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Not Chicago, but there was a guy in Boston known for that. I think it was Collin. Or similar. He might also have something in Georgia or one of the Carolinas as I think he commuted back and forth with some regularity because of his grandparents.

Also wondering if he proofed it down…You shouldn’t drink the stuff straight from the still.

I’m planning to siphon my first real attempt at wine tonight. I’ll sample it before aging it with oak. If it’s dreadful, it will become vodka 😂

That’s not really at all different than most if not all birds today. But then again – chickens are supposed to be descendants of t-rex, so not surprising. I do find these sorts of things interesting!

I wouldn’t hire if sex weren’t part of the arrangement.

Well, this is very good news! Going to see my own AGI come down now too. 💯

Is that free and clear WITH the SD? To date if you took the SD, charitable donations didn’t matter unless you could itemize. Raising the SD a few years ago really hammered us as a non-profit in budgeting.

I read the effective break on OT deductions is 2%. And yes – it sunsets. The corporate break is effectively 14% and doesn’t have an expiration date in this bill’s iteration. That’s not stopping the next Congress or president from changing either of those things, though. Nothing is static around taxation policy.

You’re not hearing me. You are extrapolating from your own experience to say mine must be similar – or has the potential to be so. Bully for you that it’s smooth sailing.

A variation on “Some guys like fat guys.” I imagine the people saying that patting me on the head like a cute lapdog with my tongue lopping out the side of my mouth. “Ahhhh, poor puppy.”

That’s actually good – 👍🏻

No doubt. Escorts aren’t going to change the fact that some guys will contact escorts with no intention to hire or who are generally uncouth. Railing against such guys happens here – by providers and clients on behalf of escorts alike – to the point it’s a trope. If there were a sensible way to get the metric, it would be interesting to rate of unpleasant, unsuccessful interactions for clients versus escorts. By sheer volume, providers likely have more bad characters, but I’m willing ti easily believe clients face more flaking behavior, at least when seeking a particular “type” of provider.

You articulated this so, so well… Thank you!

I’m always assured there are guys who like “fat” in the gay community. I don’t really believe it except for a small, small niche, fetish crowd. Your lock, stock, and barrel assessment of “fat” in wholly negative terms while highlighting potential positive attributes to “issues” men may view negatively on themselves seems to validate my view that “fat” is indeed almost exclusively seen as negative, however. There may be a “movement” for “fat acceptance” or “body positivity,” but it’s largely having zero effect on wider culture. And the saying “Some guys like fat guys” as a response to someone who feels disadvantaged because he’s fat as a way to encourage him or hearten his dejection is really not borne out by reality—especially the reality of the fat guy. It would be like saying to a blind person, “Michelangelo’s David is just as impressive when you touch it as when you look at it.” There could be some potentially outlying truth instances of that for some, but not really anything statistically noteworthy.

My brother-in-law just asked me about the tax OT as he puts in a lot of OT. I had to confess ignorance because the tax component of the bill wasn’t my primary concern. I saw some information earlier today about the OT implications, however, and this seems to align with that as well. Overall this seems like a helpful, neutral article about a fraught issue. My tax situation is very complicated, so I will be relying on my accountant to sort it out for me. I will unlikely be unaffected by any tax provision, though. Time will tell!

I’m not annoyed. I’m saying it’s out of the norm and to say it is normal simply because the provider gets to set the terms, whatever they may be, doesn’t necessarily make it normal. I assure you – I’m not annoyed by asking for a picture. I have no problem passing on from that. I am annoyed by people telling me something is what it’s not and I am annoyed by people telling me I’m saying something I’m not simply because it doesn’t fit with their desires. By all means. Again – I have no issue here. My issue is the idea that because a guy has physical assets he’s entitled to demand from me unreasonable requests outside the norm for engagement as far as my physical assets (or lack thereof) go. It’s not that he can’t make limitations on his engagement; certainly he can. The decent thing to do, though, isn’t to react in a shallow, insulting, dehumanizing way toward another person. It’s important for providers to understand they too are dealing with people as well. By asking for a picture to determine if it’s a match for a provider, it crosses into a fuzzy area. The provider understands he will be assessed at every angle when he puts his monetizable assets out there and there will be guys who don’t resonate with that. But a client goes expecting that the options are wide for him, irrespective of his physical traits, because by and large, thankfully, providers don’t discriminate based on superficial features that would be precluding outside a financial transaction. In a sense, the money lowers the bar for participation and raises the bar for success. It’s one of the primary reasons that many of us hire, in fact. Because we don’t fit the bill for free affection. So when we are simultaneously paying and expected to be conventionally fuck-worthy, that hits us twice as clients. And to be judged unworthy by an escort…”he won’t even take money to fuck me”…that stings. And frankly, to say that it’s lump it or leave it fails to recognize the humanity of the client just as much as a client who fails to recognize the autonomy of a provider who thinks because he’s paying he gets to demand unreasonable things…or said another way, that the provider isn’t just an object but is a person and neither is the client. Many of us clients have plenty of reminders in our day-to-day lives we don’t measure up without someone who markets himself as available telling us “just not for you.” As far as determining that based off a picture goes, I’d say that a more polite out for an escort to decline a potential client based on physical attributes would be to come up with something other than those physical attributes as an excuse, but if the decline happens after sharing a picture, that would be patently obvious as a “lie” just to save the feelings of the other person. A step in the right direction of not telling the would-have-been client “You’re not my type,” but still the same message even if not said. I agree with @purplekow that if I give basics like I’m a 350lbs, balding, middle-aged white man, that should be plenty of information to determine physical capability if absolutely necessary for a provider. (I typically do as a matter of course; I’m saying it’s a potential pitfall for hurting the feelings of a client, but my cynical side says an escort who sets such physical expectations likely doesn’t give many fucks about his clients’ feelings.) This isn’t about setting parameters, at least not for me. For me, this is about being entitled to meet particular standards to please an escort primarily as opposed to the escort looking to please me primarily. I’m not understanding why that’s such a hard thing to accept – that it’s the escorts job to pleasure the client and the client’s responsibility to pay for that. It’s not my job to please the escort…I may be happy to do it (I do aim to be accommodating, in fact) but it’s not my job…

I like the expression “ordinarily ugly!” 🤣

I’ve been surprised at the animosity some have here toward a discussion. We can go on for 58 pages with banality about cocks and asses or OF or IG, but let us talk 4 pages about actual escorting and at some point someone will feel compelled to interject in such a way that suggests the discussion is moot. You’ll see me do it too. My favorite way of highlighting something I’m not willing to invest in, tired of hearing about, and unable to contribute something relevant to is posting this gif. It makes me laugh out loud every time I see it.

I do think there's a line between discussion around different views and debating. It's can be rewarding to have discussions with someone who disagress with you. Some of the best discussions about government and politics I've had with people who would never vote the way I do…but they're reasonable, intelligent people who don't just reformulate what you say, "That's not how it is." It’s about knowing where the line is… I also have a very, very low tolerance for regurgitated or reformulated talking points – be they about politics or just any topic that has somehow polarized people. If you're just going to represent someone else's ideas without reflection, or reflection simply to the point of rewording, I grow tired quickly of the discussion. I don't have evidence to support this, but my sense is also that those who double down the hardest are those who haven't done much of their own personal reflection on whatever the topic at hand is.

Some people have a natural charisma. I haven’t decided if that’s a blessing or a bane…

Having to footnote everything in a conversation and ready to defend it with sources kills stimulating back-and-forth. That said, there are definitely those who’ve formed opinions divorced of any kind of reality-based facts. And are happy to spout them. I believe if you’re a semi-aware person in today’s world, you should be able to have a conversation about various topics without needing to verify everything you say. And if you’re talking with semi-aware people they should be respectful enough to disagree without being disagreeable. Sadly, we live in a world where discussing things doesn’t happen anymore but instead we debate and argue to come out “convincing” or “winning.” I can fall victim to this. Try to take leave of a fruitless argument and you’re perceived as weak or stupid. But sometimes it’s better to just shake the dust off your feet and say you’re done, no matter if the others feel you’re a weakling or they “won.” The thing about wrestling with swine in the sty is the pigs enjoy it and in the end everyone is still covered in mud and shit.

So can I. Then again, although not an escort, I am a service professional. Hence why I know of what I speak. I guess because it’s illegal, escorting means it’s exempted from the same standard of client expectation as other service professionals. Escorting seems exempted from anything and everything until it’s not…It’s to respected as a professional enterprise but not expected to behave like a professional enterprise. ✅ I don’t appreciate having someone insult my intelligence by insisting the sky is green when we all know it’s blue.

Delusional- (Latin delusio from de- away + ludere play mock) adj. persisting in false beliefs despite evidence.

I’d be permanently banned. 😏