Just got screened by another escort - WTF?

[gallahadesquire]

We all have our different views on this. I can see both sides. But I tend to err on the side of @youngboldone . I think if you are in the escort business you sign up to be open to all. The first thing that comes to my mind is if the escort is white. He asks for a pic and you send it. (and you are black.) He answers you back and says he is not into black guys, and you are not welcome to avail of his services. (?) This is flat out discrimination. And it can apply to Asians, Mexicans, etc. Then it goes a step further to overweight guys, unattractive guys, etc. Discrimination is a slippery slope. If you sign up to be an escort, all should be welcome. Escorts are not machines, and if the attraction is not there, you just do the best you can. I think the client will appreciate just being with you, and your effort. I think he will be MORE offended and unhappy if you start asking for photos and he feels you are vetting him, and he is being screened for your "stamp" of approval. We all need to be realistic.....most guys that hire escorts are not supermodels. Reality check. So escorts need to be realistic also and not ask for photos to approve of the appearance of the client. Bottom line is that discrimination in ANY form sucks.

Mostly playing Devil's Advocate:

 

I'd rather hear "I don't think we're a match," than have someone accept the appointment and then turn out to be a dud. Legally, we have no leg to stand on (can't really form a contract, now, can we?).

 

I agree in principle to what this poster is saying. I'll stick with my good buddy, who has proven himself to be a friend as well as hot as hell in the sack. Yes, I pay for the privilege, but if I had a wife, it would cost me more.

[MikeBiDude]

I'd rather hear "I don't think we're a match," than have someone accept the appointment and then turn out to be a dud

Absolutely this.

 

I think if you are in the escort business you sign to be open to all.

Doesn’t matter if an escort puts/advertises himself on a site, charges $150-$1000, he’s not an autonotom he’s a human being...in business for himself. No preexisting obligation to clients....

 

[+ Keith30309]

We all have our different views on this. I can see both sides. But I tend to err on the side of @youngboldone I think if you are in the escort business you sign up to be open to all.

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If you sign up to be an escort, all should be welcome.

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Escorts are not machines, and if the attraction is not there, you just do the best you can.

So, a couple of devil’s advocate thoughts.

 

I don’t think you can compare spending intimate time with someone to refusing to serve a meal at a Woolworth’s lunch counter in Greensboro, NC.

 

And i really don’t want “the best you can do”. If it’s a lousy match then don’t make me spend a bunch of money for an at-best mediocre experience.

Edited April 24, 2018 by Keith30309

[+ LAdude424]

I don't see this as debatable. There is no Escort Board of Ethics. Escorts don't take an oath upon receipt of their certification. They aren't employed by a government agency, airline, hospital, or even spa that requires equitable treatment and legal nondiscriminatory practices.

 

An escort has the right to employ whatever rules, terms, preferences, quirks, or biases for who they choose to meet. You have the right to have nothing to do with that escort.

[+ Travis69]

What if the client said he didn't care if their performance wasn't that great? He took full responsibility for a less then stellar performance but still wanted to see the escort. The escort has now been relieved of the "great compatibility" need.

[caliguy]

These guys are in the wrong business!! They need to be on Grindr, not Rentmen! Pisses me off. A shame, too, because he was hot.

 

What are you talking about? It's the privilege of being hot. Supply and demand and all. When demand is less the suppler will be less demanding. Business 101.

[+ Travis69]

I worked in an organization where my boss was extremely religious. She thought I was gay, which I am. She obviously didn't like that fact and didn't feel comfortable around me. To make her feel more comfortable in the workplace and ensure good compatibility within the organization I quit. I am happy I could make the workplace a better environment for her.

[Bucky]

Well, THIS will open a hornets nest on here !! Am popping the corn now.

 

I worked in an organization where my boss was extremely religious. She thought I was gay, which I am. She obviously didn't like that fact and didn't feel comfortable around me. To make her feel more comfortable in the workplace and ensure good compatibility within the organization I quit. I am happy I could make the workplace a better environment for her.

[caliguy]

What if the client said he didn't care if their performance wasn't that great? He took full responsibility for a less then stellar performance but still wanted to see the escort. The escort has now been relieved of the "great compatibility" need.

 

The guy is looking to keep his reputation clean by vigorously screening clients so everyone is happy. He's probably got great reviews and wants to keep if that way.

 

Yes. If you're not wanting to share the required info about yourself then that would be a good way of circumventing his screening process.

Edited April 24, 2018 by caliguy

[+ freecahill1965]

When I hired someone for the first time, I arranged to meet up with the guy in a bar in my Vegas hotel before bringing him upstairs. After agreeing on the time, I’d texted him a face pic. Sure, I could’ve found him since I knew what he looked like, but thought it was nice to send mine so he knew who he was meeting. He later told me that sending my face pic signaled to him that I probably thought I was hot and that the escort should be grateful I’d hired him and that I would be full of myself and possibly trouble. Ha! That was surprising to me, as none of those things was at all my intention. I’ve never done it again, and I’ve also never been asked to.

Well, THIS will open a hornets nest on here !! Am popping the corn now.

Well, I want plenty of butter.

[+ Travis69]

The guy is looking to keep his reputation clean by vigorously screening clients so everyone is happy. He's probably got great reviews and wants to keep if that way.

 

Yes. If you're not wanting to share the required info about yourself then that would be a good way of circumventing his screening process.

The client has sent all info knowing full well that he will not be approved but tells the escort he doesn't care about "the greatest experience" and fully understands the escort's criteria. He just wants to see the escort and will NOT write a bad review because he is going into the appointment already warned.

[Golem]

...if the attraction is not there, you just do the best you can. I think the client will appreciate just being with you, and your effort.

Except that the client pays the same amount of money whether the provider is able to fully engage in the moment or is just doing the best he can.

Sometimes two wonderful people have bad chemistry together. If the provider suspects that is likely to happen, I'd rather know about it, and avoid getting what will feel like a bum deal (even though no one was trying to give me one). It's not an insult, and it's not discrimination, to acknowledge that the way I act and the way I present myself impact my chemistry with other people.

 

That said, I also cannot imagine saying to anyone "sorry, I'm not attracted to ____ guys" and don't see why that would ever be necessary. "Sorry, I'm just not feeling the chemistry that helps make my sessions work smoothly -- I think I am the wrong guy for you. But thanks for getting in touch and have a great trip!" If someone says that to me I leave the interaction feeling like they are classier than many others would have been.

 

IMO, that feeling is a lot better than "ugh, I can't believe I just spent all that money on that disconnected experience."

[instudiocity]

I don't see this as debatable. There is no Escort Board of Ethics. Escorts don't take an oath upon receipt of their certification. They aren't employed by a government agency, airline, hospital, or even spa that requires equitable treatment and legal nondiscriminatory practices.

 

An escort has the right to employ whatever rules, terms, preferences, quirks, or biases for who they choose to meet. You have the right to have nothing to do with that escort.

In other words, they are not a Public Accommodation... They are a PUBIC Accommodation...

[+ goosh69]

Supply and demand for being hot should be covered entirely by the price per hour charged. I’ve generally had much better looking guys the more I pay. And if the JOHN needs to look good to the escort, the escort should charge LESS.

 

You see I tend to like the really hot guys who charge way more than average. No fucking way am paying them 50-100% more than normal but also sending a pic like it’s Tinder. And ALSO the discrimination thing written above.

 

Interestingly, 0.00% of straight escorts have ever asked or cared about what I look like.

[Dmitri]

So I guess the escorts that ask for a pic, stats, etc. are the ones that are picking and choosing who they want to be with. I get that now. The consensus from the majority of posters is that they are okay with this and defend that practice. You are the clients, and if you are all okay with that, that is all that matters. You all stated your views clearly, and from reading thru the posts the takeaway is most ( but not all) think it is fine for escorts to pick and choose who they work with based on appearance. For myself personally, it is kind of funny, since I am 6'1"...185 lbs. lean muscle....VGL....and hire escorts on business trips for some quick action instead of wasting time on apps, etc. Even though most any escort that would request a pic would grab me once they saw me, I would not send a pic, and would move on. Personal preference. The pic thing just turns me off. But thanks for the education, and I respect how you guys stick up for escorts that do this. If you guys are okay with it, at the end of the day, that is all that matters.

Edited April 25, 2018 by Dmitri

[MiamiLooker]

But thanks for the education, and I respect how you guys stick up for escorts that do this. If you guys are okay with it, at the end of the day, that is all that matters.

Maybe it's not so much that guys are defending it, but they accept it as a reality of hiring; much like paying higher and higher fees.

[+ freecahill1965]

Maybe it's not so much that guys are defending it, but they accept it as a reality of hiring; much like paying higher and higher fees.

I am not sure it is even a defense. If they do not have a need to be discrete and they do not mind the risk it involves in sharing their appearance with someone, I would be ok with it as well. Some people just do not have that luxury.

[MiamiLooker]

I am not sure it is even a defense. If they do not have a need to be discrete and they do not mind the risk it involves in sharing their appearance with someone, I would be ok with it as well. Some people just do not have that luxury.

If an escort simply asks for your pic, do you automatically assume he's asking for a face pic? When I've sent a pic, it's a full body pic without my face showing. I've never been asked specifically for a face pic.

[caliguy]

Some of these guys are getting hundreds of calls per week. A TX escort who posts here time to time is always complaining about that.

 

So yes there has to be some kind of screening process where there's either more money involved or in this case pictures. Again. Supply and demand.

[+ freecahill1965]

Some of these guys are getting hundreds of calls per week. A TX escort who posts here time to time is always complaining about that.

 

So yes there has to be some kind of screening process where there's either more money involved or in this case pictures. Again. Supply and demand.

Like I said, my best experiences are those that ask for nothing and go by my rentmen profile. My best experiences to date are escorts that charge $300 or less, mostly less. I have very few, like one or two, who have asked for stats. We must have a good enough supply or we just have escorts who provide good service to all.

[caliguy]

For myself personally, it is kind of funny, since I am 6'1"...185 lbs. lean muscle....VGL....most any escort that would request a pic would grab me once they saw me.

I'm kind of finding it hard to believe you don't send pictures out though. Lol

[caliguy]

Like I said, my best experiences are those that ask for nothing and go by my rentmen profile. My best experiences to date are escorts that charge $300 or less, mostly less. I have very few, like one or two, who have asked for stats. We must have a good enough supply or we just have escorts who provide good service to all.

Yes but we're talking about the Platinum guys. Prices start at 300.

[+ freecahill1965]

Yes but we're talking about the Platinum guys. Prices start at 300.

Yes, I agree but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I see guys on RM charging 300-400+ who are not attractive in my eyes. While I see cheaper that $300 who I see as hot. It is a mixed bag.

Edited April 25, 2018 by freecahill1965

[+ goosh69]

I'm kind of finding it hard to believe you don't send pictures out though. Lol

I’m older now, but started hiring escorts as early as age 24, and on several occasions I had escorts freak out and think I was a cop because I was young, in great shape, and big. Sending a picture- or even showing up in person - actually worked against me.

 

Even now guys think I look like a cop. Less so hot, I suppose.

[+ Pensant]

I have plenty of pics including selfies. I’m always wearing sunglasses or goggles so I don’t mind sending a pic since it’s somewhat disguised. I think they want to see if you’re WHP. They’ll have to wait to see me in person to comment on my baby blues, haha!