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Actually I just looked the one who emailed me up, he wasn't even 40, he was less than 10 years older than me.

Oh, I forgot, when I was in my late 20s a pair of 40ish doctors in Manhattan hit me up on gay.com telling me they were looking for a third in a houseboy/poly kind of situation. They were quite attractive too. I felt my profile pic at the time was probably the best picture I have ever taken in terms of how attractive I was and I didn't feel like I live up to it, plus I sort of felt like I had gone to too good a college to wind up as a houseboy, so I demurred. Eh, I'd probably have gotten hooked on drugs and OD'ed(one was a pain specialist and I have significant back issues).

Never know, you might have done got yourself killed. You don't know he knew what he was doing.

did you see him naked in the hot tub at least?

The effect of PreP isn't just limited to the people who use it, because they aren't only barebacking with each other. If HIV is one's only concern, even if they themselves aren't on PreP, they would likely be willing to bareback with a person they knew was on it.

When I was 35 a 19 year old of my acquaintance wanted to have sex with me one summer night in the city. I felt weird about it and backed out. (There were also some logistical challenges - due to us living in opposite directions each an hour away we would have needed to get a hotel room and I was too self-conscious to check in with someone so obviously younger for so obvious a reason). 12 years later he's hotter than ever but living across the country and I am still kicking myself.

TG, seems likely to me they just don't want a discussion about illegal activity that contains their picture in the upper left corner preserved in perpetuity once they've decided(for whatever reason) not to go with you. Suppose they said not then you got hostile, screenshotted the conversation and posted it all over the internet? That could cause them trouble.

Grindr used to let you delete conversations without blocking. I think you could even block just individual messages - so you could just delete the pics, for example. Now you can't do that so the only way to delete is to block the person.

No, I'm saying I've stuck around at a losing table just to sit next to a cute guy.

I'm not concerned myself about Grindr privacy - it's what kind of backdoor it provides them into everything else on phones.

It seems like rather cheap espionage. We are currently investigating the president for being a Russian stooge. Do you really think these countries don't spy on us and hold information in their back pocket? We do the same too no doubt. It's not like China has a stellar record of human rights and privacy protections where it would be totally out of the realm of reasonableness to think they might want a backdoor into US communications.

It's not about you. It's about the many people who don't post face pics and then send nudes with face etc in their private messages. Some of whom are government officials who make decisions that affect China's interests.

Tassojunior, have you considered geting her a flip phone? They do exist and she'd be able to figure that out at least.

There were probably some women who found Bill Cosby sexually attractive too.

It should absolutely be a penalty if not a suspension if continued. It's sexual harrassment/low-grade assault as well as unsanitary.

I find it kind of irritating that Estelle Parsons at 90 seems to be getting around better than I am at not yet 50...

Sounds like he had a friend at the hotel he got you in. I can't imagine a hotel clerk had the coin to put you up on his dime.

Also, your best odds are at the buffet. Your best other odds are at the hotel spa steamroom.

I've been surprised just how rare hot male dealers are. There are a couple, but for the most part they are not distracting.

Eh, I think since it's impossible to read minds it's impossible to really know what's going on. There is so much internalized/societal shame about sexuality/gender that I think some people are so fucked up they don't know themselves. I mean, lots of 40something married men come out and say they used to be attracted to women but now are gay and had no idea. I strongly suspect many of those guys are lying through their teeth and trying to save face because of guilt over misleading their wives. And then the guys for whom bi is a stepping stone on the road to gay. Some of them, yeah. All of them? no. (Please note I do believe bisexuals exist, and in fact that there are more of them than of homosexuals, just that a lot of guys inching out of the closet abuse the label.)

I go to Vegas several times a year. Don't pick the table to play at based on how hot the guys sitting there are. That's always an expensive proposition.

The above said, the fact something is one of several contributing factors doesn't mean it's inappropriate to ever criticize it. I see more people bitching about stigma at the slightest suggestion there is anything we could be doing differently than I see doing actual stigmatizing.

I think they'd been increasing in general as the treatability of HIV itself in fact reduced people's fear of that. The surge in 15-24 year-olds getting stuff is just as much due to the social acceptability of men having sex with men. I agree that PreP is a contributor, but there are several confounding variables. 1)HIV itself, the fear of which drove people to use condoms who otherwise would not have, is not longer a death sentence. One can make a case that is portrayed as easier to deal with than it actually is, further contributing to this effect. 2)Homosexuality itself and even "dabbling" when not gay is MUCH more socially acceptable, leading to many more men starting gay sex in "the stupid years" when people are on average much less likely to be prudent. 3)Hookup culture in general - many more people have multiple partners. This is a mean versus median thing. Previously of people who had multiple partners serial monogamy was the most common way in which that happened. But now lots of people have multiple "friends with benefits" they go back and forth with which is, from a population standpoint, FAR riskier. You have a group of ten people who all hook up only with each other, that's a closed circle and if nobody has anything at the start, nobody is going to get anything. You have five people who hook up with only each other, but each also hooks up with five people outside that circle behaving similarly, that's a lot more likely to result in an outbreak of STIs.

I would guess he found that while he finds it not difficult to do those things with attractive guys, he discovered he has a harder time with guys he's less attracted to.

I exercise every single day and spend an hour on stretching/mobility alone. I was still awakened by my lower legs and feet painfully spasming nightly until I started the magnesium and they stopped.