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I was an early client of his. Obvious self-absorbed sociopath. The only truly sad thing was seeing how he amassed fan club here.

Consider this guy, as well: https://rentmen.eu/BigChrismatio

I was working in Asia during SARS, the level of hysteria was less even though the risk of mortality was greater. Hopefully, the drop in demand will allow you to book a hotel at an advantageous, cancellable rate. I'd follow the situation on BBC and NHK (the Japanese equivalent of BBC) and ignore the US news media---they don't have good science/health reporting and infotainment/ill-founded hysteria is their brand. NHK in English is on many cable networks and has an online feed.
 
Kamakura is a great day trip from Tokyo and very easy---frequent trains in the am. Get off at Kita-Kamakura and do the walk through gardens and temples to Kamakura town and the Great Buddha. Return via Kamakura station. The gardens are incredible--they don't look like much from the road but inside are very complex and serene. The walk from Kita Kamakura is about 1 1/2 -2 miles. The Lonelyplanet guide for Tokyo should have the specifics.
 
Tokyo has lots of quirky museums, as well as an excellent cluster of art and history museums in the Ueno---which has a major rail station. The National Museum is the real gem. Unfortunately, it and some other museums are closed until at least mid-March https://www.timeout.com/tokyo/things-to-do/attractions-in-tokyo-and-japan-that-are-closed-due-to-covid-19-coronavirus

Definite thumbs up for Fran on latbear4blk's link.

As for character and approach.....I had some pretty crappy experiences on a trip to Vegas a little before Peterhung's time.
 
It reminded me that when I started hiring--when I was living in Atlanta a bit over 20 years ago, there were some good providers in town (2 are still around, but only one is still in Atlanta), but a ton of flakes and even the agency guys were not reliable, and that pattern remained the entire I lived there. Granted, Atlanta has a deservedly crappy reputation for a lot of things, but I had some problems in other cities, too.
 
The one thing that strikes me from comments here is that there are more choiced and more information...some of it credible, some not. My guess is that the number of guys who choose this a sa profession has always been relatively small. The cohort who don't plan to make this a long-term occupation, but are well organized as business people and generally provide satisfying service is a bit bigger but not necessarily ever the majority. More providers...more to sift through. Nostalgia tends to be a corruption of history and suspect that if you went back to the beginnings of this site (I think some early posts are gone, sadly), you'd find the same complaints as today, and some of them coming from the most now-nostalgic posters.

I used to take the L late at night w/o probelm. I have no qualms about the DC Metro and regularly take the Subway in NYC. I’ve been on BART quite a few times w/o issue. I used to take MARTA late at night from 5he airport when I lived in Atlanta—- ever a problem although it seemed to scare a lot of other people. Really, I’m more concerned driving the Beltway or the Perimeter than taking public transit. I saw some spectacular accidents on Atlanta’s freeways and just missed them. That’s where you should be paranoid—-lousy drivers on poorly engineered highways.

I’d give middling grades then and now. There were more smooth guys but they often were tweezed and shaved but not enough to camouflage this not being natural, not to mention the stubble burn. There are a ton more guys on the market, but there always have been plenty of marginal, misrepresenting, and/or disorganized guys. And more guys means more flakes. It also means many more choices in cities that had fewer than a handful of guys even 5 years ago. There were plenty of no shows and flakes in the old days. You could still get not great experiences from even well reviewed guys. Some of the posters on the other thread had relied on now-retired regulars and, probably forget how flaky random hires can be. The tats, including fairly random collections of tats have been common for over a decade. Providers change but so do clients and almost no one on the other thread (and I suspect this one) will really own that.

I’d give middling grades then and now. There were more smooth guys but they often were tweezed and shaved but not enough to camouflage this not being natural, not to mention the stubble burn. There are a ton more guys on the market, but there always have been plenty of marginal, misrepresenting, and/or disorganized guys. And more guys means more flakes. It also means many more choices in cities that had fewer than a handful of guys even 5 years ago. There were plenty of no shows and flakes in the old days. You could still get not great experiences from even well reviewed guys. Some of the posters on the other thread had relied on now-retired regulars and, probably forget how flaky random hires can be. The tats, including fairly random collections of tats have been common for over a decade. Providers change but so do clients and almost no one on the other thread (and I suspect this one) will really own that.

I’d give middling grades then and now. There were more smooth guys but they often were tweezed and shaved but not enough to camouflage this not being natural, not to mention the stubble burn. There are a ton more guys on the market, but there always have been plenty of marginal, misrepresenting, and/or disorganized guys. And more guys means more flakes. It also means many more choices in cities that had fewer than a handful of guys even 5 years ago. There were plenty of no shows and flakes in the old days. You could still get not great experiences from even well reviewed guys. Some of the posters on the other thread had relied on now-retired regulars and, probably forget how flaky random hires can be. The tats, including fairly random collections of tats have been common for over a decade. Providers change but so do clients and almost no one on the other thread (and I suspect this one) will really own that.

Tried to, set up an appointment but his ad lapsed the day of the appointment and he was late responding to my follow-up to confirm. Like later than the appointment. Initially vague about the rate, too.

Not everyone has the luxury of this because of where they live and many guys who are great for a fun hour aren't great for a longer time which requires a different skill set.

Not everyone has the luxury of this because of where they live and many guys who are great for a fun hour aren't great for a longer time which requires a different skill set.

Very unengaged, business-like in a bad way.

A few thoughts....college towns often are relatively isolated and you will be neither town nor gown which may be isolating. Also, if you want to socialize with gay people, it will be a small world of people who are happy to live in a rather isolated place. You also have decide what there is to do there...if you're not interested in sports and the school doesn't have much in the way of music or theater programs, there isn't going to be much to do/see. Some college towns like Boulder are quite expensive. Eugene seems to have had its day and passed. Austin is a sprawlburg well past its prime.
 
Are you going to try to get involved in the community? What kinds of things do you want to be doing? I have several neighbors and acquaintances who live in Rehoboth where there's enough of a gay community to have gay activities. It also means interacting with the same people all the time and it's also in a place miles from specialty care for health problems. One of my former neighbors regularly makes trips to DC for health care--3 tedious hours each way in low traffic.
 
Have been to Asheville several times....twice this year. One time, it was filled with traffic and tourists and the other time it was dead...neither seemed very attractive. You're also a long way from anywhere else. Again small social circles and I'd think twice about health care. My friends who are retiring there have had a weekend place for years there and one of them has a mother in a nursing home with a sister nearby--in other words they are integrated into the pace. Another friend considered it but health care needs nixed it. Other than outdoor stuff there isn't a lot to do in terms of easy weekend stuff---it's a pain to go to Atlanta which is...Atlanta, after all and the other side of the Smokies is Knoxville and tourist traps. I've generally tried live some place where I can take some varied weekend trips and have a change of scenery.
 
Sante Fe is expensive. I know people who've retired to Taos, as an alternative but it sounds like a place with small social circles which are initially interesting and varied but later a bit constricting.
 
Cheap places can be a natter of you get what you pay for. My former brother in law lasted a year in Columbia, SC which made some 10 best places to retire list. It has a state capital and a flagship university, but it also doesn't have much to do.
 
Foreign places raise a number of questions---some countries make it difficult to be year round residents (Brazil comes to mind), health care is a consideration although places like Thailand have people boarded in the US and UK. A lot of people like Coats Rica. The problem with foreign places is that the expat communities, even in big places like Bangkok, are small and can be cliqueish. I considered doing at least part of my retirement in thailand but as time has passed, I know fewer and fewer people and it seems less and less attractive.
 
You really need to spend time in a place and spend it like a local, not a tourist. You also really need to walk through how you would establish yourself and spend your time. I have relatives in DC who have had a cabin in Pennsylvania near State College for ages. They considered State College for retirement until they realized that some place that's ok in the summer when the students aren't there for a Home Depot or Wegman's trip isn't the same as State College during the school year the world there was going to seem small in ways they could do without. They retired in place in DC and seem very happy with the choice.

A few thoughts....college towns often are relatively isolated and you will be neither town nor gown which may be isolating. Also, if you want to socialize with gay people, it will be a small world of people who are happy to live in a rather isolated place. You also have decide what there is to do there...if you're not interested in sports and the school doesn't have much in the way of music or theater programs, there isn't going to be much to do/see. Some college towns like Boulder are quite expensive. Eugene seems to have had its day and passed. Austin is a sprawlburg well past its prime.
 
Are you going to try to get involved in the community? What kinds of things do you want to be doing? I have several neighbors and acquaintances who live in Rehoboth where there's enough of a gay community to have gay activities. It also means interacting with the same people all the time and it's also in a place miles from specialty care for health problems. One of my former neighbors regularly makes trips to DC for health care--3 tedious hours each way in low traffic.
 
Have been to Asheville several times....twice this year. One time, it was filled with traffic and tourists and the other time it was dead...neither seemed very attractive. You're also a long way from anywhere else. Again small social circles and I'd think twice about health care. My friends who are retiring there have had a weekend place for years there and one of them has a mother in a nursing home with a sister nearby--in other words they are integrated into the pace. Another friend considered it but health care needs nixed it. Other than outdoor stuff there isn't a lot to do in terms of easy weekend stuff---it's a pain to go to Atlanta which is...Atlanta, after all and the other side of the Smokies is Knoxville and tourist traps. I've generally tried live some place where I can take some varied weekend trips and have a change of scenery.
 
Sante Fe is expensive. I know people who've retired to Taos, as an alternative but it sounds like a place with small social circles which are initially interesting and varied but later a bit constricting.
 
Cheap places can be a natter of you get what you pay for. My former brother in law lasted a year in Columbia, SC which made some 10 best places to retire list. It has a state capital and a flagship university, but it also doesn't have much to do.
 
Foreign places raise a number of questions---some countries make it difficult to be year round residents (Brazil comes to mind), health care is a consideration although places like Thailand have people boarded in the US and UK. A lot of people like Coats Rica. The problem with foreign places is that the expat communities, even in big places like Bangkok, are small and can be cliqueish. I considered doing at least part of my retirement in thailand but as time has passed, I know fewer and fewer people and it seems less and less attractive.
 
You really need to spend time in a place and spend it like a local, not a tourist. You also really need to walk through how you would establish yourself and spend your time. I have relatives in DC who have had a cabin in Pennsylvania near State College for ages. They considered State College for retirement until they realized that some place that's ok in the summer when the students aren't there for a Home Depot or Wegman's trip isn't the same as State College during the school year the world there was going to seem small in ways they could do without. They retired in place in DC and seem very happy with the choice.

A few thoughts....college towns often are relatively isolated and you will be neither town nor gown which may be isolating. Also, if you want to socialize with gay people, it will be a small world of people who are happy to live in a rather isolated place. You also have decide what there is to do there...if you're not interested in sports and the school doesn't have much in the way of music or theater programs, there isn't going to be much to do/see. Some college towns like Boulder are quite expensive. Eugene seems to have had its day and passed. Austin is a sprawlburg well past its prime.
 
Are you going to try to get involved in the community? What kinds of things do you want to be doing? I have several neighbors and acquaintances who live in Rehoboth where there's enough of a gay community to have gay activities. It also means interacting with the same people all the time and it's also in a place miles from specialty care for health problems. One of my former neighbors regularly makes trips to DC for health care--3 tedious hours each way in low traffic.
 
Have been to Asheville several times....twice this year. One time, it was filled with traffic and tourists and the other time it was dead...neither seemed very attractive. You're also a long way from anywhere else. Again small social circles and I'd think twice about health care. My friends who are retiring there have had a weekend place for years there and one of them has a mother in a nursing home with a sister nearby--in other words they are integrated into the pace. Another friend considered it but health care needs nixed it. Other than outdoor stuff there isn't a lot to do in terms of easy weekend stuff---it's a pain to go to Atlanta which is...Atlanta, after all and the other side of the Smokies is Knoxville and tourist traps. I've generally tried live some place where I can take some varied weekend trips and have a change of scenery.
 
Sante Fe is expensive. I know people who've retired to Taos, as an alternative but it sounds like a place with small social circles which are initially interesting and varied but later a bit constricting.
 
Cheap places can be a natter of you get what you pay for. My former brother in law lasted a year in Columbia, SC which made some 10 best places to retire list. It has a state capital and a flagship university, but it also doesn't have much to do.
 
Foreign places raise a number of questions---some countries make it difficult to be year round residents (Brazil comes to mind), health care is a consideration although places like Thailand have people boarded in the US and UK. A lot of people like Coats Rica. The problem with foreign places is that the expat communities, even in big places like Bangkok, are small and can be cliqueish. I considered doing at least part of my retirement in thailand but as time has passed, I know fewer and fewer people and it seems less and less attractive.
 
You really need to spend time in a place and spend it like a local, not a tourist. You also really need to walk through how you would establish yourself and spend your time. I have relatives in DC who have had a cabin in Pennsylvania near State College for ages. They considered State College for retirement until they realized that some place that's ok in the summer when the students aren't there for a Home Depot or Wegman's trip isn't the same as State College during the school year the world there was going to seem small in ways they could do without. They retired in place in DC and seem very happy with the choice.

Invaded, no. Your complaint is probably one of the most common here, although it tends to revolve around "dafe" providers who bareback, but I wouldn't be surprised if "anything goes" doesn't always mean that, as well. Without specific examples of guys who perhaps have been encountered by other posters, your question is "academic" at best.

The Millennium Hilton, near World Trade Center has some of the largest rooms in the City and on an upper floor you'll have an interesting view of one sort or another, without having another large building next door. It's probably the only NYC hotel where I've stayed that had a "real" pool, although that's probably not high on your list for a trip like this.
 
If theater is on the list (and perhaps its not), a good place to stay is the Times Square Hilton---42nd street is a zoo, but the hotel also has one on 41st which usually has light pedestrian traffic. The guest rooms are on upper floors of the building, so you have some security and the rooms are good sized.

Clearly a con from the beginning and able to manage it better before his using got out of control. Read the whole thread---it's cautionary regarding how easy it is to be taken in and make excuses even after someone has demonstrated being unworthy of them.

A working guy once was miffed that I didn’t talk to him at one of the DC lunches. I said he was with someone else and I didn’t want to intrude. Steven was at the dinner “on business”. Of course it was appropriate for him to sit elsewhere. Would t have bothered me, esp. if he just said no more than 25 words to me. All anyone owes you is to pay attention and be engaged during your time together. Anything more and consider yourself lucky.

It's very spread out and carbound. Your clients probably will be downtown, the northwest suburbs (where businesses cluster) and the near northern suburbs like Royal Oak & Huntington Woods with sizable gay populations. There used to be some elements of a gayborhood along 7 Mile radiating from Woodward but that seems to have dissapated over time.
 
The downtown area out to the area around Wayne State has gone through a remarkable amount of change, but the city remains filled with vacant homes and neighborhoods filed withe mpty space. There are some nice, relatively affordable neighborhoods near 8 Mile Road such as the University District (near U Detroit) but it wouldn't work for incalls because guys won't want to come to you.
 
A lot of native white Detroiters (and the children they raised) have never really gotten over the 60s riots and the acceleration of white flight that followed. African Americans who can afford it also have departed to the suburbs. The idea that parts of the city are pleasant & well maintained or truly coming back is still a hard sell.

This guy and his main pic have been around since at least 2005. The reports have tended toward mixed to negative and the pic doesn't always clearly seem to be the same guy--this one is an oldie. I've actually wondered if more than one guy has used this ad because of the more positive reviews and the variation in his pics and situation (dog, fellow traveler, etc.). The guy I saw in 2005 wasn't as close a match with the pic as I would have liked and he was barely pro forma as a service provider. I'd steer clear.

The usual advice (which you've received) is to have an hour or two with the guy. That's no guarantee of compatibility but you'll have a better idea of who he is, although someone fun for an hour or two is not necessarily going to be good company for several days--you need to know if he can make conversation, etc. Look at the reviews and see who has been reviewed, preferably > 1 for a multi-day hire. Search here with key words like "overnight" "trips", "vacation" to see who has been discussed in the past year or two. A reputable guy who has not met you before will want to have a quite a bit of communication with you before they commit.

The partner who escorted with him left rather soon after, escorted for awhile in NYC and later moved out West. He was quoted by someone here as having left because of the drug use. The partner, whose name escapes me, was much more interactive and seemed like a nice guy.
 
KJ had worked as an accountant, so he wasn't exactly w/o skills.

Saw him early in his career. Seemed generally disinterested in a way that made me think he was a con artist. Not entirely surprised when he flames out.