SouthOfTheBorder

agree. I identify as gay and have a husband. I love sex with men. I enjoy being around women and a sexy woman definitely gets my attention, although I haven’t had sex with a woman in years - I would definitely do it the right circumstances. It’s all about an energy exchange at the end. As for male sexual fluidity - I like the Brazilian concept of “Brotheragem” - meaning brotherhood sex and could be between gay/straight/bi men, in any combination of men who are just interested in mutual pleasure. It’s just about pleasure & the body.

It’s hard to say “mental illness” vs some other mild disorders affecting many people who lead normal lives with few problems. In her case, it was anything but a normal existence. So maybe relatively mild disorders were magnified by being in her situation. There’s no doubt she was manipulated by almost everyone around her for their own agendas. When the entire establishment was actively plotting against her, hacking her phones, spying on her personal life and trying to portray her as unstable/erratic/mentally unwell - then that has to have an effect at some point. Did she learn how to play the game & retaliate ? - absolutely yes. All you need to know about the circumstances around her death was that Camilla could never be Queen if Diana was still alive. Never, ever. Draw your own conclusions about what happened next. Is it a conspiracy theory to think she may have been intentionally murdered to eliminate her permanently as a threat to the Crown ? Yes, because there’s no proof it happened. Did the establishment remove Harry & Meghan’s security when they were most vulnerable and they knew there were credible threats on their lives ? Yes, they absolutely did that and it’s never been in dispute. They are capable of anything to preserve their position, privilege and the Crown - permanent elimination of enemies of the Crown has always been an option for them. Naive to think it can’t happen in modern times. The ghosts in this season aren’t necessary and detracts for the rest of it.

that makes sense - I haven’t heard anything about it in a long time. thank you

Johnson’s FTL has something for everyone & I don’t think any one body type or ethnicity dominates. It’s smart because customers have different preferences, so they make sure a wide range of types are performing. There are a few bodybuilder types, but that’s definitely not a majority of the guys. There are a lot of Latinos at Johnson’s FTL because there are alot of Latinos in Ft Lauderdale & Miami. They typically only allow 3-4 dancers on the stage at any given time and those guys perform for maybe ten minutes, then the next group comes. Some of the dancers arrive early/leave early, some arrive late & stay till closing…and a few are there opening to closing time. Stay long enough and your type will come along - probably several The dancers overall very friendly & move around the room when off-stage chatting with customers. I’ve never experienced pressure to tip or anything aggressive. There’s also a side bar area of Johnson’s FTL that opens earlier than main room. I like the midweek nights the best - crowded enough to feel busy, but not so packed that you can’t move. Lots of dancers every night. Always a good time when going with the expectation of no actual sex. It’s really a fun crowd and great to go with like minded friends. Friday & Saturday nights are super packed.

this happens a lot - providers posting ads in a city where they aren’t located and have no plans to go there. And a delayed response of a day or more is also common. the guys posting in other cities may be just to gauge client interest for a possible future trip. Or, they just want the inquires to build a bigger list of contacts. And I suppose some could be doing it in hopes of getting a deposit as a scam. an inquiry about availability, rate & location is not an obligation to schedule an appointment. And I don’t think it requires any explanation if the client decides not to book. I’ve decided not to book some providers after an initial inquiry just based on providers attitude & tone in the text. If the rate is more than I want to pay, I respect the providers rate & don’t want to get into a bargaining session. A simple thank you is all that’s required if something in the providers response causes a client not to schedule. If the text exchange inquiry is more than 1 or 2 texts from client, then an explanation is appropriate because now the client is wasting providers time.

Is the Bb venue being discussed Paddles in Chelsea ? Not my favorite place, but it’s kind of take it or leave in NYC due to lack of options. Seems like I remember one small bathroom only or maybe 2 - but not anywhere near what’s needed in that sort of venue & with the crowds when it’s busy. Maybe it’s changed ? - haven’t been there since before Covid.

if you’re building a trip around visiting one of those 2 clubs - FTL for the win without question. Johnson’s FTL is still great, friendly dancers, excellent mix re; types of guys & safe. It’s also located in a safe area w lots of other nightlife. Two other strip clubs if you tire of Johnsons’s, Club Ft Lauderdale (bathhouse/sauna) which is enormous, busy & clean. Beaches are very close & beautiful. And several dozen providers working between Ft Lauderdale & Miami if that is of interest. Johnson’s FTL open 6 nights of the week vs 4 nights Tampa. I’ve found some of the guys at FTL will make appointments to see clients off-site and not super complicated because most of them live in S Florida vs being flown in for a weekend in Tampa. These guys don’t advertise anywhere so it’s an in-person only contact situation & takes some extra effort. There’s just more potential money for dancers in FTL, so it’s always going to be better. Tampa is just not that interesting & doesn’t have the same options. Not even close. I wonder how they get the dancers to go to Tampa ? - it can’t be for the tips. I used to go to Johnson’s FTL because I was in town for other reasons. it may be disappointing if the expectations are high & you’re traveling for that reason only. A lot of teasing, maybe a feel & a taste in a very short period of time. There’s no privacy in either club. Manage your expectations- there’s no actual sex on-site.

I appreciate you being vulnerable in disclosing this information - super helpful because I think this is frequent thought. and I think you’re in a really good place to expand your experiences. Lots of new clients have issues w guilt & shame around the idea of paid sex & all that entails. You don’t express any of that. So, that’s a huge win already & you’re ahead of the game. With more experience you will gain confidence. And for me, it’s been liberating & empowering to own my desires and make it happen, without shame, guilt, apologies or explanations. Hiring providers also forces me to confront my own hangups - because to get what I want, I must communicate that clearly to a provider and come to agreement. I can’t just think someone might know what I’m thinking or expecting. I’m not talking about a scripted encounter - but the basics and anything that might be a necessity. I’m also in a relationship, so that forces clear communication with my partner about things I used to consider uncomfortable. This is a huge opportunity for personal growth - depending on how you look at it & proceed. And lots & lots of pleasure. Enjoy !

there are very few escorts who attempt to screen clients based on looks and/or how sexually attractive a potential client may be. if you get that vibe in any way - go the other way & cross that provider off your list. It’s not a sustainable business model for the provider and just shows they aren’t professional and probably haven’t been around very long. The sex would probably be bad too. In some circumstances, I could see the provider asking for a pic after a meeting is setup, just as a security measure & not as a way to screen clients. I frequently choose to send a face pic as an introduction if I don’t know the provider - only to show that I’m serious, a real person and not wasting his time. My sense is providers are inundated with anonymous requests & questions from guys that have no intention of an actual hire. A voluntary face pic seems to cut through the clutter on the providers end. It works for me. No provider is out of your league. Go for it.

true - yet I haven’t seen the same type comments re; physical attractiveness about other regions of Mexico compared to Sinaloa. It seems to be something that is commonly discussed and the people are very proud of it. References seems to include virility of the men w machismo mixed in.

I’ve read & heard the Sinaloans are thought to be among the most attractive people in Mexico. For real.

👆the most accurate statement in entire thread. gracias 🙏🏻

Since the OP brought up Mexico, in addition to San Diego - let’s give that some thought It’s possible there could be a city in Mexico that is completely off-the-radar and underserved by providers. A hidden little jewel so to speak. Ever heard of Culiacan, MX ? 1million people and no provider listings. Nicely situated near Gulf of California with mountains & hot springs nearby. Not far from Mazatlan and Cabo San Lucas. I suppose the one downside could be it’s the HQ of the Sinaloa Drug Cartel. But, those guys need some love too. Sounds a bit “Ozark” if you know the show - but what an adventure and evidently, no competition ! I love Mexico - it’s South of the Border !!!

you’ll have a great time. I’ve been going there for 16 years + with many visits each year. I’ve known about 6 the regulars there for at least 6 years and socialize with some of them outside the sauna. It’s consistently been the same over the years because the core clientele likes a certain type. There are some variations of course, but most are the guy-next- door body types that you’d find in Lagoa. The only real change since the pandemic is I don’t see the muscle guys so much anymore. I never understand the negative reviews here sometimes because I’ve just never experienced that in my dozens & dozens of visits. It leads me to believe the issue is not with Thermas or the working guys, but rather unrealistic expectations, bad attitudes or entitled behavior that is so common among tourists. The guys at Thermas (or any other similar sauna) have literally seen it all & have excellent BS detectors and avoid the people they perceive to be problematic. That too may explain some of the negative reviews here.

no - this is your standard response when members tell you the truth and this is also your standard response to anyone who questions the nonsense. Same exact reply in several threads

this is known as a posting history, which is contained in this thread

it has nothing to do with stating boundaries I’m a relatively new member here - less than a year, so I had no idea about your history on this site which goes back several years under a few different names. I didn’t go looking for your old posts - another member posted a link to some of your old posts that contained the same sort of nonsensical statements/questions/posts on a variety of topics. After briefly reviewing those posts & several long-time members reactions to those posts - the appearance is you are not interested in any real help or advice, just engaging members here with the nonsense. That’s the problem - people were sincerely trying to help you & you’re playing some sort of game and wasting everyone’s time. My sense now is that you go through episodes just like this, where you are found out, then a bunch of members place you on ignore and then you start again with unsuspecting people that don’t know your game. Then you run to the mods and complain, trying to get them to delete posts that look bad for you. Just my opinion - but I think every bit of this is bullshit and that seems to be a recurring theme because that’s what many members have posted in direct responses to you over the years. It’s easy to verify because it’s all here. In this case, screenshots are not your friend. You’ve been wasting peoples time for years here who were all trying to sincerely help you. Pathetic btw - your constant nonsense questions/posts about being an escort are insulting to the real escorts here, who are trying to really improve the way they do business and take this all seriously. The providers here make their living this way. It’s a job that requires a lot of skill, hard work & dedication - and you treat it like a joke. They aren’t here to pose hypothetical nonsense to generate controversy, get attention or kill time. Clearly, you do not make a living doing escort work. I can’t imagine any real client who would ever hire you based on how you present yourself here.

don’t waste your time guys - this is a pattern

I’m no longer so curious

the picky comment was because he indicated he wanted to select clients based on how they look & how sexually appealing they are to him - not because the potential clients were pleasant or unpleasant. broadly accepted - that’s not how it works. for lack of a better term, it’s delusional & called Grindr (for free) the nycboi / socurious shtick has been playing for quite some time - is it even real ?

appears there was a name change: nycboi > socurious yes ? several people have asked you to post your RM profile link - why not ? I’m so curious

that can be tricky - there are so many closures that you wouldn’t know about like parades routinely on the east side w major closures, construction, street fairs, security perimeters, accidents, etc. vast majority of taxi drivers are honest & know what they’re doing. I watch closely the first few moves and make suggestions if appears off-course. They almost always have a valid reason for doing what they’re doing if you ask. Rule of thumb - never get in a taxi when public trans will do. It’s faster & cheaper 90% of the time. I’ve never experienced the “tourist treatment” - they can tell very quickly if you live there or not. just by now you give the address.

I didn’t realize he’s 40 - a little late to be entering this game statistically, but not impossible. just improbable. Given he won’t kiss, won’t travel, doesn’t like to do his own marketing research & seems to be picky about the people he engages with - this career choice does not look promising.

Isn’t that the point ? Escorts, whether they know it or not, are creating a brand identify from the moment they enter the scene, usually by a listing on RM or similar site. From that moment going forward, the public brand or image is shaped by site reviews, Twitter, OnlyFans, personal appearances, forums word-of-mouth & self-participation in forums like this. All of that goes to image and reputation. I’m not sure that an escort complaining about all the typical escort issues in an online forum (that is populated by people who hire escorts) where the escorts identity is known and affects his brand or image is helpful. Some people might think the escort is too negative and others might think too uptight/rigid. Others might just be turned off by the complaining. I don’t think it has any upside for the escort, other than if it makes them feel better by venting. When I hire, I’m looking for a bit of an escape, adventure, fantasy & sex all rolled into one hour. And I want it to be easy. If there was an escort that I wanted to hire & was very public about all his complaints, troubles, frustrations, etc - i wouldn’t hire that person because maybe that negativity could show up in my appointment ? I’d choose to hire the person who presents publicly as happy, successful, fun & sexy. I want to maximize my chances of having a good experience and not get caught up in any provider negativity, however than manifests. Of course everyone has struggles & challenges - it’s how a person deals with them that makes the difference. A positive mindset is everything and if that can be created, then eventually positive things start to happen. And the reverse is also true.

exactly correct. However, it’s usually people with very little experience with lawyers that are quick to recommend getting a lawyer. The first thing they always offer is a letter & that can mean nothing in a legal context, except if it’s a Cease & Desist. Beyond that, it’s filing an actual lawsuit and that is completely unrealistic in the circumstances described. In my professional life, I worked with dozens of lawyers on every subject imaginable. It’s never quick, easy or inexpensive- even for obvious egregious basic things. Lawyers are in the business to make money - not get justice served. Even if you happen to find an honest attorney interested in offering real help, it’s still insanely expensive.