Just got screened by another escort - WTF?

[youngboldone]

Okay, so I reached out to a newbie in my city after doing some research and getting positive feedback from someone who had met him. He wanted to know if I had Venmo, which means he was wanting payment upfront. I feigned ignorance about Venmo. He didn't pursue advance payment, but then he wanted me to send him pics of myself. What the hell? This is the second time this has happened that an escort wanted me to send pics and stats of myself. These guys are in the wrong business!! They need to be on Grindr, not Rentmen! Pisses me off. A shame, too, because he was hot.

 

This hiring thing is becoming more difficult by the day. Just seems like there aren't any authentically skilled escorts out there - just scammers and fakes who only want your money. It's becoming just as much of a hassle as trying to find some action on the apps.

[Brutus]

Same thing happened recently while chatting with Danielyulqc in Montreal. If you're asking me for my stats how is that different from grindr?

[+ goosh69]

Agree with you two. If we are paying, they should not care. Some other poster here says he sends a pic of $100 bill and says “this is the picture you’re looking for” or similar.

[Guest TheOtherGuy]

Agree with you two. If we are paying, they should not care. Some other poster here says he sends a pic of $100 bill and says “this is the picture you’re looking for” or similar.

I Love this! I've never been screened, but if I ever am I am going to use this response.

[LaffingBear]

Ive been screened.

 

When they're reasonable questions, related to services I may be seeking... Im ok with it.

 

When it feels like Grindr, mutual attraction questions, or picture requests, I move on.

 

I, too, love the photo of the dollar bill idea, although Id just cease communicating.

[instudiocity]

Start with a $100 bill, add 50 $1 bills underneath, stack the bills then fan them just a little showing there's more than 1 note, be sure the $100 is on top...

[Bearofdistinction]

Agree with you two. If we are paying, they should not care. Some other poster here says he sends a pic of $100 bill and says “this is the picture you’re looking for” or similar.

[+ Keith30309]

This has come up a number of times and nobody likes being judged. But the argument that was made here by an escort was that he asked some basic questions in advance to ensure that he would be able to give the client a genuine, sincere experience. If he was not attracted to the client then his response and attention would be faked and not at the level of standards he wanted to deliver. He didn’t claim to be attracted to everyone and, as a sort of disclosure, made that known so as to not take the money of clients who might have a disappointing experience.

 

My response to that is that I’m quite glad that he does that and publicizes it. When he’s passed thru my city I’ve refrained from reaching out to him and wasting the time of both of us. I really, seriously don’t want to meet the guy even if he has no issue with webbed toes.

[Edward]

+ 1 youngblondone. I have given up on hiring new escorts. Have a guy that I see regular. If he quits I don't think I will look for another escort.

[rossthebosssf]

I have dealt with this a number of times, but mostly from newbies. When I used to fish on Craigslist it was quite common, but how could I complain when only having to pay a $50-$100 fee for a multiple hour engagement? I guess you just need to gauge how interested you are in this fella. If I was lukewarm, I'd move on.

[BaronArtz]

I subscribe to the theory that people are not machines. Not everybody is going to be enthusiastic about 'performing' with ME. I have no problem sending a picture or answering questions from a service provider.

 

I am sorry to say, but sending a picture of a $100 bill is just plain RUDE.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I subscribe to the theory that people are not machines. Not everybody is going to be enthusiastic about 'performing' with ME. I have no problem sending a picture or answering questions from a service provider.

 

I am sorry to say, but sending a picture of a $100 bill is just plain RUDE.

 

Ditto.

Perhaps it is a case of common money power trip, pretty common amongst clients. Sex workers have the right to choose also, sorry if you do not like it.

If you prefer other business models, just move on, as some shared in this thread they wisely did. There is no need to come here to spit your disdain.

[marylander1940]

+ 1 youngblondone. I have given up on hiring new escorts. Have a guy that I see regular. If he quits I don't think I will look for another escort.

 

You'll get horny and move on it has happened to most of us.

[marylander1940]

Ditto.

Perhaps it is a case of common money power trip, pretty common amongst clients. Sex workers have the right to choose also, sorry if you do not like it.

If you prefer other business models, just move on, as some shared in this thread they wisely did. There is no need to come here to spit your disdain.

 

Is not @BaronArtz disdain, is his opinion on this matter.

 

[Jason901]

I've gotten screened in Vegas before. it just feels stupid. I won't send pics anymore as part of a prescreen. just dumb

[Golem]

I understand wanting an escort that doesn't care what you look like. I don't understand the level of anger and disdain displayed in the OP that a particular escort doesn't operate that way -- especially given the reality that BaronArtz mentions above. Being able to see the beauty in every individual, no matter what they look like, is a wonderful thing to aspire to. But I see no reason to bar anyone who isn't able to achieve that standard from the profession entirely.

 

I also think it's worth pointing out that, in the same way clients get a read on an escort's personality, reliability, etc. from initial conversations, the same thing is also happening in reverse. If initial chatter makes an escort think, "gosh, this guy is going to be high maintenance" then the whole proposition might start to feel less attractive... leading them to resort to questions they might not normally ask.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Is not @BaronArtz disdain, is his opinion on this matter.

 

 

First of all, thank you for the dictionary, I knew what "disdain" mean.

Second, are you @BaronArtz 's lawyer? Well, good for you, because they do not need one. I am agreeing with him.

[marylander1940]

First of all, thank you for the dictionary, I knew what "disdain" mean.

Second, are you @BaronArtz 's lawyer? Well, good for you, because they do not need one. I am agreeing with him.

 

Oh... you don't need the disdain of those who want a picture of the would be client...

 

I have to keep reminding myself English is not your first language, and btw I'm not a lawyer and no need to go from 0 to 60mph about this subject.

[+ Keith30309]

I don’t think I’m naive in wanting every meeting to be a win/win - an experience we both enjoy. My experience is that if one person is unhappy then the other is unlikely to enjoy themselves.

If I walk into the room and the escort is clearly unhappy with what he sees then 1) I did a lousy job of screening HIM, 2) I’m pretty sure I’m going to get the vibe pretty quickly, and, 3) I’m going to decide if we should do each other a favor and terminate the meeting. I've learned the hard way that not doing #3 is going to make a bad situation worse. On a couple of occasions it’s gotten much worse.

 

Yes I know what direction the money flows in but one of the things I want in a session is genuine intimacy and throwing $100 bills at someone isn’t going to change their nature.

[thickornotatall]

If the escort can't or won't do his job..get another job..

[MrMattBig]

I've gotten screened in Vegas before. it just feels stupid. I won't send pics anymore as part of a prescreen. just dumb

 

If clients are explicit, expect an escort to ask for a face picture to ensure someone else doesn't show up and bust them.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Oh... you don't need the disdain of those who want a picture of the would be client...

 

I have to keep reminding myself English is not your first language, and btw I'm not a lawyer and no need to go from 0 to 60mph about this subject.

 

No problem. I have to keep reminding myself I tend to over estimate your reading skills.

[+ VictorPowers]

I accept the above screening picture. Hilarious! I do not actively ask for pics, but appreciate if they are sent proactively.

[dcman]

With my initial email to the escort I give my general description. Height, Weight, Age, Race, and a general idea of what I am looking to happen....works well for me 95% of my hires have gone really well. No surprises for the escort and (hopefully) none for me.

[marylander1940]

No problem. I have to keep reminding myself I tend to over estimate your reading skills.

 

It wouldn’t hurt you to read before clicking send or post