John

Yes, it's frustrating, but the client who doesn't shop, never buys.

Is this the same guy?

https://www.romeo.com/hunq/ERICBRITO

If I were in Chicago, I'd contact him.  It would have to be an in-call as I don't mess with Uber.  The discounts are a double-edged sword.  He's going to say "You are not VGL, $50 more" ? Or, which would he rather have a foul-smelling, 20-year-old college troll or a handsome, fit 60-year-old?

Wouldn't touch him with a ten-foot pole.

There are a lot of sexy guys in the world that I would love to have in my bed, but would never want to be seen in public with.  This has nothing to do with "discretion," but rather whether or not the guy is presentable in terms of dress, manners, and education. Maybe invite him to your house for coffee and cake on Sunday afternoon first.

I guess I am the crank here.  What about:

"An in-call costs X.  If I go to you in the St. Regis downtown it costs x-plus."  Client has one number and doesn't have to cover a list of extra charges.  Many clients may be traveling on business and may not want an extra parking charge on the bill.

In addition, many cities in the US have free on-street parking downtown in the evening.  Don't spend the client's money needlessly.

Not me.  I may change my mind and like to know everything that is available.

I hired him in 2013.  It was one of the best hours of my life.  Both of us were very happy.  Eight years later I am not what I once was.  The encounter would probably be disappointing today (takes two to tango).  If I were in NYC I'd probably call, but I would be surprised (very!) if he remembered me.  Another meeting would be just a tribute to a good time long ago.

He is not as well endowed as his pics and text suggest.  But such enthusiasm!  I didn't miss a millimeter!

This is an old story here.  I am fine with paying more for an out call than an in call.  I assume the extra fee covers travel time and any costs.  I don't agree to pay for cabs because I don't know what I am getting in to.  I don't deal with Uber because I am not his secretary.  My boss expects me to get to the job site on my own. Why can't he?

OMG. My tongue is erect!

48 minutes ago, Lucky said:

If you haven't been to all of the bars, how can you say that one is better than any of them?

 

It's great to know favorites and to recognize that some are outside of major cities.

Every business has difficult and unreliable clients, mine does too.  Take it with a grain of salt and move on.  It's part of the territory.

From the little I see, I am interested, but offering massage and "fun" suggests I might not get much.

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5 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

I wouldn't take it personally.   He is probably busy with porn/only fans collaboration and product endorsements. Probably just have a rentmen ad up to attract that Saudi billionaire price who will offer to be his sugar daddy... 😉

He has seemingly been based in Tucson for a while.  I wrote him there and didn't hear back for ages.  In the end the reply was professional, but it was a long time coming.  I just think he doesn't pay much attention to his correspondence.

I often find that when I go to a provider's house I expect it to be as nice as mine and forget the places I lived when I was a 20- or 30-something.

I have also twice been to places that while immaculately clean and decently furnished were devoid of any personality or indications that someone actually lived there (in both cases I am sure the provider did). I always hope to see some signs of the provider's (I hate that word) life so that I might know him better for being in his home. 

There are risks in any encounter.  Actually rather more for the customer.  I think the provider can shoulder the "payment risk" and wait until the session is over. 

The idea that many providers require up-front payment is news to me, but most of my hiring is in continental Europe.

I simply think payment up front is tacky.  If I know in advance that I am expected to do so, I don't make the date.  I have only been surprised once.  If that happens again, I hope I have the balls to leave or to ask the escort to.

My experience is also is that it is rare for anyone to ask for payment upfront.  Generally I pay with as few bills as possible and at the end of the session hand them over spread out so that they can instantly be visually counted.

There is risk in every encounter for both sides.

I am not going to send a gift to see his private gallery.

1 hour ago, NJ_hiker said:

For some of these masseurs, it's all about outsmarting the client rather than providing excellent service. Best to avoid such providers and let them try real life at $15/hr. 

Right.

I hardly ever hire for massage as I don't know what I am going to get.

When I read something like:

" I enjoy shopping, traveling, meeting new people and maybe more depending on how we get along."

I wonder if i will get anything besides a big AMEX bill.

Every time I have used A4A I have never gotten an answer.  I don't think most guys there are real or serious. Not worth the trouble.

You can't control how the other guy reacts, only what you say.  If you are comfortable with the answer you gave, fine.  Let him go.

I think we should resist and refuse to pay a penny more than $300.

Well, let's put it this way:  if I am in the US and see an ad in Spanish, I assume I am not the escorts target.  If the ad is in English I read and consider.  If I am in Mexico and see an ad in Spanish I have the choice of fighting my way through or looking to see if the escort offers English as well.

Look through HUNQZ for countries in Northern Europe.  Ads in the native language AND English are common.  And many escorts whose native language is Spanish advertise in English only.