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Taking a big one isn’t something you can typically rush. Gotta practice with toys or smaller guys for a bit first. I usually take ibuprofen an hour or so beforehand. I also have had a bit of practice over the years. Lol. But it was only within the past month that I tried poppers (have known about them for years). Game changer when it comes to taking bigger than you’re used to. 
I will also say that if you’re too tight, it can be a bit painful and difficult for an endowed top to squeeze it in there. It’s like putting it into a vice grip. Lol. So loosening a bit is probably best for all involved. 😎

That must have doubly frustrated you!

This forum has opened my eyes to what clients have to deal with. I feel for you guys. Loss aversion is much more powerful psychologically than many positive and fulfilling sessions.
Some may be scammers, many others are legit. I’m sorry many of you have had bad experiences, but it’s unfair to use language like always, never, or yes/no binaries. You have every right to be cautious and you don’t have to pay deposits if you’re uncomfortable doing so. By all means, move on to providers who do not require a deposit, but I would not expect every provider to risk their scarce resources for every client, every time. 
There will always be a need for popular and busy providers to allocate scarce resources. It’s economics. When demand is high, willingness to take on unvetted and flaky clients is low. When the reverse is true, willingness is high. Deposits, among other strategies, are a means for providers to allocate their scarce resources more efficiently. Better to lose a couple would-be good clients than take on many more would-be bad ones.
On both sides of the discussion, each party is experiencing majority negative of the other. i.e. 9/10 clients are flakes, or 9/10 providers are scammers. All the more reason to rely on recommendations from others you trust.
I’m so glad company of men exists. It helps establish who’s good, who’s reliable, real, and worth your time and money. We focus on the negative so much, on what we have to lose by taking on a client or hiring a provider. If you’re concerned about hiring someone new, seek out providers with a good reputation, either through forums here, or elsewhere online or IRL. Find the good ones and hire them. When you have a positive experience, keep hiring them. It’s win-win. Some of my best clients are regulars. With mutual trust and respect, both parties are very happy.
Variety is nice, I get it. Sometimes reliability and trust is a much more fulfilling route. Treat one another well. 
 

I’ve talked to several therapists over the years. Only one of them told me watching porn and hiring escorts was an addiction. Most of the others said it was a good coping mechanism, and had no problems with it. The dsm doesn’t list sex addiction as an actual disorder. My problem is I feel like I can’t romantically be attracted to a person. I only seek out sexual only relationships, which is why I hire escorts. I think I’m aromantic, but definitely not asexual. I’ve never been in a longterm relationship or been in love. Just hookups. For me it’s satisfying my needs, because if I was in a relationship it would have to be an open one. I can’t imagine having sex with just one person for the rest of my life.

, but why am I suddenly craving a nice cup of tea?

At least Beancounter’s obituary won’t read “He savaged the reputation of a man who had once been his friend, waiting until he was dead and couldn’t answer back.” 

This is what this paragraph tells me about you as a person, @Big Don Weho.
You are a vile, mean human who was so obsessed with this man - who evidently no longer enjoyed your presence – that you now insult his husband.
You write ALL of this from an UGLY heart!
And then, of course, you insult someone's political views. 
You are a mean, vicious person. You should really pray or meditate and go see a therapist. A cold, nasty, mean heart will get you in the end.

this is the most disgusting and vile thing I have read on this forum, if not anywhere on the internet. 
 
You should really be ashamed of yourself.  Truly. 

Taking a big one isn’t something you can typically rush. Gotta practice with toys or smaller guys for a bit first. I usually take ibuprofen an hour or so beforehand. I also have had a bit of practice over the years. Lol. But it was only within the past month that I tried poppers (have known about them for years). Game changer when it comes to taking bigger than you’re used to. 
I will also say that if you’re too tight, it can be a bit painful and difficult for an endowed top to squeeze it in there. It’s like putting it into a vice grip. Lol. So loosening a bit is probably best for all involved. 😎

My first erotic massage experience was about two years ago. I used to go to a male asian massage spot in the west village. One day I called to make a reservation with my regular guy and when the owner answered, he told me that my regular guy didn’t work there anymore but that he (the owner) would give me my massage at a discount. At the time the spa required that the clients and the masseurs kept our masks on so I didn’t get a great look at his face but I could tell that he was very muscular and in his early-mid 30s. He gave a really great massage with lots of stretching (including at one point, putting me into a seated position on the table, standing behind me, and putting me in a half-Nelson to help crack my back) and deep tissue work, which I loved, and the HE was pretty standard. After that first session with him, he gave me his personal number so I can reach out to him directly instead of just calling the spa, and he was flexible with keeping the building open later to meet with me due to my work schedule not usually lining up with their operating hours. 
 
A few months later the spa ended up closing down, but the owner texted me and told me that if I ever wanted a massage, I could go to his apartment and he’d massage me there. It was the first time I’d ever gotten a massage anywhere except for a spa so I was really nervous, but having met with him a few times I felt certain it wouldn’t be anything nefarious. He asked that I take a COVID test before I went since I’d be going into his home, and once I showed him my negative result and he showed me his, he said we could take our masks off. It was the first time I got to see how handsome he was in addition to having a very sexy build. 
 
We started off with him giving me a light rubdown in his shower, then we wrapped ourselves in towels and went into the bedroom where he had the massage table set up. The first part of the massage was pretty typical of my massages with him - excellent deep pressure, lots of stretching - with a bit more focus on my inner thighs and butt than usual, but nothing I felt was crossing the line beyond what I considered inappropriate. When I flipped over I saw that he’d removed his towel and put on a jockstrap that perfectly framed his butt, but before I could get a great look he put a hand towel over my eyes. He then proceeded to continue the massage as usual, and after starting the HE, I suddenly felt him take me into his mouth. After about a minute of this he stops, takes the rag off my eyes, and guides me from the massage table to the bed, where we spent over an hour enjoying each other. What had originally been a request for a 90 minute massage turned into a 3 hour experience that I’ll never forget. When we were done I remarked that that was a first for me, and he said that it was for him too but he was glad that my regular masseur stopped working at the spa so that he was able to connect with me. 
 
I saw him regularly (and exclusively) for several more months until he moved across the country to live with his sister. After he left I went looking to recreate the magic with a new provider and that’s how I came across masseurfinder, then rentmasseur, and eventually this forum. 

No politics for this thread. Sexual behavior and sexual attraction are not the same. A man engaging  in sex with another man is partaking in a homosexual act.  Whether that man goes home to jerk off to busty Brazilian babes or hunks of Rio De Janeiro is another thing  The ones going home to lust after Brazilian babes are straight in my book no matter what they do when earning money. Lets try not to split hairs much further than this. When someone says xyz is not straight it should be because they believe that provider is not going home to jerk to Brazilian busty babes. Arguing over definitions isn't getting us anywhere and just gonna get the thread shut down.
 
Maybe if ppl wanna hash it out open a spinoff thread discussing sexuality on another subforum .

Taking a big one isn’t something you can typically rush. Gotta practice with toys or smaller guys for a bit first. I usually take ibuprofen an hour or so beforehand. I also have had a bit of practice over the years. Lol. But it was only within the past month that I tried poppers (have known about them for years). Game changer when it comes to taking bigger than you’re used to. 
I will also say that if you’re too tight, it can be a bit painful and difficult for an endowed top to squeeze it in there. It’s like putting it into a vice grip. Lol. So loosening a bit is probably best for all involved. 😎

Has anyone else been blackmailed on Grindr or Scruff? I was in the closet and joined scruff without uploading a face pic. The first person to message me ended up blackmailing me once he found out I had a wife. He said he was married too and that his wife and kids were away. He got me to move our conversation to text once we were arranging our hook up. Once he had my cell number he must have done a search to get my identity, family members, workplace and of course all my wife’s details. He threatened to text my wife and my coworkers if I didn’t give him $2,000. I was so traumatized but I had been thinking of coming out for a long time and he just pushed me over the edge. I went right in and told my wife everything. Only later did I go onto google and find that these scammers never follow through. Indeed he never did contact anyone. But I don’t know if I’d have had the guts to come out if this never happened to me. Others have a similar experience? I am alone here?

I just joined this site and thought this was as good a way to introduce myself as any (and might also ignite other new tales from other newbies like me). 
I was closeted when I had my first erotic massage. I asked the guy who waxed my back if he knew of any good massages. (He was the only guy who knew I was gay.) He said he had a new client who gave massages. He didn't know if he was any good, but said he was good looking. I texted the guy. He responded with a menu of options and prices. That was the first time I saw erotic massage as an option.  The description was brief and included "release" which I guessed correctly what that meant. I decided to take the plunge. 
I booked a 90-min afternoon session.  He met me at the gate to his complex wearing a tank top. He was very cute and had a sexy body (not buff but well-defined). He led me to his apartment and left the room to allow me to undress and get on his table. When I heard him come back in, I peered up to find he was naked too. I immediately got turned on thinking that this was definitely different from any other massage. 
It began with a legitimately great massage of my legs and backside with frequent brushes against his body and his hands gliding across my glutes. I don't really have a great sense of time, but he must have spent 45 minutes massaging the back of my body with more and more frequent sensual touches of my sensitive areas.  Then he got on the table with me and straddled my legs using his position to work more on my back. His cock was now hard and I could feel it rubbing against my ass. I was getting so turned on that my hips would rise every time he slid his body up against mine. 
Then I felt it. I was a virgin when it came to sex with a man so I wasn't entirely sure, but I was pretty sure that he was trying to fuck me. I was and still am very tight so it was taking him awhile in between applying extra lube. This gave me just enough time to decide that I really wanted it. When he finally found the right spot again, I lifted my hips and pressed against his cock so that he would know and I whispered to please go slow.
For what must have been 40 minutes, we enacted just about everything I had ever seen in a gay porn video. I was having the time of my life and I could tell he was thrilled to be giving me so much pleasure.  When we were face to face, we just started kissing. He had amazing lips that drove me crazy. It just made me explode.
I was covered in sweat (his and mine). I asked him if I could take a shower. He gave me a towel and off I went to clean up. When I came out, I expected to get dressed, but he told me to get back on the table and that he still had to work on the front of my body. I asked if he had time and he said he had cancelled his next appointment. I did as I was told and he began to massage my head and work his way down my body. As he got to my midsection, I was hard again. And so was he. And off we went again. 
I swear I thought I would die from physical exhaustion, but at least I'd die happy. After it was over, I told him it was amazing and that this was my first time with a man and that I had no idea what to expect. He told me that our mutual friend had texted him to say that he could have fun with me and that this was his idea of fun. This was already the most expensive massage I'd ever had, but I gave him a big tip on top. I told him that I would love to see him again. Unfortunately, he was heading out of town for few months and I haven't had the second session. 
In the meantime, I discovered there were many more men offering massages and I became hooked. And now here I am. 
 
 

I don’t mind paying a deposit in certain situations. The provider must have been on RM for over a year, and/or have 25+ good RM reviews, and/or have some positive comments on this forum from guys who have met him. The last criteria carries the most weight. If one of you have seen the person and had a good experience, or even an OK experience, then I don’t mind spending $20 or so to prove that I am serious.
I would never spend more than $40 or so, and I would certainly never pay for the full session in advance before even meeting up. Those type of deposits are a no go for me.

I don’t mind paying a deposit in certain situations. The provider must have been on RM for over a year, and/or have 25+ good RM reviews, and/or have some positive comments on this forum from guys who have met him. The last criteria carries the most weight. If one of you have seen the person and had a good experience, or even an OK experience, then I don’t mind spending $20 or so to prove that I am serious.
I would never spend more than $40 or so, and I would certainly never pay for the full session in advance before even meeting up. Those type of deposits are a no go for me.

I’ve never sent any happy birthday / Christmas etc texts to clients unless they sent one first to me and in that case then I reply in kind. I don’t like to send unsolicited messages. 
It’s a nice idea though if clients are open to receiving such marketing. Maybe I’ll add a box to my booking confirmations…something like:
”If you would like to receive texts or emails with offers and information please tick the box. Your data will not be sold or used by any third party or for any other purpose than to inform you of products or services that may be of interest to you”. 
Then I can draft a template text or email for my mailing tool to generate the messages to my clients. Something like:
Dear [Big boy / Pumpkin / HungDaddy] have a great [21st, 50th, 103rd] birthday! I hope your [massive / fun sized / PA adorned] cock is getting plenty of action on your special day 🍆💦.
***(Select 1, 2 or both as appropriate depending on client’s preference)***
1 My [mouth / bum ] is available for your attention with a special offer of 20% off this weekend. Buy the ‘both holes’ package and get an extra 5% off!
2 My [cock / tongue / right arm😱] is available to service you this weekend with 20% off pre sale prices. Buy the ‘ass to mouth’ special and get an extra 5% off! 
Terms and conditions apply. Availability subject to demand. 
If you wish to opt out of mailing list please complete the form hidden at the bottom of my website and send two forms of ID not including your password or drivers license.
Best wishes 
[Jamie / J 😘 / Your Masseur]
 



 

 

To me, the best kissers start off with the soft kisses. Then ease into the tongue action. Slow and shallow at first and as things heat up, then it gets deeper and faster. Grabbing the back of his head and holding him there while you kiss is equally hot. Then slow it back down to where your lips are so close, but not touching, and you can feel and hear each other’s panting. All the while, your bodies have been mashed together and writhing against each other. Then after a few seconds you repeat, maybe with a dick inside one of you. If he’s doing it right, you don’t even think about. You don’t even wonder what to do next. It all just happens blissfully. 

To me, the deep kisses and probing tongues is the hottest part. That’s when you feel most connected.  Followed very closely by the soft kisses afterwards with your mouths close but not always touching  
And I agree, mister_mister could totally do what I describe above! 

To me, the best kissers start off with the soft kisses. Then ease into the tongue action. Slow and shallow at first and as things heat up, then it gets deeper and faster. Grabbing the back of his head and holding him there while you kiss is equally hot. Then slow it back down to where your lips are so close, but not touching, and you can feel and hear each other’s panting. All the while, your bodies have been mashed together and writhing against each other. Then after a few seconds you repeat, maybe with a dick inside one of you. If he’s doing it right, you don’t even think about. You don’t even wonder what to do next. It all just happens blissfully. 

To me, the deep kisses and probing tongues is the hottest part. That’s when you feel most connected.  Followed very closely by the soft kisses afterwards with your mouths close but not always touching  
And I agree, mister_mister could totally do what I describe above! 

In my experience, if you have ever swallowed cock, no pill is gigantic.

Is the Truvada pill really that difficult to swallow? I mean, if one can deepthroat, a truvada pill should be no problem, no?

Hi all I lost track of this tread.  I commented back in October 21.  I have since seen him three times and he is really a great fun guy.  He is definitely a flirt, he sent a happy valentines text 😄 

73 years old?  He is at least 74.  Age shaver.  LOL