Oakman

I will only book a provider (talking escort, not massage) if he agrees to cum. That’s a big part of what I want out of the experience. 

I will only book a provider (talking escort, not massage) if he agrees to cum. That’s a big part of what I want out of the experience. 

$4,200 last year. Roughly once a month. It’s good to know what you actually spent so you can plan ahead and be sure that you can still have this hobby and also meet your other financial obligations in the year ahead. If you aren’t harming yourself or others, I suggest dropping the notion of being a “desperate perv.” You’re just a man getting what he needs to be happy. Hope you made some good memories in ‘24. 

$4,200 last year. Roughly once a month. It’s good to know what you actually spent so you can plan ahead and be sure that you can still have this hobby and also meet your other financial obligations in the year ahead. If you aren’t harming yourself or others, I suggest dropping the notion of being a “desperate perv.” You’re just a man getting what he needs to be happy. Hope you made some good memories in ‘24. 

You are making yourself miserable. You could live a life with freedom and authenticity and you are choosing to behave like a tragic character in a melodrama. Start acting like an adult, stop stalking this man. You’re “in love” with him because you need love but you aren’t making yourself available to receive it from sources where it is truly available. Escorts are not a source of love. Period. 

$500 for an hour, $800 to include his very hot friend Nick_William. Quick and polite response to my inquiry, but more than I’m willing to pay. I’ll just have to daydream about being sandwiched between those two 😝

Clearly you DID give a fuck. This guy pissed you off several times and you never pushed back or asserted yourself until AFTER you were done with him. This sounds like an unprofessional provider meeting up with a nightmare client. 

Clearly you DID give a fuck. This guy pissed you off several times and you never pushed back or asserted yourself until AFTER you were done with him. This sounds like an unprofessional provider meeting up with a nightmare client. 

Clearly you DID give a fuck. This guy pissed you off several times and you never pushed back or asserted yourself until AFTER you were done with him. This sounds like an unprofessional provider meeting up with a nightmare client. 

Clearly you DID give a fuck. This guy pissed you off several times and you never pushed back or asserted yourself until AFTER you were done with him. This sounds like an unprofessional provider meeting up with a nightmare client. 

You are making yourself miserable. You could live a life with freedom and authenticity and you are choosing to behave like a tragic character in a melodrama. Start acting like an adult, stop stalking this man. You’re “in love” with him because you need love but you aren’t making yourself available to receive it from sources where it is truly available. Escorts are not a source of love. Period. 

I typically hire when I want extreme fantasy experiences that I just can’t get from my relationships or hook ups. It sounds like you are hiring for just a run of the mill hook up or date experience.
 
Given the anxiety you have in going after what many of us would consider a commonplace experience (a blowjob with a fuckbuddy or boyfriend), I wonder if you have ever considered therapy? Therapy exists so that we gain self-awareness and mastery of our own lives. 
 
I am glad you finally broke through and had a sexual experience, and I’m also glad you shared it with a good provider who took care of you. In the future, it is certainly possible to have more of that without having to pay for it. If that is what you want.

It’s a fair bet that every man over 35 who still manages to pull off looking like a comic book super hero is supplementing his testosterone, which is very easy to acquire these days. 😉

Agree. Hard pass. Fuck you too, bro. Next. 

I also avoid guys sticking their tongues out in photos. It’s a pose that says “I am trash.” 

This entire thread: “Why doesn’t my Victrola gramophone play podcasts when I wind it up?” 

My suggestion to learn to adapt and not complain was given in earnest. The world has changed around all of us, it has always done this. Adaptability is key not just to a key happiness, but to survival. 
 
You are obviously an adroit writer. Embrace the sending of text messages. Learn how to use the “voice to text command.” Learn how to create a photo album on your phone. Be a part of the culture as it is. It never goes backwards. 

“Clearly?” Sorry guy - older bigger guy here, former Marine Infantryman, masculine blue collar dad type. He was into me - very much. It’s like you played with a rabid dog and wrote a good review because it didn’t happen to bite you. 

I have so much fun being an eager to please beta for big alpha men, who I don’t ordinarily score out in the wild. I get lost in inflating his ego and getting him to perform like he’s the sexiest man in the world. I’m too competitive in real life to suffer that kind of imbalance, but for an hour or two, I’ll be a bitch who should just feel lucky to be in the room with some stud. 

Imagine walking into bar and ten men simultaneously start talking to you. You sit at the counter and get inundated by ballsy ‘4’s showing you their assholes. Some guys start making demands. Others just keep nudging you over and over and over.
 
Would you stay at the bar and just focus on meeting guys who interest you? would you avoid the bar entirely rather than risking offense to the crowd? Or would you make it your purpose every time you go out to let each uninteresting guy who walks up to you every three minutes know that you aren’t interested, but still think they’re special? Wouldn’t that be so fun? Maybe have a really inauthentic let-down speech prepared? 
 
Yes, kindness should rule. But one must never allow oneself to be manipulated by emotionally needy people who demand attention and do nothing to earn it. Nor should we make our sexy time all about feeling obligated to people who don’t turn us on. 

$4,200 last year. Roughly once a month. It’s good to know what you actually spent so you can plan ahead and be sure that you can still have this hobby and also meet your other financial obligations in the year ahead. If you aren’t harming yourself or others, I suggest dropping the notion of being a “desperate perv.” You’re just a man getting what he needs to be happy. Hope you made some good memories in ‘24. 

KhalRico
I recently spent two glorious hours with this beautiful provider. He was all top and was very comfortable being the man in control. He made me feel amazing. 
 
Scheduling was easy. He was happy to chat about interests to determine compatibility. And he was patient as we worked out a date. I paid for his rides (I hosted). His hourly rate was $375. 
 
He’s charming, intelligent, and emotionally accessible. I highly recommend him. He’s in San Francisco part time. 

I am going to guess you are 60+ years old? This business doesn’t work with telephone calls. That is a reality you’ll need to adjust yourself to.
 
Don’t call unless you’ve been invited to do so. Put yourself in the provider’s position. He’s not sitting at a desk waiting for phone calls. He may be at his day job, running errands or doing any number of things. Managing dozens of inquiry calls, many of which may not be serious inquiries, is an imposition. Making an initial inquiry and negotiating the meet-up by text message (on the app he requests) is going to be convenient for him.

This entire thread: “Why doesn’t my Victrola gramophone play podcasts when I wind it up?” 

So much writing about this guy, and zero clear indication about whether anyone gets fucked. Sometimes this site has the propriety of a Victorian drawing room. 

Agree 100%. So many of you really need to MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. Literally. 
 
There is absolutely no “professional standard of care” for what is quite literally an illicit trade. Anyone can participate, either as a provider or a client, and set their own rules. If you do not like their seemingly arbitrary rules, they aren’t the match for you. 
And yes, some providers can (and do) focus on “elite” (define that how you want) clientele, choosing whom they work with based on criteria that may exclude you. You have absolutely no say in how some guy you don’t know chooses to conduct his own illicit business, and he isn’t obligated to conduct that business like some other provider (who happens to be more kind).
What on earth do some you accomplish with your interminable whining?