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Reading this thread, I feel like I've entered into a time capsule with posters living in a time warp in which it's about 1991

Reading this thread, I feel like I've entered into a time capsule with posters living in a time warp in which it's about 1991

As others have said, in this day and age, BB is default! 

Sorry that happened. Not sure why that's weird. Honestly, this is the year 2026. The 90s are long gone. Condoms are an option for people to wear if they choose, and many choose not to use them. The 90s mentality about it should stay in the 90s. I also remember that in the 90s there was a lot of negotiating safer sex and conversations about condoms before having any. A conversation about it like we used to back then would have avoided the weird interaction. Seems like that part of the 90s didn't make it to 2026.
A 20-something Bel Ami - looking guy was not alive in the 90s, so it's not realistic for him to magically get where you come from about condom use.  That should have been a discussion. RM even has a section where providers state their preferences around condom use and safer sex practices.

From his vids it’s clear he’s into edging which I’m also into. 

He’s not my type at all as I don’t like hairy and corpulent types. That said he gave me a great massage and I asked for edging and it was a MEMORABLE experience. Even at that over the top (pun intended) rate I considered it worth it and wanted to repeat. But it was not in the cards as—despite two separate attempts on my part to repeat—he said he just doesn’t like doing erotic massages. 

ANCIENT photos.
 

I can’t get him to reply to my inquiries. 

I agree, that the illusion should be professionally maintained within the confines of a session. But if you're busy stalking an escort's personal life and you're sad to discover he doesn't actually crave the company of old, fat men, thats on you. NOT his fault.

What breaks that illusion is the client's inability to separate his fantasies from reality. 
Under no circumstances have I ever fucked a five-star escort  had him cum buckets and tell me I'm a "hot daddy"..then left that encounter actually believing he thought I was such a hot fuck that he was really into me and wouldn't have wanted to be paid if we had only just met on Grindr, instead. 
The reality check is on YOU, the client, not the provider. 
I am well aware that five-star-fucks are seeking other five-star-fucks in their spare time.

Seems like a little from column A / a little from column B.
Its a perfectly reasonable topic to be curious about....but yeah it reads as though that hurt a bit.
To answer the question of how people feel about this....MY feeling is that someone who is fucking a lot of old fat gays for work, is definitley NOT interested in doing the same in his spare time.
Yes, hes selling a fantasy and listening to those words brings a reality check moment really to the front. But in general, the business is always about fantasy and the client needs to accept that and not be upset when he's confronted with the fact that there is no Santa Claus. 

The naïveté and narcissism in this post is all consuming. Providers aren't supposed to have personal preferences? They aren't entitled to their own likes and dislikes in their personal life. Give me a break. The magical thinking and entitlement in this post is astounding and frankly nauseating. 

The naïveté and narcissism in this post is all consuming. Providers aren't supposed to have personal preferences? They aren't entitled to their own likes and dislikes in their personal life. Give me a break. The magical thinking and entitlement in this post is astounding and frankly nauseating. 

Ghosting him just for asking about poppers (no where near as serious as actual hard drugs) seems a bit egregious. You could have just said "no thanks and please don't bring them around me even if just for yourself either" if you were otherwise going to still meet him. Ghost if he had said "nope i'm bringing the poppers anyway!" (which no normal person would have done).

I would have asked is it verification OR deposit, or verification AND deposit. Because those are two different sets of options. I personally have no issue verifying via video call or something. So if they were giving you the choice between verify or deposit, then you opted out without even making a choice (assuming the main thing you were trying to avoid was just the deposit part).
As far as the drugs, i personally would have just said "no I'm not interested in any drugs, no need for that and i'd prefer you not be on anything during the session". If they resisted to that at all then yes i'd walk away. But just the mere offer or seeing "PNP available" on their profile isn't inherently an issue to me. No provider I've hired who procures or sells has had an issue with keeping that stuff away from me if i simply asked and none i've hired have ever brought it without me asking.
Even those who dabble themselves have never come to a session with me on something and especially don't if i specifically ask them not to. I don't really care what they do in their other personal time or with other clients.
I'd have at least asked a follow up question. But that's just me and has been my experience 🤷‍♂️

He does look exactly like the pics I don't care how old the pics are and yes the pics have been around a while but so what. He does look exactly the same. And yes still depressed but a nice and lovely guy. 

He does look exactly like the pics I don't care how old the pics are and yes the pics have been around a while but so what. He does look exactly the same. And yes still depressed but a nice and lovely guy. 

He does look exactly like the pics I don't care how old the pics are and yes the pics have been around a while but so what. He does look exactly the same. And yes still depressed but a nice and lovely guy. 

Yeah, true but he funny enough, he looks exactly the same. I also think he’s still depressed, so I think he is unlikely going to be proactive about it. 

Honestly, he might as well be a mannequin. No distinguishing characteristics. 

Without a face could be one of 1000 in Hells kitchen lol

Without a face could be one of 1000 in Hells kitchen lol

I’m 61 and this daddy needs all the viagra he can get.

Of course he was annoyed. He should have been. I'm sure he's relieved you won't be back. 

I'll be going to HK Men Spa this week or next and it will actually be my first time going to a Men's Spa. If anyone would be willing to DM me, would love to hear more details about your experiences - it would be great to hear about how your massage went and what I should be aware of going in!
I was thinking about working with Sandro or Andoni.