Your Man in Arlington

Depending on how deep the reference is meant, quite a controversial choice for a profile handle!

In my initial contact, I let a provider know that they can learn more about me from my profile, which contains my up-to-date stats, what I'm into, and a little descriptive text about that. If it's by text message, if requested by the provider, I'll include a link to my profile. I've found that all (or most all) providers view this in the course of arranging a meeting. And, when I just don't hear back from a provider, I'm guess there's a good chance that something in my profile wasn't a match for them. Better to find out sooner rather than later!

He's born and raised American, and afaict genuinely part Native American as described in his profile.

I think he used to advertise as Vfit_afp (especially based on the OnlyFans link in his profile). There's past a thread here:

As of now, "Profile expired."

Images lead back to a German onlyfans/twitter profile, so could just be lifted from there? Or, he could have set up a profile just to direct inquiries to his OF page? No indication on his Twitter that he's in the US, though. 🤷‍♂️ Update: Found his Instagram, and all three images could easily have been lifted from that.

To clarify: I sent him a serious inquiry and after reading it (the double-check "seen") he never replied.

Left me in the seen zone a couple of weeks ago.

It can be one aspect of this site, but I also think there is a big difference between something along the lines of "not for me" vs "below average."

Agree with the above. Also, a total stallion.

I can confirm that he looks like his current pics. And, while I wouldn't say he's 21, he certainly doesn't look like he's reached his 30's yet, either. Very attractive guy, IMO.

I had that impression, but thought that's what seeking.com was for. 🤷‍♂️

Not to mention the misfire into the wrong thread:

I was able to connect with Sawyer while we were both in NYC, and I had a superlative experience with him. He is everything you see in his profile and I would highly recommend him if that's what you're looking for. If you have *specific questions*, I'm happy to try and answer them by DM. But, since his profile is accurate, I don't have anything to add on the general "what was it like" level.

🙄 See:

Messaged him, but was left in the seen zone. His profile text does imply he's looking for one single "individual"... so there's that.

I have fortunately only really experienced this with one provider (others have checked their phone in limited way after playtime), but I hear of this complaint often. I hope it remains the exception for me. ☝️

I found his profile text interesting enough (brain research and kissing), that after an initial introductory contact, I asked for photos that showed his face and he was more than happy to provide them. He turned out to be a very good looking guy IMO. So, yes, I will reach out to a faceless profile if the text is engaging enough and then request face photos once it's established we're both serious.

This, absolutely yes. I only ever send one initial inquiry. There's no way to make someone want your business if they don't.

My regular and best provider for me so far has about 50 reviews, with a couple of 2-star and one 4-star among all of the 5-star reviews. So, when looking at RM reviews; I look who the reviewers are, the number of reviews, and the specific complaints if there's a negative review. Everyone has bad days, we are humans with bodies, or someone is just a bad client. And, I kind of respect a provider who doesn't preemptively block in those cases. All of this talk of reviews and rating gaming reminds me of Freddie Wong’s 3.5 star rule: Use the ‘3.5-star rule’ to find the most ‘authentic’ Chinese food, says viral TikTok WWW.TODAY.COM You're probably going to rush to check the rating of your go-to Chinese spot after you watch this.

It depends of the kind of guy you're attracted to, and what BFE means to you, but I had a nice laid back 2 hour BFE-in-my-book experience with JulianJesse last Spring. Ooops! His profile is currently expired, but he may be on vacation and back in NYC soon? I would check again.

I would say that what your describing is the idea behind "public accommodation" and is part of being professional in any line of work. (This doesn't apply to all of the guys doing this as a way to get paid to hookup, which is totally fine, too!) This particular line of work has it's own peculiarities and requirements, a level of intimacy - manufactured or not - that make accommodating anyone from the public more challenging. Should a provider be expected to provide service to someone not of their preferred gender? Yes, plenty of straight guys seek male clients, but I don't know that it would be unprofessional if they didn't or vice versa with gay providers. And, I agree, the code is respect. If you don't want to or don't think you can provide someone with good service, there are respectful ways to relay that.

Thanks for the input everyone! 24 hours has been my rule of thumb, too. I'll probably stick with that as long as I have enough lead time. I've noticed this, too... maybe up to 4 hours depending on when I reach out since I'm an early riser. I just feel better giving them the greatest "benefit of the doubt" if I need to tell them that I've already made other plans.

Just wondering how long you all wait for a provider to respond when inquiring about meeting a few days in advance? Since my time and schedule is usually limited; if a provider isn't interested or available, I'd like to be able to make other plans. But, also don't want to end up in a situation where more than one provider is expecting a booking.

There's some chatter here: