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Oakman got a reaction from Vulgarii in Is it common for providers to ask for a client’s pic?
Agree 100%. So many of you really need to MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. Literally.
There is absolutely no “professional standard of care” for what is quite literally an illicit trade. Anyone can participate, either as a provider or a client, and set their own rules. If you do not like their seemingly arbitrary rules, they aren’t the match for you.
And yes, some providers can (and do) focus on “elite” (define that how you want) clientele, choosing whom they work with based on criteria that may exclude you. You have absolutely no say in how some guy you don’t know chooses to conduct his own illicit business, and he isn’t obligated to conduct that business like some other provider (who happens to be more kind).
What on earth do some you accomplish with your interminable whining?
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Oakman got a reaction from mike carey in Is it common for providers to ask for a client’s pic?
Agree 100%. So many of you really need to MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. Literally.
There is absolutely no “professional standard of care” for what is quite literally an illicit trade. Anyone can participate, either as a provider or a client, and set their own rules. If you do not like their seemingly arbitrary rules, they aren’t the match for you.
And yes, some providers can (and do) focus on “elite” (define that how you want) clientele, choosing whom they work with based on criteria that may exclude you. You have absolutely no say in how some guy you don’t know chooses to conduct his own illicit business, and he isn’t obligated to conduct that business like some other provider (who happens to be more kind).
What on earth do some you accomplish with your interminable whining?
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Oakman reacted to pubic_assistance in Is it common for providers to ask for a client’s pic?
Exactly.
Its perfectly REASONABLE that a provider should be forewarned that he is being tasked with fucking a hideous cadaver.
The entitlement of some people here is astounding when they say that to be a good escort, you must fuck anythjng that moves and it's NONE of their business to know that I'm 100 pounds overweight and only bathe on Thursdays.
Obviously we ALL dislike rejection and HIRING is supposed to be the escape from that. However, there ARE limits to what anyone can accept as do-able. A provider has every right to know who/what he's meeting at the door. Doesn't mean he's treating you like a Grindr hook up and ghosting you because you're not a ripped Brazilian model.
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Oakman reacted to MaxMuscle9x6 in 411 on DanielNarssi
I had an interesting experience with Mr. Narssi. I met him at his hotel, and I immediately had a bad feeling. We started talking, and I knew the chemistry was not good. We chatted for 15 minutes, hoping my immediate impression would change. It didn't, and I kindly told him I would leave because the chemistry wasn't there for me. Surprised, he started to get nasty at what he viewed as a rejection. He said no one has ever turned him down. Before he could get any meaner, I just said it would be best to keep his remarks and voice civilly. I compensated him for the 1st hour but insisted I pay for the three we had discussed. I told him no, and I left.
He does look just like his pics dressed; it never got to the point of seeing everything, which was fine with me.
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Oakman got a reaction from CaliMuscle in Any 411 on Ryanmusclegod ?
Many years ago I arranged to meet him at the Folsom Street Fair. I was underwhelmed by his personality (or lack thereof) and face (unfortunately for guys who refuse to provide face pics, this kind of rejection is a risk). I walked away.
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Oakman got a reaction from + Pensant in Why do you pay for sex?
I hire when I want fantasy experiences that I find difficult to get in hookups or dates. I’m a mid-40’s muscular daddy type (imagine stereotypical cop/firefighter vibe). I find it difficult to attract big, dominant, top men. In dating/hookup scenarios I mostly attract submissive guys and seem to scare off top men. So I hire. Daddy likes to be the little spoon sometimes.
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Oakman got a reaction from + KensingtonHomo in Why do you pay for sex?
Jesus dude, I’ve never been more turned on on this site. DM me 😘
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Oakman got a reaction from + KensingtonHomo in Why do you pay for sex?
I hire when I want fantasy experiences that I find difficult to get in hookups or dates. I’m a mid-40’s muscular daddy type (imagine stereotypical cop/firefighter vibe). I find it difficult to attract big, dominant, top men. In dating/hookup scenarios I mostly attract submissive guys and seem to scare off top men. So I hire. Daddy likes to be the little spoon sometimes.
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Oakman reacted to spidir in Is working as an escort very risky?
Welcome! I would not take the risk of losing my status as an international student or future employment for pocket money and fun. My advice is to focus on your education and choose work that you don't have to hide.
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Oakman got a reaction from liubit in *Does ANYONE look like their pics ?
For the most part I am pleased with photo representation. Things I have learned to watch out for/avoid:
1. Photos taken in weird angles, showing partial body parts. This is a trick used to cut out flaws. If you can’t mentally assemble the whole body in your mind, it’s because the provider doesn’t want you to.
2. Bad lighting is also a trick. Don’t fall for this.
3. Look for clues about the photo’s date (fashion, background, upload date). Using a five-year old photo usually means the guy isn’t proud of his current look.
4. Extreme musculature is hard to maintain. Expect the provider to have just a little bit more “flab” than that ripped beach photo. No one walks around with their abs flexed 100% of the time.
5. A provider’s marketing material (photos) are often indicative of his integrity. If your initial thought upon meeting is “you don’t look at all like I thought you would,” YOU SHOULD SAY SO AND FAST-WALK AWAY WITHOUT REGRET. You were lied to.
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Oakman got a reaction from Simon Suraci in Why do you pay for sex?
I hire when I want fantasy experiences that I find difficult to get in hookups or dates. I’m a mid-40’s muscular daddy type (imagine stereotypical cop/firefighter vibe). I find it difficult to attract big, dominant, top men. In dating/hookup scenarios I mostly attract submissive guys and seem to scare off top men. So I hire. Daddy likes to be the little spoon sometimes.
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Oakman got a reaction from TorontoDrew in Why do you pay for sex?
I hire when I want fantasy experiences that I find difficult to get in hookups or dates. I’m a mid-40’s muscular daddy type (imagine stereotypical cop/firefighter vibe). I find it difficult to attract big, dominant, top men. In dating/hookup scenarios I mostly attract submissive guys and seem to scare off top men. So I hire. Daddy likes to be the little spoon sometimes.
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Oakman reacted to + DrownedBoy in Provider with picture giving the finger
On the contrary - ads don't list tongue length, so I find that a wonderful evaluation opportunity.
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Oakman got a reaction from + Vegas_Millennial in Can anyone please clarify the meaning of the term “sub”
If you are fucking a bottom, you are equals, and are working together toward mutual sexual satisfaction. You’ll probably both cum. His needs matter as much as yours.
If you are fucking a sub, he is there to make the experience only about your satisfaction. His enjoyment comes from being of use to you. He needs to feel you in control.
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Oakman got a reaction from + DrownedBoy in Why do you pay for sex?
Jesus dude, I’ve never been more turned on on this site. DM me 😘
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Oakman got a reaction from prof in Provider with picture giving the finger
Agree. Hard pass. Fuck you too, bro. Next.
I also avoid guys sticking their tongues out in photos. It’s a pose that says “I am trash.”
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Oakman got a reaction from + SirBillybob in Provider with picture giving the finger
Agree. Hard pass. Fuck you too, bro. Next.
I also avoid guys sticking their tongues out in photos. It’s a pose that says “I am trash.”
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Oakman got a reaction from + JamesB in *Does ANYONE look like their pics ?
For the most part I am pleased with photo representation. Things I have learned to watch out for/avoid:
1. Photos taken in weird angles, showing partial body parts. This is a trick used to cut out flaws. If you can’t mentally assemble the whole body in your mind, it’s because the provider doesn’t want you to.
2. Bad lighting is also a trick. Don’t fall for this.
3. Look for clues about the photo’s date (fashion, background, upload date). Using a five-year old photo usually means the guy isn’t proud of his current look.
4. Extreme musculature is hard to maintain. Expect the provider to have just a little bit more “flab” than that ripped beach photo. No one walks around with their abs flexed 100% of the time.
5. A provider’s marketing material (photos) are often indicative of his integrity. If your initial thought upon meeting is “you don’t look at all like I thought you would,” YOU SHOULD SAY SO AND FAST-WALK AWAY WITHOUT REGRET. You were lied to.
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Oakman got a reaction from + sf westcoaster in Provider with picture giving the finger
Agree. Hard pass. Fuck you too, bro. Next.
I also avoid guys sticking their tongues out in photos. It’s a pose that says “I am trash.”
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Oakman got a reaction from + ApexNomad in Provider with picture giving the finger
Agree. Hard pass. Fuck you too, bro. Next.
I also avoid guys sticking their tongues out in photos. It’s a pose that says “I am trash.”
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Oakman got a reaction from + ApexNomad in Why do you pay for sex?
Jesus dude, I’ve never been more turned on on this site. DM me 😘
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Oakman got a reaction from thomas in Why do you pay for sex?
Jesus dude, I’ve never been more turned on on this site. DM me 😘
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Oakman got a reaction from + Vegas_Millennial in Why do you pay for sex?
Jesus dude, I’ve never been more turned on on this site. DM me 😘
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Oakman got a reaction from + Vegas_Millennial in Why do you pay for sex?
I hire when I want fantasy experiences that I find difficult to get in hookups or dates. I’m a mid-40’s muscular daddy type (imagine stereotypical cop/firefighter vibe). I find it difficult to attract big, dominant, top men. In dating/hookup scenarios I mostly attract submissive guys and seem to scare off top men. So I hire. Daddy likes to be the little spoon sometimes.