DunwoodyGuy

IMO massage guns are basically "phoning it in." 

I guess you’re saying this takes getting “hammered” to an entirely new level 😂

I've sent them messages when I see they've used "masseuse," telling them that many potential clients will assume they don't know what they're doing if they use that form of the word and not hire them. Some say thanks and change the word. Others get defensive or don't respond.

The initial answers are incorrect. The last few are correct. "Clean" is an ugly, outmoded word that meant "I do not have HIV or STDs," which means nothinIg except to make people with HIV into "dirty" people. Clean has been replaced with "Negative on PrEP"--and every sex worker who is negative SHOULD be on PrEP--or U=U, which means an HIV- positive person has a viral load that is considered "Undetectable" and therefore is "Untransmittable." These scientific terms are preferred, because (1) they are more accurate and (2) they do not call anyone "dirty." 
"Piss top" as several have noted means he will pee on you. If that's your thing, enjoy.
And massage guns have a therapeutic place in physical therapy, but in the hands of an amateur masseur, it's just a way of filling the hour without actually touching you. It should be considered a red flag if you are looking for a sensual or erotic massage.
So if you're looking for a sensual experience, a piss top with a massage gun who considers other gay men "dirty" should be a hard pass. 

Just back from a trip to NY and scheduled a session with Nick because his pictures and this thread intrigued me. Below is what I posted on RentMasseur. As you can see, I had a fantastic time:

I reached out to Nick before a quick trip to NY because I was impressed by his 5-star reviews and attracted to his dark good looks. His warm and gracious communications over the next few days cemented my decision. But I wasn't prepared for what I saw when I showed up at his comfortable studio in midtown. He opened the door, and I lost my breath. In person, he is even more handsome than his pictures, but it goes deeper than that--there is something spiritual and soulful about him, a deep desire to make YOU feel good. He greeted me with a hug--he's a great hugger! His massage and the stretching and the body-to-body contact he does are all intimate and knowing, deeply therapeutic, intensely connected. I left from his studio and went directly to the airport, where I proceeded to have a flight-from-hell and a 5-hour delay. But I was smiling the whole time. After my session with Nick, I felt like I was floating back home.

I might also add that I agree wholeheartedly with what others have said about Nick's kissing. His kissing was phenomenal.

Lol...I think some of my real reviews sound like the "love letters" you say are red flags. 

I've sent them messages when I see they've used "masseuse," telling them that many potential clients will assume they don't know what they're doing if they use that form of the word and not hire them. Some say thanks and change the word. Others get defensive or don't respond.

I've sent them messages when I see they've used "masseuse," telling them that many potential clients will assume they don't know what they're doing if they use that form of the word and not hire them. Some say thanks and change the word. Others get defensive or don't respond.

Lol...I think some of my real reviews sound like the "love letters" you say are red flags. 

As Miss Mazeppa says in Gypsy, "Something WRONG with STRIPPIN'?"

It can mean a lot of things to different people, so beware of assuming you know what it means to the other guy. Exploration is key. Also, desiring to be dominant or submissive in sex usually has nothing to do with being dominant or submissive in a personal or professional life. In fact, the exact opposite is very often the case, the stereotypical examples of these being the ruthless businessman who wants to be dominated and the small guy who prefers to top. Assuming a sub has no will of his own is almost always a mistake, and assuming a big muscle guy wants to top everyone can also be a mistake.
Also, younger gays in this Age of Apps find it very easy to say "I want to be a sub for a daddy." What they actually mean can run the gamut from simple role-playing to classic BDSM. Again, assumption is a mistake and exploration is key.
As Shakespeare said, "There are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of in your philosophy, Horatio."

Sub is an attitude, a dynamic, a preference to submit; not an act or a sexual position role. While bottoming often is considered a submissive act and lots of subs like to bottom, not all penis-in-hole action happens in the context of an insertive partner “dominating” a receptive partner.
A passive, submissive top can be dominated. For example in a cuckold situation, where the dynamics are such that the bottom is performing an act of rebellion, control, or even revenge, depending on the scene. The focus is not on the bottom “submitting” to some other lover, but rather using the third party to dominate the first party, in a way.
I’ve bound tops to my table, pleasure tortured them, employed impact play, edged them, and sat on their cock, to milk their load in an act of total control and domination. This scenario is less commonly requested, but it’s definitely a thing. Submission and domination are not about who is “insertive”. It’s about the dynamics, the headspace; who is willingly (sometimes wantonly) relinquishing control, and who is actively taking control.
I should note, a switch is a thing. Someone can submit in one encounter and dominate in another. Sometimes even in the same encounter, but I seldom see these situations manifest in the same scene. Being a sub can be an identity when one assigns it to himself, however, submitting once, sometimes, or even most of the time does not define someone as a sub. To submit is a verb. A sub is only a noun when one owns the identity within the context of a finite scene, or perhaps permanently when one identifies this way. That’s up to the individual to self define.
In short: sex acts alone do not define dominance or submission.

18 five star reviews going back to 2018 -- he sounds like a treasure.

Nice pics and ad, Beastmuffin. Welcome and good luck! One of many rules of thumb: Always trust your instincts when it comes to communication. If the chat to set up an appointment feels like it's getting weird or gnarly, odds are the appointment will be the same--or not happen at all. I'm not a provider, but as a massage client looking for erotic massage, I evaluate the tone and clarity of a provider's communications with me (allowing of course for anyone whose English is a second language). I ask a lot of questions but try to be respectful of the provider's time, because I know that some providers might think I'm just wasting their time jerking off. But if I sense anything like annoyance or hostility or any weird unprofessional requests (like you received from that client), I end the interaction and look elsewhere. Trust that instinct and walk away.
By the way, this thread has responses from three successful practitioners who are longtime contributors to this board--and each a phenomenally sexy man in his own right. Cultivate Jamie21, BenjaminNicholas, and Simon Suraci as mentors. Their accumated experience and wisdom could be invaluable to you.

Nice pics and ad, Beastmuffin. Welcome and good luck! One of many rules of thumb: Always trust your instincts when it comes to communication. If the chat to set up an appointment feels like it's getting weird or gnarly, odds are the appointment will be the same--or not happen at all. I'm not a provider, but as a massage client looking for erotic massage, I evaluate the tone and clarity of a provider's communications with me (allowing of course for anyone whose English is a second language). I ask a lot of questions but try to be respectful of the provider's time, because I know that some providers might think I'm just wasting their time jerking off. But if I sense anything like annoyance or hostility or any weird unprofessional requests (like you received from that client), I end the interaction and look elsewhere. Trust that instinct and walk away.
By the way, this thread has responses from three successful practitioners who are longtime contributors to this board--and each a phenomenally sexy man in his own right. Cultivate Jamie21, BenjaminNicholas, and Simon Suraci as mentors. Their accumated experience and wisdom could be invaluable to you.

Especially to Chicago.

Oy vey.

Before you go thinking he pulled a "Dupont Switch," read his RentMen profile. He might be one of those guys who use RentMen but still perform no-release massages. He's still NOT on my list for my next DC trip. Too many red flags.

It reads like typical jerk-off fiction.

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Here's what you can do: Never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER send a deposit again.
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Here's what you can do: Never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER send a deposit again.
Ever. 

Here's what you can do: Never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER send a deposit again.
Ever.