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the various gay thailand forums are a good source of up to date info. gaythailand.com is probably the most active these days. There's also gaybuttonthai.com and sawatdeenetwork.com

I think it's a very different sort of thing. With RM guys it much more down to the point. With these guys it's more about getting to know each other. So there are more things like meals/dates thrown in there. Although one guy I was chatting with today sounds like he pretty much just wants to get together to fuck. I offered an amount similar to but slightly less than what I expect an RM would ask for and he seemed happy with that number. But we'll see if we actually meet or not.

I met a new SA guy at his apartment today... he’s been a little flaky with availability for a few weeks and doesn’t communicate very much but really down to earth and quiet... sweetly sexy. He’s the first guy I’ve ever met privately without having met at a Starbucks, restaurant or something first.
 
Wednesday I met his polar opposite at a restaurant for lunch and he talked nonstop about the Gucci, Prada, Hermès, etc., clothing he wanted. And he ordered lobster and wine.
There’s all types on the spectrum.

suddenly there's a bunch of new guys...maybe it's the start of the new school year. I've been conversing with 3 or 4 guys who sound quite promising. This could get expensive :-)

suddenly there's a bunch of new guys...maybe it's the start of the new school year. I've been conversing with 3 or 4 guys who sound quite promising. This could get expensive :-)

I think it could lead to being overlooked. Personally face is very important to me. If I just see a torso that is less likely to make me stop.
 
Location probably is a more important factor. Do you live in a major metro area? I also like a profile that is more than just a couple of words and that has a bright, positive outlook. If it is about being broke and needing a lot of help I typically move on by. Not interested in a lot of drama.

I think it could lead to being overlooked. Personally face is very important to me. If I just see a torso that is less likely to make me stop.
 
Location probably is a more important factor. Do you live in a major metro area? I also like a profile that is more than just a couple of words and that has a bright, positive outlook. If it is about being broke and needing a lot of help I typically move on by. Not interested in a lot of drama.

My partner and I also enjoy this. We were in Montreal August 9-13 for a very enjoyable weekend. Did not find Campus very good around 7 PM any night. Seems they are going for a beefier, straighter looking type. As stated by zzed Taboo was busier than in the past and a lot of dancers. Enjoyed Rodrigo, Emillio, Marko, Jesse, Eddie, Joey, Fred. Joey was particularly hot in the back. Don't go here if you're not into twinks but for us it's nice to see Taboo on the rebound. Hope it continues.
 
The old Bourbon complex in now a hole in the ground and new condominiums will be built. Glad to see that as the deserted building was depressing. Also something looks to be building up by the abandoned theater on the left side near Papineau. I wonder how the Village will change with the new construction.
 
There are still empty stores on St. Catherine but we found the same even on St. Denis shopping street at Mount Royale and the St. Henri district.
 
At the risk of starting another war on the forum my advice is to go and enjoy Montreal and the boys. Find the bars that has your type and relax. Every city has its problems and Ste. Catherine Street can still be fun even if the Village is not what it was 10 years ago.

I was in Montreal the last weekend of July and had a great time. Campus was very good in the afternoon with lots of great looking college type guys and I was surprised how busy Taboo was, it seemed to be on the decline last year but there were lots of cute young guys. The main problem there is that the dancers tend to congregate with each other rather than customers, although if you make they effort they will converse with you and many of them can be quite active in the back room but it depends on the guy and the chemistry with you. Although the huge guys at Stock are not usually my thing, there was a better assortment of college type guys this year and at least with the ones I took for private dances, very willing to interact. The biggest disappointment for me was Adonis. I guess I was hoping it had returned to it's former self under that name from years ago, but the dancers were mostly unattractive and sketchy. Sorry I have no names to share but I always enjoy a weekend in Montreal and strolling St. Catherine Street under the rainbow coloured balls day or night.

Look, I'm not suggesting that SA is great for everyone. It depends largely on what you, the older man, are seeking. It clearly requires you to commit considerable time and some money.
 
I can only speak for myself. Over the years, I had my fill of handsome muscle-boys and escorts: some were great in bed, some were only so-so. I wanted a regular boyfriend. The dating apps didn't work for me and as I don't go to bars, I felt I had to advertise online. Now I admit I'm very particular; I wanted a good-looking younger guy who's caring, intelligent and very presentable. I didn't mind going on a number of dates: some guys were simply dull, some were uninteresting and I certainly met some no-hopers. I even had one first-date that was so horrendous I can relate the details to general hilarity even years later.
 
But I met the guy I wanted. And it turns out that he'd been looking for someone like me. He's certainly not high-maintenance. Of course, I spend money on him but no more than I'd spend in any relationship. I like us to do things together (travel, theatre, wine and dine etc) and he's brought great joy into my life. We've been together for several years now.

even with an escort chemistry is helpful.
 
As I noted above the guy I met on whatsyourprice claimed to have a female friend using the site. Now, maybe she was hiding some of the truth from him or maybe the men she met really didn't want anything sexual. Or maybe he just told me that because he didn't want to have sex with me.
 
I keep wavering on whether to splash out the $90 to read my messages on SA. I presume it's easy enough to cancel before it renews, no?

I find this whole scene fascinating. I just downloaded the Gdaddy app. As is always the case, the guys who seem most attractive live nowhere near me (and I live in a pretty big metro area). Lots of lonely boys out there. And way too many guys with hoops through their noses. I suspect that most of these guys can't possibly think they're ever actually going to find a daddy...if they did they would post much better photos at least. My other favorite is the 18 year olds who want a 22 year old daddy

HAHAHAHA. Why have I never thought of that possibility in the 50-plus years I have watched Jeopardy?
 
I went to a live taping of "Wait Wait Don't Tell Me", the NPR quiz show. Took about two hours; I was just a tiny bit disillusioned that it was edited so that the participants seemed quicker-witted on the broadcast than they really are. They're still funny, but they weren't throwing out those funny responses as quick as the edited show would make you think.

I do agree somewhat that setting realistic goals makes some sense. It is a shame that Georgetown refused to reevaluate his financial aid package given the reality of his situation. As a Catholic school I wonder if that makes a difference?
 
But, best of luck to him. DC has a huge and varied gay community something Tallahassee and Gainesville don't have.

I find this whole scene fascinating. I just downloaded the Gdaddy app. As is always the case, the guys who seem most attractive live nowhere near me (and I live in a pretty big metro area). Lots of lonely boys out there. And way too many guys with hoops through their noses. I suspect that most of these guys can't possibly think they're ever actually going to find a daddy...if they did they would post much better photos at least. My other favorite is the 18 year olds who want a 22 year old daddy

I find this whole scene fascinating. I just downloaded the Gdaddy app. As is always the case, the guys who seem most attractive live nowhere near me (and I live in a pretty big metro area). Lots of lonely boys out there. And way too many guys with hoops through their noses. I suspect that most of these guys can't possibly think they're ever actually going to find a daddy...if they did they would post much better photos at least. My other favorite is the 18 year olds who want a 22 year old daddy

me too. We came in second my senior year too! were we on the same team?
 
I went to a taping of the Tonight Show a million years ago when Jay Leno was host in California. Our seats were way up in the back. Mainly we were there to see the band James perform

the Australian ABC program is up on YouTube as well

In my experience on S.A. that statement is very much true. Very few of these young men, want to consider themselves a prostitute, although they do want the sort of care-taking and financial support they ( sometimes very recently) were getting from their parents. Keep in mind many of these young 20-somethings are in a big transition in life, and suddenly their pampering helicopter parents aren't around to pamper any more. So, an older companion sounds like a good idea, but being a prostitute still holds a stigma of seediness....so it's a fine line. My suggestion, is that patience is the virtue that gets you to home plate here. Expecting a hot fuck after the first date, probably isn't practical for many of the newbies on the site, and many of the guys who do genuinely seek an ongoing relationship with a mature companion. "ASK MY PRICE" was designed for the sugar daddy who is more of an immediate gratification kind of guy...but you DO need to be VERY clear about the nature of the date, as again...these are often young college students, who are NOT escorts, just dabbling and trying to make a few extra bucks, or a shopping trip to get that pricey gear, they've been eyeing but mom&dad said "no".

You are so much nicer than this whore.

sadly he says he's basically just interested in free meals and conversation. He has a female friend who uses the same site and he says she says that none of her dates was looking for a physical thing. I was the first person he met via the site and vice versa. It's a shame because he's very nice and I enjoyed spending time with him...and he's one of my perfect types. I told him if he changes his mind about the physical thing to let me know. So, lesson learned.

Probably the most thorough article to date on the cave rescue. I just can't get enough of this story
 
 
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/amp/world-asia-44791998

@JulianLondon has an interesting perspective about @Keith30309's experiences. I didn't take Keith's post as harshly as Julian seemed to take it. For me, I sympathized with Keith because I've waded through over 100 guys in my local area over the time I've been on SA. Each one required some amount of time spent messaging on SA to determine compatibility. For those that appeared trustworthy enough, we moved on to voice communication to continue exploring a potential connection. Of those, I agreed to a coffee or lunch for a handful even though logistically it was challenging. I have yet to find a long term fwb but the search goes on. I've had a great deal of fun with the one SA guy I've found who's just interested in being worshiped. And still have a couple promising fwb candidates, if we can ever work out the logistics and scheduling.

My overwhelming experience is that the guys with whom I engage in a conversation are really quite insistent that we meet for lunch/dinner/drinks. I’ve met guys even after telling them over and over that the logistics of time & distance won’t work simply to placate them. Even after repeatedly explaining in detail why things will not work out I hear “we can figure something out - let’s meet and talk”, “I’d really just like to meet you to say hello”, “we can make it work for a simple lunch date”, etc. I’ve had to block a couple of guys who just wouldn’t let up on it.
 
I think there are a few reasons for this with some guys: they are new to the process and just want to meet SOMEONE they perceive as safe, they REALLY need money, they don’t understand how insurmountable some logistical challenges are, they haven’t thought thru all that an engagement means - they have a “Pretty Woman” perspective , etc.

As this thread seems to show, you have to weed through a lot of guys. Actually taking the time to meet them is surely better than just seeing words on a computer screen. Until you meet how do you know how compatible you really are? Since a huge number of them seem to be after free meals and perhaps some free cash I don't see how anyone is being harmed. As long as the expectations are set before meeting no one is being led on. These guys are adults.