Client's initial contact

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

When contacted by a prospective new client, what percentage of the time do they offer their stats and/or pic upfront?

[+ StLouisOct]

When contacted by a prospective new client, what percentage of the time do they offer their stats and/or pic upfront?

I’m a client who’s looking forward to hearing escort responses. I always provide specifics about myself and what I want to do, but I NEVER provide a photo of myself. I’d be surprised if doing so is common, but I don’t have anywhere near the level of experience that most escorts have.

[liubit]

Just like @StLouisOct, I NEVER give them a picture of myself, never. If they insist, it is a deal-breaker.

[+ nycman]

I don't initially give details or pics.

 

If asked I’d give basic stats no problem, but I’d start

to worry about the providers ability to handle men he

may not be sexually attracted to. Face it, even if I’m a

God...I won’t be everyone’s cup of tea. In this business,

you need to be able to handle that reality and adapt.

 

Pic?...never. Goodbye.

[escortrod]

I find about 1/4 offer stats and/or a picture. I'm surprised by how many do, but I guess they are keen to ensure there is at least some degree of compatibility.

[+ VictorPowers]

Stats are far more popular. I'm in than a pic. Stats I'd say 50% of the time. My clients tend to give a brief description of themselves very often. Pictures are given less than 10% of the time.

[+ ArVaGuy]

I provide a brief description with age, height, weight, and a few other attributes. Can’t and won’t provide a photo.

[MassageDrew]

I’m a client and I can only remember one masseur asking for my stats. Never a pic. Does it really matter though? What’s the point? There’s really no excuse to be selective if you intend to form a good clientele.

[Mocha]

I say 100% of the time because I won’t meet anyone who doesn’t provide their stats. That’s the very 1st thing I ask, in an automated template response. Photo not necessary, though many of my clients voluntarily send one anyway, so it wouldn’t be earth shattering if one day I decided to even ask for that.

 

It’s nothing to do with looks or judgement. It’s like come on, it’s 2018. This is not 1995 blind internet dating where you had to have a scanner and stamp to send a picture. There’s no reason to meet anyone who doesn’t volunteer what they look like. And if they can’t provide it, I have the technology to pull it up myself.

 

I simply ask because on more than a few occasions, I’ve ended up meeting someone who was either underage or significantly unexpected. I think it’s a misunderstanding that just because an escort should be able to handle any client, that it equates to them being willing to meet someone without even knowing who or what they appear.

 

There’s a difference between being able to handle any client, versus not knowing who the person who’s merely TEXTING you (the other reason I’ve begun to ask more often, as many appointments are text back). To me, it’s unsafe and irresponsible. I refuse to do it.

 

Some “clients” (saying that loosely) may have an issue with someone asking. Yet, they can see a whole collage of face and full nude photos of me, but are afraid to tell me what their age or stats are? Dude, GTFO of here.

[wearytraveller]

I find about 1/4 offer stats and/or a picture. I'm surprised by how many do, but I guess they are keen to ensure there is at least some degree of compatibility.

 

I provide a brief description with age, height, weight, and a few other attributes. Can’t and won’t provide a photo.

 

I do the same as @ArVaGuy for the reasons set out by @escortrod

[Mocha]

I do the same as @ArVaGuy for the reasons set out by @escortrod

 

I would compare it to something like wine. A person may like wine, any wine. But I’m sure they wouldn’t appreciate someone bringing them an entire truckload of blacked out bottles of it. They’d want to know is it Red, White, or Blackberry wine. Is it going to be sweet and light or dry and heavy? That way they can prepare the palate accordingly to receive it. Doesn’t mean they’re a wine snob who doesn’t appreciate wine, but rather a sophisticated person who knows their wine.

 

Once people set aside the insecurities and ego (e.g. I’m paying, so what does it matter), it’ll all reveal to be pretty logical. And meeting someone without knowing what they look like, is like grabbing a bottle of wine off the shelf and hoping it pairs with what you cooked. When all was needed was to pair the meal and wine together to make the best fit.

 

Sure, your guest may get full and drunk either way. But the purpose of fine dining is not to merely get full and drunk, of course. If it was, one could just go to Chilis or Applebee’s and spend much less.

Edited April 23, 2018 by Mocha

[ericwinters]

I don't think that want my picture sitting on escorts email (or email provider's server forever) ever especially with new laws that were enacted.

[ncc1701d]

I too am surprised that clients will agree to photo. In 15 years I've provided stats less than a handful of times, and no pics, which is a total deal breaker. Yes it's 2018 and there is Grindr. But pic on a "dating" site and in an escort email is very different. If concerned, then meet at a mutually agreed public place like coffee shop and go from there.

[MassageDrew]

I’ve read the comments from both sode and I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s still unnecessary to ask for stats or pics.

 

For the masseurs or escorts wanting this info you should put this detail within your ad. For those who don’t mind they’ll sure to contact you. For those who wouldn’t provide the info then they’ll just move on without having to bother you.

[TruthBTold]

I’ve read the comments from both sode and I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s still unnecessary to ask for stats or pics.

For the masseurs or escorts wanting this info you should put this detail within your ad. For those who don’t mind they’ll sure to contact you. For those who wouldn’t provide the info then they’ll just move on without having to bother you.

 

I'm in total agreement and always assume that if the escort has certain limitations then I do not contact him. If he states in his profile that he will absolutely not meet partially bald men the I do not try to contact him. There are plenty of cocks in the forest (or whatever the saying is.) My first contact is to indicate that I am interested and that I would like to know what the best way to communicate with the escort is. Then in the indicated type of communication we can talk about all sorts of things, including stats and desires. If the escort decides we probably won't click then he can tell me or indicate it. I will then move on to my next pick.

[+ freecahill1965]

If you need to be discrete, who in their right mind would send a picture of themselves to someone they do not even know. You are paying $200-400 an hour. If they can't accept my description in my RM profile, it is time to find another. As I stated before, my best experience with escorts where those that never asked though I always offer my RM profile even if they do not ask.

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

Thanks guys... I appreciate the input.. very helpful.

[MiamiLooker]

If you need to be discrete, who in their right mind would send a picture of themselves to someone they do not even know.

When I've been asked for a pic, I'll send a full body pic without showing my face. That's always been sufficient. I've never been asked specifically for a face pic.

[Kris Parkes]

I have never asked a client for neither stats nor a pic. Most might offer their age. But probably less than 30% offered full stats, and probably less than 5% sent a pic, even when I did not request it.

 

I find a client is more likely to offer age and height/weight, if he is concerned that either stat will be a potential issue.

[MTLBLCKMASTER]

I say 100% of the time because I won’t meet anyone who doesn’t provide their stats. That’s the very 1st thing I ask, in an automated template response. Photo not necessary, though many of my clients voluntarily send one anyway, so it wouldn’t be earth-shattering if one day I decided to even ask for that.

 

It’s nothing to do with looks or judgement. It’s like come on, it’s 2018. This is not 1995 blind internet dating where you had to have a scanner and stamp to send a picture. There’s no reason to meet anyone who doesn’t volunteer what they look like. And if they can’t provide it, I have the technology to pull it up myself.

 

I simply ask because, on more than a few occasions, I’ve ended up meeting someone who was either underage or significantly unexpected. I think it’s a misunderstanding that just because an escort should be able to handle any client, that it equates to them being willing to meet someone without even knowing who or what they appear.

 

There’s a difference between being able to handle any client, versus not knowing who the person who’s merely TEXTING you (the other reason I’ve begun to ask more often, as many appointments are text back). To me, it’s unsafe and irresponsible. I refuse to do it.

 

Some “clients” (saying that loosely) may have an issue with someone asking. Yet, they can see a whole collage of face and full nude photos of me, but are afraid to tell me what their age or stats are? Dude, GTFO of here.

 

I am not escorting since long but I ask body and ass pics + stats :

1/because I am not a starving "whore" I want to have genuine desire for you and even tho (yes my expectations are lowered because I should be realistic) I have a weak point for daddies 45-55 but the man who put their hygiene and overall appearance in check.

 

2/I agree you have a full review of my self my phone my email my address my links my page, hell u might even know what I ate this morning but lord behold I ask for a phone call or a decent presentation when it comes to someone I will let "IN" my house? No offence to anyone but the client who refuses to provide any kind of reassuring reference at all and get insulted almost if ask is clearly not the client for me. "ALL MONEY IS NOT GOOD MONEY", I like meeting wiser men I can after the deed talk and all, but no way, I will meet you if you don't show a minimum of reciprocity from the get-go and if it happens to be sure to pay ahead!

 

3/There is clearly something wrong with the way our business has been thought out for me to read that absurdity from another age. I read clients everywhere being as worried as escorts about how and where to meet each other but the lack of respect and the entitled feeling that some display is killing me. how do we reconcile clients and providers maybe with a website that makes mandatory to create a client profile to be verified via cam by an admin...? this way everybody wins...

 

4/I won't even start with the security issue on the matter...

[MTLBLCKMASTER]

When I've been asked for a pic, I'll send a full body pic without showing my face. That's always been sufficient. I've never been asked specifically for a face pic.

 

IF ONLY I COULD LIKE YOUR ANSWER MORE I WOULD! BRAVO

[Mocha]

I am not escorting since long but I ask body and ass pics + stats :

1/because I am not a starving "whore" I want to have genuine desire for you and even tho (yes my expectations are lowered because I should be realistic) I have a weak point for daddies 45-55 but the man who put their hygiene and overall appearance in check.

 

2/I agree you have a full review of my self my phone my email my address my links my page, hell u might even know what I ate this morning but lord behold I ask for a phone call or a decent presentation when it comes to someone I will let "IN" my house? No offence to anyone but the client who refuses to provide any kind of reassuring reference at all and get insulted almost if ask is clearly not the client for me. "ALL MONEY IS NOT GOOD MONEY", I like meeting wiser men I can after the deed talk and all, but no way, I will meet you if you don't show a minimum of reciprocity from the get-go and if it happens to be sure to pay ahead!

 

3/There is clearly something wrong with the way our business has been thought out for me to read that absurdity from another age. I read clients everywhere being as worried as escorts about how and where to meet each other but the lack of respect and the entitled feeling that some display is killing me. how do we reconcile clients and providers maybe with a website that makes mandatory to create a client profile to be verified via cam by an admin...? this way everybody wins...

 

4/I won't even start with the security issue on the matter...

 

Well that’s what rentmen has done. Of all the websites, it is the first to allow clients to make a profile so we know who they are. A huge advantage over rentboy and seeing our profile looked at thousands of times, without knowing whom.

 

Like I say, my reason for asking stats is mainly to know who I’m meeting, and to weed out being in another situation where the person may be underage (has happened). Awhile back, clients called or emailed. Now it’s all text. It’s instant and accessible, and I like to have something to go off of.

 

There’s definitely entitlement and lack of respect out there. That’s why I said part of the fight has to start with the other end.