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I've been asked several times by potential clients to meet me and chat about my escort services. I generally don't charge so long as it is local and if the proposed client wants to buy a drink or lunch, I'm totally open. From those I have had, almost all have been successful and all but one have booked me after. The one that didn't was in town on business and hasn't been back as of yet. We'll see. The bottom line is, the business is yours, if you want to make the time or not, it's a decision you make. I don't htink there is a "right or wrong", but what makes sense to you.

Halloween is always a varied kind of event here in Kansas. Sometimes warm and pleasant, sometimes chilly (as this year). If on a weekend, maybe a party or a great social activity to attend. Some years I dress up and have a little fun with trick or treaters. This year will likely just be a "hand out the candy" approach. My beagle, "Gabe" will be dressed as my "assistant" to celebrate. He always likes to greet visitors. You come to my door, be prepared. You might get get a treat or a prank.... Have a great Halloween, what will you be doing tonight?

Members 525 Posted just now No doubt they would. I wonder if kissing or a blow job could be incorporated as a means of compensation. haha

I tend to like my example of a plaintiff at trail without a cause of action or evidence and the judge just throws it out of court....lol

Everyone has their own views. We just disagree on this one.

Very sad indeed. Thoughts and prayers to his family.

I suppose anything is possible, but for a provider not to kiss or provide oral is like an attorney going into court with the plaintiff asserting a cause of action without evidence. Kind of lame. Both could be "laughed out"....

My only issue is whether I have enough candy. Not expecting a huge number of kids, much like my previous neighborhood, but I'll be ready. I'll have one of my beagles dressed up as well, we are the reception committee.

Other areas of my business life have an effect....lol

I think a consultation is appropriate, even if it is something as simple as an exchange of messages. I realize some clients may want to discuss by phone, text or even in person. I've had several face to face discussions with potential clients in person (one via zoom) about my work as a provider. I should not have any objection and take the time to make sure the client is comfortable and all reasonable questions are addressed.

I can understand your approach with regard to health issues and you are certainly prudent to take care of yourself first. I believe for my own peace of mind, I need to start with a "healthy slate" and know I'm doing the best for all concerned. As far as meeting with the proposed client, no I didn't charge. I never charge when meeting with a client about proposed services. I've had them buy me a drink or lunch or even dinner, but I have never charged a client for a consultation.

I would discourage this kind of contact. It would be easy to view it an intrusive. A critic might observe that you are placing your desire to contact him above his need for privacy. I'm not concurring with that sentiment, but understand, it isn't the normal approach to contact a provider and I certainly would encourage the "normal path". If he doesn't respond, I'd find someone who will.

Clarity and professionalism are always expected. Mistakes can happen. Sometimes it communicates more to a client on how (in this case the provider) operates. This can happen in business on all levels. I think you made the right decision.

So I had a client referral and he had asked to meet with me before booking. It does happen occasionally and think it's a great idea to meet in advance and make sure each are comfortable. I personally view one on one communication in person to be helpful in learning what the client views as important with the session and address any questions they may have for me. The new client asked me, "so I hear you are dedicated to fitness and health issues and if you are, why do you escort"? We had a serious conversation about that and discussed my views as to regular testing (and not just HIV, the complete review). We talked about risks inherent in the job and the value I place on my work and the client. He seemed satisfied with my answers and he booked me. Now most clients don't ask me how often I test or if I'm negative. I'm asked if I'm on Prep (which I am). For providers, I'm curious as to the number of your own clients that discuss this topic and the approach you take. For clients, what stance do you take (or do you) with those you hire?

Let's hope it warms back up for you. Seems very early for that.

It was 92 last Saturday, things do change.

Incredible weekend last week. This one is a little different with the 80's disappearing, replaced by chilly temps and less than advantageous weather outside. Normally very active outside, but spending a few minutes with the beagles and some great gym time. Will be working too. How is your weekend looking?

I have had several strongly encourage my attendance. Looking forward to seeing friends and new friends. Should be a great spring getway!

I would think I should be surprised when hearing something like this, but not at all!

Not at all. I hand out candy to trick or treaters each year. First Halloween in the new house, so will have to kind of guess as to numbers, but shouldn't be overwhelming. Wishes to all for a great spooky time!

Well first, as a provider, I appreciate your approach. I would concur with some of what has been said above. If an hour isn't sufficient for you (and most are not), then 2 hours might be the real answer based on what you listed. Communication, discussion and a little extra time for the provider. He should appreciate your extra effort. I would.

I doubt if I would accept a "burger" from McDonalds in any case. haha I remember watching the "Dahmer" movies as a kid and it scared the shit out of me. As an adult and doing this kind of work requires a real awareness of the possibilities and act with prudence. My main point.

I need to put out my bait trays in my garage.......LOL

All professional escorts should be aware and take appropriate steps. I think to get too comfortable is a mistake. Precautions are always important. As far as the Dahmer program, I don't feel the need to do it, so long as I don't forget there are potential men like him out there.