types of clients. Maybe someone should start a "Crazy" thread, where hopefully serious providers can share their honest definition of that word with us. List every detail that qualifies. The trouble is, one man's crazy can easily be distorted by an impatient, uncaring, non-professional. For example, I have 4 important (to me) questions that I usually ask. The provider may not realize it, but all my questions have to do with my personal health concerns, and nothing to do with sex. I often feel lucky if I get 1 answer, and some have branded me crazy for asking more than 1 question. LOL. This sentiment is very touching, and shows a lot of heart. I wish I knew more people in this life who had a lot of heart. Photos of my current naked body do scare me, because I remember just yesterday what I once looked like. I no longer "fear" the provider response, I've had to learn how to accept rejection. I prefer to accept rejection on my terms. I also don't want anyone feeling bad for me, because I have accepted my old age, and all the vane suffering that comes with it. I view acceptance as a triumph to be celebrated, not leaving anyone feeling bad. @DamizzonNYC, thanks a lot for offering such a great post.

Since they played the mother as having died, I doubt they would go the soap opera route and bring her back to life as a new actress. For the writers, I imagine it would be very awkward to pluck a woman from thin air and offer her Sybil's bedroom. For a creative, this is not a fun place to be. Cybil Shepard is way too pretty to have spawned the looks of a Nathan Lane. Much like Will & Grace, this show may not be fun viewing for every gay. However, I thought the previews sucked, and promoted possible doom. Once I started watching, the characters immediately grew on me, and many of the jokes had me laughing out loud.

No one should be sending photos from their last shoot with Annie Leibovitz. 🙂 The photos I send are awful quality, no face, and they are small in pixel size. They are worthless. They do provide enough visual information (where it's better than nothing or just words), and that's really all that matters. I once had a decent gym body. I no longer have that. I once had smooth skin. No longer. Funny thing is, my junk hasn't changed much, and many guys have told me it was attractive. So I put my best foot forward (and I have handsome feet). Most professional providers, yes. I wouldn't hold my breath on the non-pro types. I would say most of those are just looking for easy money, or sex that turns them on. Being cynical, if a supposed hottie is asking for a photo, it's a red flag that your age and appearance will matter for booking, or even a call back.