Oakman

Size, attitude, and relentlessness.

Seriously, how many times do you think we need to see your face in every single thread? Literally no one else plasters a full-width photo ad in every single comment.

I really don’t see the point of responding to a profound existential question by stating the obvious (unless one is just trying to slip a promotion for one’s ad in every single thread in this entire website) The standard of beauty is whatever each individual accepts for themselves, unless they’re unwilling to think for themselves, and accept only what they see promoted in culture.

It turns out money doesn’t buy everything. The assertion that people don’t belong in the industry if they have aesthetic proclivities is just absurd. I have often wondered why self-proclaimed “unfuckable” sad-sacks don’t seek out similar men. Why place a premium on youth, fitness, and conventional beauty if those are the primary areas where you face the harshest rejection? Fat men idolizing fit men is just insane.

SF_StudXXL, now located in Houston, would get me there. Absolutely incredible experiences with that man.

Nothing ventured = nothing gained. You’ll never get to enact your fantasy with your fantasy guy if you don’t ask. Nothing you described is going to scare anyone. Go for it! If you’re going to pay, you might as well shoot for the moon.

I have hired “sides” in the past, but not on purpose. Please make your limitations easy to understand in your ad copy.

Agree. Only provide a deposit if you are trying to book an “all-star” provider who has a solid reputation. If you’re trying to book some random nobody and he asks for a deposit, he’s just trying to rip you off.

Anyone who asks such a childish, tactless question deserves brutal honesty in the response. The question is coercive. Surely the answer is already known.

Same. I hired a “premium” provider a few times. On the third hire he said “looks like you’re a regular, I’ll take $50 off.” I made good on the discount with more frequent hiring. He was the best escort I ever knew (moved away, sadly).

I provide professional design services and can most certainly turn down potential clients on whatever basis I see fit. “I don’t think this project is right for me, can I refer you to a colleague,” is an entirely legal form of professional rejection. And keep in mind, professions that are legal are bound by a “standard of care.” Illicit trades are bound only by what the participants see fit.

Escorting does not have a professional “standard of care” like other, legal, service providers (lawyers, plumbers, engineers, mechanics, doctors, and other licensed professionals). This means they can provide their services however the fuck they see fit. If a provider wants to see client photos, he can make that a condition of his services. This may reduce his customer pool, but may not actually reduce his business. If he continues to make money and has happy clients, what business is that of yours? Keep in mind, requesting escorting services on the internet has been but a blip in the history of male-male sex work. Before the internet, men had to negotiate these transactions in person, and rejection was just as much a risk.

Some of these guys need to feel physical attraction in order to perform, and requesting a photo is their way of ensuring that they can provide the service you want. Sending a G-rated photo is very low-risk. If that scenario isn’t acceptable to you, there are other providers who can do the job without regard for your appearance. Hire them.

KhalRico I recently spent two glorious hours with this beautiful provider. He was all top and was very comfortable being the man in control. He made me feel amazing. Scheduling was easy. He was happy to chat about interests to determine compatibility. And he was patient as we worked out a date. I paid for his rides (I hosted). His hourly rate was $375. He’s charming, intelligent, and emotionally accessible. I highly recommend him. He’s in San Francisco part time.

My partner and I had Sterling over last night for two 90 minute therapeutic massages. Sterling is absolutely gorgeous, and exceptionally capable. The massage was focused primarily on therapeutic needs and recovery from athletic training. However, Sterling‘s demeanor brought plenty of tenderness and sensuality into a very professional experience. I would happily hire him again for the sensual treatment. Sterling is an athlete with a thorough understanding of human anatomy, very strong hands, and solid intuition. I highly recommend him.

I hook up a fair amount in SF/Oakland. I have about ten fuck buds, with varying frequencies of meetings. I occasionally try out new guys, and let older connections go when the spark has faded for one of us. Occasionally I meet with a new guy who is emotionally vacant. But usually I am able to draw out emotional connection by being confident, vulnerable, and persistent in getting a guy to let loose. I typically try to get a sense of the other guy’s fantasies so I can see if we’re compatible. I don’t know if that’s helpful. It’s difficult to be vulnerable oneself if the other guy is guarded.

This is really the sort of thing a good psychotherapist can help with. He can be someone you can also pay to be real, open, and vulnerable with, but the outcome will be greater self awareness.

If an escort can just take a few minutes to establish compatibility, it’ll seal the deal for me. A polite amount of chatter/flirtation in the initial coordination conversation is essential. If the guy is only interested in his rate and what hour, I’ve learned to bow out. My provider should be willing to briefly explore what I’m turned on by. Be a gentleman.

We are certain that Herqulez and Apexxxalpha are the same guy?

If you would like to confine the definition of a phrase that is widely used, from middle schools to workplaces, to only what you have observed yourself in porn on X, have at it. You might however also consider that your narrow niche of observation is not sufficient to be weighing in here, and that you are out of touch with contemporary slang.

We met up in SF yesterday for an outcall at my place. His rate is reasonable, and the services are always mind-blowing. I try to meet him whenever he comes to town. He is genuinely interested in client fantasies.

Sorry, bro. Any behavior which would put at risk my livelihood and standing within my professional community qualifies as a lapse in judgment. If you want to be known in your own professional circle as “that guy who everyone saw bringing a hooker up into his room” then go knock yourself out. I would hate to see where you placed the bar for “lapses in judgment.”

No, it doesn’t involve a sex act. “Serving cake” can just mean having a great ass. If I am walking around the neighborhood in tight shorts that make my ass look really good, I am “serving cake.“ ”Serving” is drag slang. To “serve” is to present oneself in an intentional way. “Serving butch” means being intentionally masculine. “Serving fish” means being convincingly feminine. It’s really spun off into a lot of fun directions, but it’s not a sex act. It’s just presentation.

It means you have a great ass. “Cake” is ass.

It sounds like you are in the market for a provider who can do incalls. If I were you, I’d cancel this hotel meet up. If that guy can’t host you, I would apologize and opt out (prioritize your risk avoidance over his feelings of disappointment - he’ll be pissed). Get back on RM and find a guy who can host you for an hour. Bigger picture: you might consider how your lapse in judgement here might be because your subconscious self is tired of being in the closet and is desperate to be found out by people who are close to you. Maybe it’s time to think about coming out in a way that isn’t embarrassing or professionally risky.