When escorts cancel at the last minute

[MartyB]

Last week a. Escort I really love tonne with cancelled 2 hours before we were to meet citing health issues. I can only take it face value that is true. I don't necessarily buy it but it's reality. Somewhat dis I do I booked another guy who is awesome. All is good.

[LADoug1]

That is the standard? Accept bad behavior and move on? So exactly who is lowering the standard, the people who do this or the people that accept it? I agree there is nothing to do about this particular escort, except not hire him again and let him know why. Then move on and continue to expect people to meet their work obligations. At the very least, a phone call rather than a text would have personalized the situation and that may have been enough to have me consider another date in the future, if he was somewhat remorseful and asked for a postponement to another day.

 

Good advice but what person under 30 even uses the phone anymore?

[LaffingBear]

Saturday, an acquaintance canceled plans with me, citing a work crisis.

 

In a bizarre twist - and a first for me - a few hours later he sent an email that he'd fabricated the work crisis, truthfully, wasn't in the mood, but wanted to be honest.

 

There's some pretty sick tickets in this town.....

[RenoSweeney]

OK...let's all be real.

This is a business.

 

He got a better offer...maybe from a client or a friend who just got the hottest tickets in town. And, because you are a regular...you would forgive him.

 

This has happened to me...twice with the same guy in Denver.

 

They don't care...they are in it for themselves...Unfortunately, your allegiance to them does not count.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

OK...let's all be real.

This is a business.

 

He got a better offer...maybe from a client or a friend who just got the hottest tickets in town. And, because you are a regular...you would forgive him.

 

This has happened to me...twice with the same guy in Denver.

 

They don't care...they are in it for themselves...Unfortunately, your allegiance to them does not count.

 

Bitter, party of one... Your table is ready

[big-n-tall]

I have been cancelled on by newbs and popular escorts alike. Thankfully, it hasn't been too frequent an occurrence. In some cases, I have absolute evidence that what they told me was the truth. In others, I have no clue. I've personally had to cancel a few times because of unexpected work issues, family related issues or illness.

 

The last couple of times I set something up with one of my favs, both times he had to cancel. I know this guy pretty damned well and don't doubt his honesty. The first, because he couldn't get off his day job. By the time he could and drive into the city, it would have been ultra late. So for his safety (because I didn't want him risking falling to sleep at the wheel) I told him to stay home. I knew by the time he got to me and even if we played for just an hour... he still had to get home and get up almost immediately to go into work again. He was profoundly upset (apologized profusely) and I was a little disappointed, but it was ok. Life goes on. The next time because of issues at home (I know all about his family situation) he couldn't come see me when I was in Philly. In talking to him, he promised to make amends and almost sounded tearful. He is such a good guy and we have a very good connection... I'm not willing to drop him because of these instances. Both times, I was in certain areas for a specific reason so he really didn't cost me time or money.

 

Not to say that some escorts are definitely lying to get out of an appointment, but shit happens. I know it can be jarring and upsetting, but if you don't have evidence they are lying (and even if you do)... there are bigger things to worry about and other options (usually) if you think/plan it out.

 

The only time I have been truly upset because of a cancelation was because the escort had such an obvious disregard for me and/or cost me money. I can count on one hand how many times this has occurred. I have talked about these instances on the forum. After that, I don't care how hot or amazing the guy can be in bed... I make no effort to see them again ever.

Edited December 18, 2017 by big-n-tall

[RenoSweeney]

Bitter, party of one... Your table is ready

 

Everyone has different experiences...some good...some bad...

[+ José Soplanucas]

First of all, shit happens. I do not see why not to believe the escort in the OP, considering the positive background.

Secondly, in case he is lying, let me share a couple of experiences.

Ron, the escort I have developed the deepest personal relationship since my second hiring season started a few years ago, let me down once.

We set up an appointment at this hotel. I arrived to the lobby, and he would not respond to my calls. I waited 15 minutes texting and calling, with no response. I left furious. About one hour later he called me back apologizing because he had overslept. In that moment I was too upset, did not want to talk to him, and called my plan B.

Ron continued reaching out and apologizing even after he left DC, and I finally forgave him. Should I not forgiven him, I would have missed many hours of immense pleasure and deep intimacy.

Pablo, a street hustler I was seeing back in the 80s in Buenos Aires, during my first hiring season in Argentina, robbed me. One morning I got up and he had left with a few of my belongings. I was younger and inexperienced, and was emotionally involved. He hurt me a lot. About an year after the incident, he messaged he wanted to see me to apologize. I forgave him, and we started a very hot relationship that lasted 25 years. He became a loyal friend and lover.

We all make mistakes, forgiveness can be the gate for amazing experiences.

[mike carey]

That will happen a lot next year when the national team plays in the world cup. (except here because we don't care much about soccer).

You're quite correct that time off work to watch the US national team play in the world cup won't be a thing, but not so much because you don't care much about soccer. Of course, many hyphenated Americans may well take time off if their other country is actually playing in Russia.

[marylander1940]

You're quite correct that time off work to watch the US national team play in the world cup won't be a thing, but not so much because you don't care much about soccer. Of course, many hyphenated Americans may well take time off if their other country is actually playing in Russia.

 

We always wonder why there's ONE sport in the world where we suck!

 

Trinidad and Tobago kicked us off Russia 2018!

 

I'm sure Trump will cheer for Russia!

[RenoSweeney]

Bitter, party of one... Your table is ready

 

Everyone has different experiences...and we get disappointed when someone cancels...especially after confirming plans.

[mike carey]

We always wonder why there's ONE sport in the world where we suck!

The USA certainly doesn't suck at football, it's the vagaries of the qualification system. The US had a perfect storm, T&T beat them, and on the same day, against the odds Panama and Honduras beat the top two qualifiers (Costa Rica and Mexico) pushing the USA into fifth position on the table. And Italy and the Netherlands also failed to qualify, and Iceland did qualify.

[marylander1940]

The USA certainly doesn't suck at football, it's the vagaries of the qualification system. The US had a perfect storm, T&T beat them, and on the same day, against the odds Panama and Honduras beat the top two qualifiers (Costa Rica and Mexico) pushing the USA into fifth position on the table. And Italy and the Netherlands also failed to qualify, and Iceland did qualify.

 

Aussies didn't qualify either.

 

Damn... we were 3rd in 1930! After that just do the math, we aren't good at soccer, we suck!

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_at_the_FIFA_World_Cup

[rvwnsd]

It sucks to be on the receiving end of a cancellation. I take an escort at his word when he cancels, as I hope others have done with me when I have been forced to cancel.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Everyone has different experiences...some good...some bad...

 

True. And those experiences shape the way we treat those around us.

 

I truly hope you have better experiences with escorts in the future.

[former lurker]

That is the standard? Accept bad behavior and move on? So exactly who is lowering the standard, the people who do this or the people that accept it? I agree there is nothing to do about this particular escort, except not hire him again and let him know why. Then move on and continue to expect people to meet their work obligations. At the very least, a phone call rather than a text would have personalized the situation and that may have been enough to have me consider another date in the future, if he was somewhat remorseful and asked for a postponement to another day.

 

Grow up. These are people. And they operate in a difficult environment, with legal and health risks. The strident nature of your comment suggests a severe lack of empathy, a sense of entitlement when "hiring", and a sense that because you're hiring, the escort is contracted to do your bidding regardless of his health or his concerns. Fairly ugly I'd say. But your other posts don't display this sort of disregard for the escorts, so I'll cut you some slack, while disagreeing strenuously with this one post.

[marylander1940]

Last week a. Escort I really love tonne with cancelled 2 hours before we were to meet citing health issues. I can only take it face value that is true. I don't necessarily buy it but it's reality. Somewhat dis I do I booked another guy who is awesome. All is good.

 

Your no drama attitude is refreshing!

 

Keep on posting @MartyB !

[tenderloin]

To me it is all a matter of timing: when the pro let's me know with some notice (at least a few hours) I think it is acceptable. Over the years, I have had three occasions where the person just didn't show - no text, no notice, no nothing.

 

Recognizing that escorts are human, too, I do think it is reasonable to hold them to a higher standard with regard to cancellations -- after all, they are the professional service providers, we are the customers. Like it or not, when you are in a service business, you've got to be flexible, patient, and forbearing. If you can't be, you are in the wrong business.

[+ peterhung85]

I'm seething, I'll admit it. Had a firm confirmation early this morning from an escort I've seen multiple times and he texts me less than an hour before he was to arrive that he's "sick" and cannot make it tonight. Yes, it's winter and people get sick, but I feel if he were truly ill, why wait until the last minute to inform me?

First of all, truly sorry that it happened to you. Obviously he was not serious because you don't just realize last minute that you are sick. Learn from it and find someone who not only respects you but takes your business seriously.

[LADoug1]

I’m not superstitious but I tend to think that lying brings bad karma. I hope the escort was telling the truth.

[mike carey]

Aussies didn't qualify either.

Happily, this is fake news.

[jaysc1189]

I've had cancellations twice. Once, I got a text two hours before saying that the escort got sick and couldn't come. I just booked another escort and had a lot of fun. The second time, I didn't hear anything until the next morning, when the escort said he had fallen asleep the evening prior.

[marylander1940]

Happily, this is fake news.

 

sorry I confused yinz with NZ, the flags are so similar.

[marylander1940]

I’m not superstitious but I tend to think that lying brings bad karma. I hope the escort was telling the truth.

 

lying brings Karma.

[KennF]

I don't automatically assume that a provider is lying when they say they are sick and cancel last minute.

I've gotten sick and thought I'd be okay, only to feel worse as the day approached. I feel it is better to cancel then pass along my cold.

 

I expect them to take me at face value, so I should I take them at face value.

 

If the escort is cancelling because they got another (higher paying) job, then fine. Just because I accept they excuse, doesn't mean I ignore the fact that his reliability is not stellar.