SometimesBi

I had correspondence with a man out of state who made a request along these lines.
He acknowledged upfront that it might come across as rude, and then explained that he had been attacked by a group of Latino men decades ago. He said my appearance reminded him of them, described my look as “scruffy,” and said it was the least sexy a man could be. He then asked that, if I visited, I change how I dress and groom to better suit his comfort.
Setting aside that I’m not even Latino, I found the framing uncomfortable. There’s a difference between a light, reversible request, like specific clothing or grooming for a scene, and asking someone to alter their overall appearance based on a personal association like that.
For me, presentation is intentional and part of how I express myself. I think it’s important that both provider and client can show up feeling genuinely comfortable and attracted to each other as they are. If the baseline attraction isn’t there, it makes more sense to find a better match than to try to reshape someone to fit a preference.

You know, ANY body part crossing the finish line first is a win 😚

We already have a site. We discuss clients and share useful information about them such as dick size, body shape and whether they know how to suck a cock. They get a rating on various aspects of their ability as a client. 
There’s 8 scores that all add up to an overall rating. When you’ve seen a client you put his scores into the system and it calculates the client’s overall rating. That is then used to help us decide what to charge or indeed whether to respond atall to the client’s enquiry. 
The 8 scores are:
1) Desirability: 1 to 10 (where 10 is provider level desirability). Obviously on the site the scores 5 to 10 are greyed out since it’s not possible to award those. 
2) Interest: 1 to 10. This is an indication of whether the client is able to hold a conversation on anything other than his desire to get off. 
3) Communication: -10 to 10. An evaluation of his opening enquiry. ‘Hey’ gets a minus 10 score. Dick pics -11 which actually throws the system and deletes the client’s profile. The administrators are trying to fix that. Clients: don’t send dick pics if you want to keep your profile on the system.
4) Kindness: 1 to 3. The score used to go up to 10 but it never got used. 
5) Hygiene : 1 to 10. This score has a multiplier. It’s worth 2X the other scores when calculating the overall rating.
6) Ease of use: 1 to 10. Includes aspects like does he arch his back or just lie there like a sack of potatoes. (Yes I’m thinking of you- yesterday’s client…you score 1 on this).
7) Ability: 1 to 6. Not much is expected tbh. 
8). Defrayment: 1 to 10. Does he pay without haggling and how much is tipped. 
These 8 scores: or the D.I.C.K.H.E.A.D rating for short all add up over time to give us an indication of how suitable the client is to be seen. 
The system is hosted in the British Virgin Islands…so there’s no hassle with data protection. If any clients are wondering why they often get no reply from providers it could be they need to work on their Dickhead rating. 



 



 

 

You know, ANY body part crossing the finish line first is a win 😚

You know, ANY body part crossing the finish line first is a win 😚

You know, ANY body part crossing the finish line first is a win 😚

You know, ANY body part crossing the finish line first is a win 😚

On the other hand, if the top is counting his multiple orgasms, I could handle that 🥰

Something I'd like to add:
If a provider wanted to top me bare, I'd almost prefer one that is pos/undetectable/U=U status.
Why?
1. He's going to be on all sorts of medications to maintain the undetectable status. 
2. He's going to be getting tested... a lot... for the same reason. 
3. He's going to be far more honest about his status.

I don't remember much about the PE showers in my youth (late 70s, early 80s), but for an experience with boys and men naked together, there was one year, one time, at scout camp.
This year was a plain old summer camp (not at a formal camp with day programs, just free-form camping in the mountains).
One of the days, the troop had been hiking around a couple small lakes. Somehow, the suggestion of skinny dipping came up. So, about 2/3rds of the troop (but not me, I was too shy), along with the scoutmaster and assistant, stripped naked and went swimming in the lake. 
Nothing unusual back then. Indeed, I bet the cold lake prevented anything embarrassing from ... popping up. 

I don't remember much about the PE showers in my youth (late 70s, early 80s), but for an experience with boys and men naked together, there was one year, one time, at scout camp.
This year was a plain old summer camp (not at a formal camp with day programs, just free-form camping in the mountains).
One of the days, the troop had been hiking around a couple small lakes. Somehow, the suggestion of skinny dipping came up. So, about 2/3rds of the troop (but not me, I was too shy), along with the scoutmaster and assistant, stripped naked and went swimming in the lake. 
Nothing unusual back then. Indeed, I bet the cold lake prevented anything embarrassing from ... popping up. 

Something I'd like to add:
If a provider wanted to top me bare, I'd almost prefer one that is pos/undetectable/U=U status.
Why?
1. He's going to be on all sorts of medications to maintain the undetectable status. 
2. He's going to be getting tested... a lot... for the same reason. 
3. He's going to be far more honest about his status.

The OP asks the question of IF the past incident should be brought up. It sounds like you really want to, regardless of suggestions or concerns others have replied with.
So then I submit that you should now be thinking of WHEN to bring it up. 
If you are truly attracted to him, I would NOT bring it up too early. Definitely not before meeting, and possibly not until the second or even the third date. Establish a connection, and if it is strong, then bring up a "...you know, I think I just realized something from the past..." type of conversation. 
Just remember, it will almost surely play out just like those romance movies, and could cause a rift in your friendship. If they aren't feeling a strong attraction to you before you bring this up, it could end things. This is dangerous territory. 
Good luck.

The OP asks the question of IF the past incident should be brought up. It sounds like you really want to, regardless of suggestions or concerns others have replied with.
So then I submit that you should now be thinking of WHEN to bring it up. 
If you are truly attracted to him, I would NOT bring it up too early. Definitely not before meeting, and possibly not until the second or even the third date. Establish a connection, and if it is strong, then bring up a "...you know, I think I just realized something from the past..." type of conversation. 
Just remember, it will almost surely play out just like those romance movies, and could cause a rift in your friendship. If they aren't feeling a strong attraction to you before you bring this up, it could end things. This is dangerous territory. 
Good luck.

Reporting from Spain. What a treat! 
We met yesterday morning at 10am (I know it feels early but my provider told me it works to keep stamina going as you are fresh) and we finished past 10pm when everybody went home. 
Thank you all for your advice! I followed all the tips and it worked like a charm. 
It was a very intense yet amazing experience and I’m still thinking about it. Once the session was over I ate something as I hadn’t eating in two days (only liquid diet with protein), took a shower and went to bed and slept like a baby for 9 hours straight. I was beat. Walking up now in Madrid and my hole is still pulsating from yesterday’s marathon but so proud of him because he did work out like a good boy. 
The guys arrived at 10am and all looking great. My provider was not lying. They are all friends and have a great rapport. We started getting naked and moving into the bedroom. I booked an Airbnb with a Cal King bed. They are not normal in Spain so I looked and looked until I found a place that worked for the five of us. We started making out with my provider being the ring leader (he told me he will take charge for a great experience). 
My provider knows that I love rimming so he instructed the guys to all go on their fours on the bed so I had a view of all their asses and I could go around rimming each of them. The guys were all in the bed making out with each other as I was eating one ass after another. I took some poppers and a viagra (so I didn’t lose my erection) and I went to town. Then a couple of them moved and starting sucking each other and the others turned around and put their legs up in the air so I could rim them and suck them at the same time. They grabbed me and started sucking me while I had a guy seating on my face. Then I noticed they raised my legs and started rimming me. It’s amazing to be rimmed while rimming someone else. My provider instructed the guys to take turns so I had one rimming me, one sucking me and one of them sitting on my face so I could rim him. And then they keep switching. They keep putting their fingers inside of me and opening me up. They gave me some poppers and I could send my ass opening up as I was in heaven with the attention. Then my main provider put a pillow under my back and the guys started lining up and the fuckfest begun. One after another starting giving me their dicks while my main provider fed me some poppers and his own dick. I used the pig snout for poppers and no spills which was great. One after the other they kept drilling my hole and I loved it. Then after don’t know how long they turned me around with my legs spread over the bed, my dick hanging out and my ass propped up. And one after the other gave fucking me as I was stroking my dick. I was a dog in heat. I don’t know why but the moment one of them took their dick out my ass was pulsating asking for more. I didn’t want them to stop. My dick was hard from the viagra and my main provider asked if I wanted to do some train fucking. We moved around and I buried my cock in my main provider’s ass while I had one of the guys fucking me from behind. I asked the others if they wanted to join and they agreed and we did a five man train fuck. The room had a large mirror so seeing the reflection of the train fuck was amazing. I don’t know what time it was but time was going fast. We had some sodas and protein bars and continued as my main provider was so kind not to let the party die down. We tried so many posturers. I went on the top of the bed grabbing to the bed frame with guy after guy drilling me from behind. The guys stood on the bed one next to each other and I went sitting in one guy to the next to the next. At one point my body was on the floor with my back against the side of the bed, my legs up in the air open wide and the guys entering from above. The more cock I got the more I wanted. It was pretty intense. I loved when they took turns fucking me on my fours while I was eating a guy’s ass. And then they kept taking turns so another guy to rim and another fucking me. By the time it was the last hour I was in bliss and it was time for release (they had been holding really well - one came at one point but recovered shortly after but the others are pros at regulating) so they put me once again with my legs spread on my fours with my cock hanging and my ass propped up and one after the other went to town in my ass until they came. I had all loads in me and they kept fucking me. They tuned me around and they all started sucking me and stroking me and fingering me until I blew a huge load. Fuck. That was insane. The guys showered, we chatted for a bit and they all left and I was left all spent and happy in bed. I went took a shower, left my children out (haha), ate something and onto bed. I just woken up and I won’t lie if I’m not a bit tired or sore but all pretty good and the memories will last a long time. Thank you all for your advice and for your help prepping for this session. I know it was a splurge but Spain is the place to do it as in the US that would have cost me 3 times as much. But it was pretty amazing. 

Maybe 5% grab my attention; 15% after applying filters. I too have been finding Austin enticing. When I’m at my place near Seattle, I make trips to Vancouver, where the selection is far superior to Seattle.

Ok, now I gotta ask: Do you really think that once you got going, that you could restrain yourself to just the 5 inch depth? I'd expect the urge would just be too strong for you to not, eventually, push all the way in. 😉 

While it’s true that plenty of clients skim ads and waste providers’ time with questions like “Can you host?” even when the answer is clearly stated, the frustration definitely goes both ways. Providers can be just as guilty, many ignore messages completely, don’t bother to read client profiles with key info like preferences or boundaries or reply with vague copy-paste responses that barely address what was asked. This kind of mutual negligence isn’t unique to this industry, it happens everywhere.
Here’s a typical scenario I’ve run into way too often. When I reach out to a provider for the first time, usually when they’re listed as “available” on the site, my message includes four simple questions: rates, whether they’re comfortable with my expectations for the session, their availability on a given date and, if they host, a general idea of their location.
What happens next? I might get partial answers to one or two questions usually a day or two later. So I follow up with the remaining questions. If another couple of days go by without a clear response, I move on. From their perspective, I’m now a “time waster” because I texted twice and didn’t book. From mine, they’re the time waster because I spent days just trying to get basic information. So… who’s really in the wrong here?

Wait, what? Is that a Russia thing, giving up your passports? Or were you just putting them in the hotel safe? 

Back to the OP, here's my suggestion. Set up the car wash/detail. But ALSO plan to be shirtless in shorts yourself (it'll be a hot day, right). Chat a bit as he's getting started on the car. Remember, he may have noticed your eyes wandering while he was talking to you last week. Watch to see if his eyes wander. An opportunity to have a more sexual conversation may present itself. Maybe you'll bring up RM, or maybe he will volunteer it himself (or even just let things develop all the way, and you get a freebie) 
He's on RM. He knows how to be discreet. It sounds like you are, too. I would not expect any complications with neighbors. 

Back to the OP, here's my suggestion. Set up the car wash/detail. But ALSO plan to be shirtless in shorts yourself (it'll be a hot day, right). Chat a bit as he's getting started on the car. Remember, he may have noticed your eyes wandering while he was talking to you last week. Watch to see if his eyes wander. An opportunity to have a more sexual conversation may present itself. Maybe you'll bring up RM, or maybe he will volunteer it himself (or even just let things develop all the way, and you get a freebie) 
He's on RM. He knows how to be discreet. It sounds like you are, too. I would not expect any complications with neighbors. 

Back to the OP, here's my suggestion. Set up the car wash/detail. But ALSO plan to be shirtless in shorts yourself (it'll be a hot day, right). Chat a bit as he's getting started on the car. Remember, he may have noticed your eyes wandering while he was talking to you last week. Watch to see if his eyes wander. An opportunity to have a more sexual conversation may present itself. Maybe you'll bring up RM, or maybe he will volunteer it himself (or even just let things develop all the way, and you get a freebie) 
He's on RM. He knows how to be discreet. It sounds like you are, too. I would not expect any complications with neighbors. 

The problem is, the provider charges more for 2 "clients" vs 1 client+1provider.
So contact the provider again, only this time say you'd like the 3way again, with a different additional provider, that you've already hired and will pay separately (that is what you did the first time?). Then the main provider's rate should go back to 300. 
Just be sure your friend role-plays his part in this.
 

Gee, and here I was hoping this topic would have revealed the finger pic as a way for the provider to suggest he offers prostate massage 😏😁