Be friend with regular escorts/masseurs

[CalebP89]

Is it okay to be friends with regular escorts/masseurs? Ask to hang out, texting?!!

[GTMike]

Is it okay to be friends with regular escorts/masseurs? Ask to hang out, texting?!!

I would say that it depends. I think it really has to happen naturally over time and you'd really have to have a few sessions with the provider before moving into that type of relationship or it might seem forced or that you are potentially gonna be too clingy. I'm friendly/friends with all the regulars i hang out with but it takes time for it to be real and authentic.

[Ryan Roman]

I have a couple long term clients that I'll chat with via text... But again I have established relationships with them. Otherwise, I wouldn't chat with them via text.

[+ bashful]

I too think it depends, and usually on the provider. I believe more (although there are exceptions) see you as a customer rather than a potential friend.

[nsguy45]

Has any escort on this site developed such a strong relationship with a client that they began seeing them sexually without being paid for it?

[big-n-tall]

I agree with what the previous posters wrote.

 

Is it ok to be friends with an escort or masseur? Absolutely. However, the escort or masseur has to be open to it. You can’t force a relationship no matter how much you want it or think you click with the other person.

 

Compared to the number of working guys I’ve seen, a small number have become genuine friends. With some of them, we clicked on the first meeting, others it took a bit more time.

[GTMike]

I agree with what the previous posters wrote.

 

Is it ok to be friends with an escort or masseur? Absolutely. However, the escort or masseur has to be open to it. You can’t force a relationship no matter how much you want it or think you click with the other person.

 

Compared to the number of working guys I’ve seen, a small number have become genuine friends. With some of them, we clicked on the first meeting, others it took a bit more time.

I agree.

[GTMike]

Has any escort on this site developed such a strong relationship with a client that they began seeing them sexually without being paid for it?

I'll provide an answer for myself (not as an escort) but can say that a very experienced escort who has been on RM quite a bit (i think he still is) that we did develop and have that type of relationship. Caveat though that he considered what i liked really tame and easy for him but he liked hanging out regardless and so it was at his insistence that the renumeration for time stop because we basically became buddies with (mild) benefits.

[MichBoyBlake]

Is it okay to be friends with regular escorts/masseurs? Ask to hang out, texting?!!

 

It's definitely completely ok! In fact I really like clients like that honestly. I just think like any human relationship it's important to be upfront and try to stay in tune with what the other person wants.

I have a couple of clients that I would say have become friends. The main one that I'm thinking of in particular doesn't book me very often, but we text back and forth here and there and keep in touch. That one works out really well though because it's understood that booking is still booking, even if we get along great and communicate regularly outside of bookings.

 

Of course everyone is different and feels different ways about different things, but for me personally, I generally wouldn't be open to making friends with clients who then stop booking and just expect to be fwb. I've had clients try to move into that territory before and I've felt bad about not being able to go that way, but I've also made sure to be upfront and respectful of the other person's feelings/time. I do like having a somewhat blurred line between my personal life and my work as an escort, but it's just very difficult for me to fully overlap the two.

 

In a perfect world, I feel like both clients and providers shouldn't feel nervous, embarrassed or anxious about discussing these types of things in a 1-on-1 manner and working out a solution that works for both of them.

 

But seriously if you're asking about this as a client, you're my favorite type of client! For me that's the type of arrangement I aim for with clients.

[MichBoyBlake]

Although its not smart to mix business and friendship, as it muddies the waters and may cause problems, at least from my past experience these things happen naturally overtime seeing someone. Im not against being friendly with people, and giving them extra perks as spending time for what they hired for and hanging out after the session from time to time. However what I don't like is when they try to force this friendship from the start and that is their agenda from the get go. You have no clue how many clients first meetings ask about going on dates, hanging out off the clock, basically trying to get as much time out of me, even though i try to be as nice as possible, its sometimes not good enough for some people. Sometimes you have to set boundaries and stay firm although this may make you lose clients but this is ultimately a client/escort relationship, although if you stay long enough with me you get some added on perks hehe

 

I've seen someone for like 3 years now and we've never hanged out off the clock and thats a reason why probably he's still booking me bc its never no drama while theirs another person who I saw for like 2 years we became friends but then we started arguing about stupid things, and things such as jealously and him getting angry at me for not answering his texts fast enough occur so our relationship soured and we stop seeing one another... so thats why i say sometimes its best to just keep things as is, although other clients I'm sure me being super friendly and the added perks keeps them from seeing me over and over again. Ultimately I want escorting to be as drama free as possible, I got enough real life problems, I want this to be always easy and fun for both of us and strive to keep this relationship for as long as possible

 

I know what I said might seem like the opposite of your viewpoint, but I 100% agree with this and I think you worded it a lot better than I did.

To piggyback off your comment a bit, I personally don't mind, and in same cases actually prefer muddying the waters a bit. But I'm also not willing to go down that road with people that I don't have a clear understanding with in terms of this is still, on some level ALWAYS going to be a provider-client type of relationship. Like, I'm always willing to text with clients here and there even if they've only hired me once, simply as a way to keep in contact a bit, but without aggressively reminding them of the time they hired me. But if I were going to just hang out with a client off-the-clock, it would have to be a client that I've met with enough times to feel comfortable enough with that I know I could do that and still retain a client-provider relationship, where they would still book me sometimes rather than just asking to "hang out" all the time. Part of the reason this hasn't been a huge issue for me I think is that in my own personal life I also don't really hook up that often, so 9 times out of 10 if we've become friends through a client-provider relationship and you'd like to just hang out for a bit, I'm probably not going to want to hookup simply because it's blurring to the side of my personal life a bit and it's just not something I do much of in my personal life anymore.

 

But yeah, I'm still relatively pretty new to this and I've already met way too many clients that try to move it into something it isn't way too quickly simply because they enjoy themselves and would ideally prefer to not have to actually book me. I'm also very flirty, easy-going and nice, so I'm sure inexperienced clients probably also get the wrong impression sometimes too.

 

Just like [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER] stated, one thing I enjoy a lot about being a provider and having these provider-client relationships is that they're generally pretty care-free, low pressure and low drama. I find that I do enjoy blurring the lines a little with the right people, but the low pressure and low drama aspects of that relationship would always have to stay the same for me even when blurring the lines into friendship.

 

TL;DR: I think [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER] made some really good points, and if you really think you'd like to try pushing into being friends with an escort/masseur that you feel you have a good relationship, by all means I feel like you should be able to be upfront and ask about it, but also don't be offended and stop booking them just because they don't want to go in that same direction, and you should definitely be sensitive to the idea of on-the-clock vs. off-the-clock, and don't try to pressure in a lot of off-the-clock hanging out without continuing to have on-the-clock sessions as well.

[maninsoma]

I made one friend out of the many men I've hired, and it's someone I hired significantly more often than anyone else. If I made a list of all the men I hired, there would probably be only a few guys I hired more than two or three times, though, and I wouldn't expect a friendship to develop with someone I only met a couple of times.

 

A friendship between a provider and client needs to be a two-way street, just like any other friendship, and it cannot be forced. There has to be a genuine mutual interest in each other outside of the business relationship for it to work.

[AJ Doyle]

This is a really good question! I run into this time to time. I think each situation depends on the escort and what they are comfortable with. Boundaries. For me I consider my best clients friends as well. That being said I don't let it turn into a fwb situation. Like if I worked for an employer at a restaurant and I became friends with the boss...does that mean he doesn't have to pay me anymore? If I become friends with my trainer or hair stylist do I quit paying him? No. I feel a client can hire me for my time and still be a friend. Clients I see regularly I see them cause I enjoy the time we spend together. If I don't like him I won't re-book with them. I always express this to my regulars when they bring up friendship. I do give perks like spending some extra time with a client for dinner without charging extra if he is a consistent regular. Especially if they have already booked 2 or 3 hours. I really appreciate my clients that book me for multiple hours and like to show my appreciation. But if a client were to book me for an hour and then ask for extra time off the clock I would have to decline as I would feel like I was being taken advantage of. A client that doesn't ask for time off the clock...is likely the one that I'm going to provide those perks for as I feel he respects my time.

As for texting I am cool with that between sessions with my regulars. I actually enjoy hearing from you. Plus it's a nice reminder that you're interested in me and that I can look forward to a future session. Emails are even better. One of my favorite clients messages me time to time on RM. https://rentmen.eu/AJDoyle

[TopVolt]

I agree with Dominic, I was about to ask sort of a similar question, but not really with an escort. I have been approached by one of my regular masseurs to hang out off the clock for drinks or movies or just to chill at home. For me is very important to keep the relation estrictly into what it is, business, if you allow more, one or another will develops feelings, and this is a recepee for disaster. So enjoy your time together! That’s all I can say.

[+ Pensant]

I became friends with several over the years, even meeting one’s mother and another’s bf. I’m usually the one that drifts away, since they’re perhaps unrealistic and unsustainable. I have to admit that I’ve felt deeply about several, and I believe they felt the same. Several have asked for a bf relationship. As in all other facets of life, being open to emotions and others’ sensitivities often yields rewarding results.

[Rudynate]

I'm fond of nearly every man I've ever hired and I'm glad to see them. But for me, when they are out of sight, they are out of mind. I haven't asked any of them, but I imagine they like it that way too.

[TruthBTold]

Has any escort on this site developed such a strong relationship with a client that they began seeing them sexually without being paid for it?

 

I had an escort who I really clicked with sexually. Over time we began to do things off the clock, like a concert or movie. Then seemingly out of the blue he asked if he could see me because he wanted to have fun in a certain way. I did not ask but I guess he knew I really liked doing it and I must have been fairly decent at it (no it was nothing kinky). I more than obliged and I was glad to see him.