CastaDiva

I need another translator for this thread.

Hello, I’m very sorry you didn’t enjoy your experience with me. I do not recall having any “cold” experiences with anyone, I sincerely love being with my clients, but if that was your experience, I apologize. I take my profession very seriously and would never take a client if I weren’t in the mood or feeling “off”. I’ve never had a complaint before, my reviews will back that up. Be well!!!

Here is a link to the (legacy) Review Site. You can still get to some of the reviews. I don't know if any pictures still show up.  
Daddy's Reviews - Terms of Service
ARCHIVE.COMPANYOFMEN.ORG Daddys M4M Reviews  
I remember Hooboy always seemed to be traveling. In his personal blog, he'd always talk about his travels and whether he was having trouble posting  the day's reviews because of travel related mishaps.
 
As for Aaron Lawrence-now there's a name I haven't thought about in years. I believe he was from New Jersey but traveled a lot. He had his own very professional website. I can't remember if I ever contacted him or not-I looked at the Review Site for about 5 years before I actually ever hired in 2002, and I'm pretty sure he had retired by that time. Plus he wasn't really my type. He was cute enough -but more of a slender, twinkish build where I'm into more athletic/muscular guys.  But I remember he had an excellent reputation. 

Back in the Hooboy and Daddy days when the site included daily reviews, I'd say sure, this place could easily make or break a guy.
But now?  The traffic isn't at the same volume and the concept isn't as novel.  It's a smaller group posting, no reviews/reviewers to talk about and social media has changed the business completely.
This forum is still a great resource, but it's dramatically different from even just a decade ago.
 

Agree with the above, but:
After a nice engagement with Miguel here in LA, he texted me (and I quote), "Give me a 5 star review." 
Well I think you peeps here know me after 20+ years, I don't play games or lie for providers. I gave him a 4 star review and put in the comment section that although he advertises as 'cut', he certainly is not cut. (read: thick foreskin)
Within 2 hours he started texting my phone and RM account that he was upset that I was hurting his business, "delete the comment" about his pene.
I haven't, and I won't.

File this under: "don't shit where you eat." Because if you're closeted then you can't fuck ANYONE you know.
OR......
You decide "Hey I've always wanted to fuck this guy and maybe it could even lead to a fun reminiscing about our shared past....maybe NOW is the time to get out of that closet I've been living in all my life".
Just a thought.
 

@moonlight
It depends on your relationship. How close were you to him in the past? A casual acquaintance, friend-of-a-friend, or someone you barely knew, or someone you haven’t seen in many years? I personally would have no problem seeing someone like this as a client.
Anyone particularly close to me in the past or present I would not see. My estranged best friend, for example, I would definitely not see. People in my acquaintance zone over the years would have to number in the thousands. A lot of them I would see if they wanted, of course respecting their discretion, and expecting the same from them toward me. 
One of my clients (70s) told me he saw a family friend’s son (40s) advertising on RentMen. He knew the guy as a child and their families did a lot together. The provider’s parents and family don’t know he escorts. After coming across the RentMen ad, the client asked the parents some casual questions about the provider, how he’s doing, what work he is doing, etc. The parents clearly believe their son is doing some other kind of work, and that’s something the client should respect and not meddle in. The client is attracted to the provider and considered for a moment hiring him but the previous relationship made it too weird. This is one case where I would agree. It’s too weird. Everyone is a case-by-case though.
Privacy goes both ways. Professional providers will not violate your privacy and you are not violating his by hiring him. Avoid speaking about it in your mutual circles. Should he be uncomfortable for any reason, he can choose to say no. We’re all adults here.
I would at least give him the courtesy of telling him who you are ahead of time, though so he can make that decision for himself. Being open and honest up front saves you both the respective indignities of being caught off guard in the moment, and having to be let down face to face in such a personal, raw way.
He won’t ‘out’ you as a man that hires, or a man into men. Really, he has at least as much to lose by mentioning anything to mutual contacts. If he’s a professional, he will keep quiet about the whole thing, whether he chooses to see you or not.
Do you interact with him now? Would you want to interact with him in the future outside the context of hiring him? If the answer is yes, tread lightly. There’s a lot more at stake. If the answer is no, I see very little for you to lose. The worst thing that would happen is he says no, and that’s that. Nothing is really any different than it was before. You have something to gain, however, if he says yes, and so does he. No harm, no foul.
Most people are decent and good. I would expect no harm to befall you for asking. Show respect. Maintain healthy boundaries. All will be well.
 

I would appreciate a provider's perspective on this @BenjaminNicholas @Simon Suraci
I'm conflicted. I want his privacy to be respected, I want my privacy to be respected, and I don't want to deceive. But I feel like meeting could be mind-blowing.

I agree; go for it!

I would hire him.
I have hired men I previously knew outside this profession.  I have hired men I previously slept with outside this profession.

Give it a try!
You had a crush on him, make hit reality!
 

Your posting brought back a memory of me putting out a pretty penny for a cat toy only to have the cat totally ignore the toy and play endlessly with the toy's packaging.  🤨

I guess I don't get the major attraction to this guy.  He is OK looking but not really handsome.  I personally wouldn't spend much time trying to chase him down and play his games on the off-chance I might score a session with him.  So many fish in the pond.  Why waste time on an average-looking player?  Anyway, I know attraction is in the eye of the beholder...so best of luck to the OP.

$500 an hour

The hungrier they are, the sexier.   :-)

WOW! Highly recommend!!!! Logan is one of the few providers that I have encountered (I am 71, been at this hobby for decades) that actually lives up to ALL of his ad copy. Read his ad & that is what you get. Look at his photos & that is who arrives. He knows what this profession is all about  & he delivers without judgment or hesitation. He is so generous in his love making. Kissing is one of his best talents, and he is REALLY great at topping. His communication skills are wonderful, he does not hesitate to keep one informed. While he was in Cleveland (a desert of good, reliable providers),  I saw him for 2 hours. He was so great at our first encounter that I engaged him for 2 more hours, two days later. And our second session was even more INCREDIBLE than the first! He is not a clock watcher, both of my sessions went well past the 2 hour reservation. I highly recommend this HOT STUD‼️Hoping he returns to CLE, soon….

I am a medical doctor! I'll be meeting him and testing him on his med skills 👍

For decades now since Jeff Styker and maybe even before, Gay4Pay men have been the top selling porn stars. A gay man that says he hasn't fantasied ever in his life about a hot pop idol or movie star is lying (and yes some celebs are closeted, but most are straight as far as we know). Who didn't have crushes on the straight guys in school when we started to become sexually aware? Who hasn't wondered about a hot guy at work in a sexual way? Transvestites pride themselves on being able to pick up "straight men" too! I've never seen or heard of one going out with a flaming queen. I could go on and on with examples. Yet for some reason to admit to this reality isn't politically correct in the "all-inclusive and embracing" LGBTQ+ "community". Yes, there are some men that enjoy soft, passive and even effeminate men, and nothing wrong with that. But to asume or suggest that we that prefer our men "straight" are in a different world or category is fooling themselves. And yes, maybe some of us actually do fetishize straight men more than others do. But if you think about it, it's almost normal and natural for a homosexual to be attracted to masculinity and manliness and most things about men. And most men out there in the world are straight/heterosexual and to different degrees. Us homosexuals/gays are a minority no matter how visible we now are. And finally, if most gay men who hire weren't attracted to straight men, why would so many escorts lie about it or even state that they are straight or bi on their profiles as a marketing ploy? Just some food for thought. We all like what we like even if different than what the next guy likes!

Just like narcissism and lack of empathy!  Although desperation can also make some people thankful and full of gratitude.

interesting takes and I'm grateful to everyone who weighed in with their perspective. After reading all of the comments, I am following the advice of chalking it up as lessons learned and moving on. And some very interesting comments on overnights in general, I think I definitely jumped into the deep end of the pool too soon. Again, lesson learned. 

A female friend of mine who had experience with quite a few male sex partners once told me over drinks, "a big dick makes whatever kind of lover into more of that kind of lover.  It can make a good lover great or a bad lover terrible."  She also said that guys with big dicks are often otherwise lazy in bed and rush the experience for her.  She mocked their arrogance saying "I brought the big dick, I shouldn't have to do anything extra."   Then, she commented that guys who had genuinely average dicks almost always think they have small dicks and she liked when she could reassure them.  Also, she said that a guy who genuinely had a smaller-than-average dick was usually very motivated to use all the rest of their body and put in a lot of effort to ensure she got the satisfaction she wanted. 
At the time of the conversation, I hadn't had that much receptive male sex but as I gained experience, I found that a lot of what she said rang true.

Size does matter and I do very much consider it for hiring purposes.  For me, bigger is not better.  I have a very small mouth and a very tight ass, so 4 to 6 inches tends to be perfect.  I honestly can't do much with a 7+ inch cock - it's just painful.

Also: you have to do things and enjoy life when still able. No point having oodles of cash if you can’t enjoy later in life. Just my three cents. 

Thank you all for the guidance. As a left-brained person, I am not particularly money-savvy, but know enough to get by. I have been able to maintain a diverse portfolio of investments mostly in ETFs. I also use robot investors like Wealthfront , Betterment etc since I do not know how to pick stocks myself.
In my early 50s I am feeling pretty lost in life as I don't know where I am headed next, what kind of support system I will have as I become old and frail etc. Friends from 20s and 30s left me due to political differences that peaked during COVID.  Lost my father last year, and Mom is in her last years. 
This forum has been a good support system .. especially sage advice from the people ahead of me in this journey called life.

You both handled that perfectly 👏👏