Abrupt drop in responses to PM's

[+ newatthis]

I have long used PM's to get additional information about guys mentioned here. Over the years, I have been directed to some real gems and avoided some bad situations -- and, I hope, have provided the same service to others. Only very rarely have I not received a response to a private query (less than once a year).

 

In the 10 days since nsguy45 started the thread on the dangers of PM's, 2 PM's I sent have have languished unanswered. I can't help wondering if this is coincidence or a direct effect of nsguy45's warning. Has anyone else experienced this?

[wklucas]

I have long used PM's to get additional information about guys mentioned here. Over the years, I have been directed to some real gems and avoided some bad situations -- and, I hope, have provided the same service to others. Only very rarely have I not received a response to a private query (less than once a year).

 

In the 10 days since nsguy45 started the thread on the dangers of PM's, 2 PM's I sent have have languished unanswered. I can't help wondering if this is coincidence or a direct effect of nsguy45's warning. Has anyone else experienced this?

 

 

A couple weeks ago I received a PM from someone requesting contact info for an escort....(the escort no longer advertises himself but has made it known that, for the time being still, he does not mind having the contact info passed on to interested others).....anyway, as requested via PM, I supplied the contact info....to date, no "common courtesy" reply back to me saying "thx".....undying gratitude not expected.....a simple "thx" back - yes, I think so.....that lack of display of manners might cause me to blanket ignore similar PM inquiries in the future.

[MikeBiDude]

Over the years, I have been directed to some real gems and avoided some bad situations -- and, I hope, have provided the same service to others

Many feel the review process and discreet posts in the regular forum do the same job. When a conversation is taken PM it often usurps the entire purpose of these forum, leaving many many posters/lurkers in the dark.

[MikeBiDude]

A couple weeks ago I received a PM from someone requesting contact info for an escort....(the escort no longer advertises himself but has made it known that, for the time being still, he does not mind having the contact info passed on to interested others).....anyway, as requested via PM, I supplied the contact info....to date, no "common courtesy" reply back to me saying "thx".....undying gratitude not expected.....a simple "thx" back - yes, I think so.....that lack of display of manners might cause me to blanket ignore similar PM inquiries in the future.

This...plus many (rude?) one liner PM questions “will X let you seed him”, “where did you cum when you f’d X”, etc.

[MikeyGMin]

This...plus many (rude?) one liner PM questions “will X let you seed him”, “where did you cum when you f’d X”, etc.

+1

 

I've gotten several really crude questions over the last 6 months or so. I don't consider myself a prude, but I also don't do crude. If it's someone that I have commented on in the forum, it is someone that I like. If you approach me like he's a piece of meat or some kind of cum receptical, it's unlikely that you're going to hear back.

[marylander1940]

I have long used PM's to get additional information about guys mentioned here. Over the years, I have been directed to some real gems and avoided some bad situations -- and, I hope, have provided the same service to others. Only very rarely have I not received a response to a private query (less than once a year).

 

In the 10 days since nsguy45 started the thread on the dangers of PM's, 2 PM's I sent have have languished unanswered. I can't help wondering if this is coincidence or a direct effect of nsguy45's warning. Has anyone else experienced this?

 

I guess posts have consequences.

 

Thank you for sharing this!

[cany10011]

I agree there is a lack of common courtesy once a question has been answered.

[rvwnsd]

I suspect it is a combination of coincidence and a modicum of fallout from said post.

 

In the past, I would receive actual messages, i.e., more than a crude one-liner, from members who wanted information about guys I have hired. Typically, the messages were from members who had some tenure or had recently joined but made well-thought posts and didn't seem to have ulterior motives. Of course, I was happy to reply to those messages. About six months ago, I started receiving PMs from new and new-ish members who either did not post very much or made posts that were somewhat questionable. On two occasions, a brand-new member sent a group PM requesting information about several guys. I didn't reply.

 

All that being said, when a long-standing member PMs me I will always reply. When a newer member PMs me my reply will depend on the tone of his PMs, his public posts, and the way he asks the question. If members are not replying to any PM based on the "warning" thread then that's a shame. That would be the equivalent of never crossing the street because of a rise in cars hitting pedestrians.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I have not noticed any change and I will not make any changes in my personal policies on PMs.

[+ freecahill1965]

I have long used PM's to get additional information about guys mentioned here. Over the years, I have been directed to some real gems and avoided some bad situations -- and, I hope, have provided the same service to others. Only very rarely have I not received a response to a private query (less than once a year).

 

In the 10 days since nsguy45 started the thread on the dangers of PM's, 2 PM's I sent have have languished unanswered. I can't help wondering if this is coincidence or a direct effect of nsguy45's warning. Has anyone else experienced this?

I have not noticed any changes as a matter of fact I saw an increase in PMs TO me in the last couple of weeks.

[jjkrkwood]

I wish someone would PM me..... I'm Lonely !

[BigK]

I almost never even check my pm's and I've been here for decades (well near the start anyway).

 

I just checked and my first unreplied to pm was from 2004.

 

Apologies to all I've never replied to. I will start watching this in the future.

Edited January 3, 2018 by BigK

[TruthBTold]

I have sent PMs and generally have gotten thoughtful replies. A few have said that they would rather not reply to particular subjects I have raised and I have always that that was perfectly legitimate. A very few people have not replied at all. I, of course, was disappointed and thought that at least a PM stating that the person would prefer to abstain. I try to give as expansive an answer as I can (perhaps a lot more than people expect or really want ). On certain occasions where a member has discussed an escort in the Forum I will contact the member in a PM in the hopes to garner info on the escort. I will often ask very specific questions about the things I most care about. I hope the questions will be answered however know that there is no rule and should be no expectations on my part.

One of the things that I hate about the suspension system based on some particular conduct there is no message (as far as I know) that goes out when a PM is sent to the suspended member telling the member who sent the PM that the suspended member can't respond. I always am disappointed because I feel like the member who sent the message would feel as if I was just to lazy to answer his request or that I blocked him in some way.

[Stormy]

Most of my pm's have been pleasant but one did not acknowledge or thank me for providing valuable information about my experience with a provider. Maybe I am old fashioned but a simple thank you would be appreciated

[BabyBoomer]

One of the things that I hate about the suspension system based on some particular conduct there is no message (as far as I know) that goes out when a PM is sent to the suspended member telling the member who sent the PM that the suspended member can't respond. I always am disappointed because I feel like the member who sent the message would feel as if I was just to lazy to answer his request or that I blocked him in some way.

 

You can't send a PM ( start a conversation ) or receive one from a member who is suspended ( time out ).

 

~Boomer~

[coriolis888]

 

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I supplied the contact info....to date, no "common courtesy" reply back to me saying "thx".....undying gratitude not expected.....a simple "thx" back - yes, I think so.....that lack of display of manners might cause me to blanket ignore similar PM inquiries in the future.

 

 

Common courtesy is not common.

[BabyBoomer]

Common courtesy is not common.

 

Anymore.

 

~Boomer~

[TruthBTold]

You can't send a PM ( start a conversation ) or receive one from a member who is suspended ( time out ).

~Boomer~

 

That was my point. Perhaps it could be worked that the system could send a response saying that the member cannot send a response at this time. Sort of like when you go on vacation at work and get an email from someone and the system will send a response saying you will respond when you return.

[MikeBiDude]

That was my point. Perhaps it could be worked that the system could send a response saying that the member cannot send a response at this time. Sort of like when you go on vacation at work and get an email from someone and the system will send a response saying you will respond when you return.

Where our “peerage” appears beneath our user name/avatar it used to say “time out” rather than your current level when you were put on break. Somewhere along the way either deliberately or accidentally via updates that doesn’t happen any more so we don’t know.

[TruthBTold]

Where our “peerage” appears beneath our user name/avatar it used to say “time out” rather than your current level when you were put on break. Somewhere along the way either deliberately or accidentally via updates that doesn’t happen any more so we don’t know.

 

I am still working my way to "Queen" but I think that was a good thing.

[BabyBoomer]

Where our “peerage” appears beneath our user name/avatar it used to say “time out” rather than your current level when you were put on break. Somewhere along the way either deliberately or accidentally via updates that doesn’t happen any more so we don’t know.

 

The only way to know is to click the members avatar. If you don't see the words "start a conversation" that means the member is on time-out.

 

The only other possibility is that member(s) don't allow PMs.

 

~Boomer~

[MikeBiDude]

The only way to know is to click the members avatar. If you don't see the words "start a conversation" that means the member is on time-out.

 

The only other possibility is that member(s) don't allow PMs.

 

~Boomer~

You are correct sir!! That’s the only way I’ve figured out to test a screen name if someone has gone missing. I’m not sure why management stopped the “Time Out” notification

[+ José Soplanucas]

Lost as usual. Who has been timed out?

[bigvalboy]

You are correct sir!! That’s the only way I’ve figured out to test a screen name if someone has gone missing. I’m not sure why management stopped the “Time Out” notification

 

I vaguely recall Daddy and Deej mentioning once that a "time-out" was a very personal action against someone, and their status should remain private. It was kind of demeaning to have a "time-out" posted for everyone to see.

Edited January 4, 2018 by bigvalboy

[MikeBiDude]

I vaguely recall Daddy and Deej mentioning once that a "time-out" was a very personal action against someone, and their status should remain private. It was kind of demeaning to have "time-out" posted for everyone to see.

Makes sense and I’m OK with that...