What has your experience been with this?

[Cannon]

I'll start with saying I myself decided not to do this ...but there is a sweet guy, could not be sweeter! He's not terribly wealthy I don't think. Lives VERY modestly in a place that is REALLY only meant for one. But he's comfortable. He plans to retire in 5 yrs. He is such a good guy and so supportive. He feels like I've helped him with some heavy issues that he has in his life and he wants to repay the favor and would like for me to move in. He says he hopes Ill be his Boyfriend one day but he doesn't expect that and which is one of the many reasons I declined the offer. I like being independent and declined for a multitude of other reasons but out of curiosity I want to put this out there to the other companions to see what what your experiences have been.

Edited December 9, 2017 by Cannon

[+ Avalon]

He does not expect sex with you. But he would be okay with you continuing to escort, having sex with others?

 

Is there a big age difference between you and him (he plans to retire in 5 years)?

[Cannon]

He does not expect sex with you. But he would be okay with you continuing to escort, having sex with others?

 

Is there a big age difference between you and him (he plans to retire in 5 years)?

 

He's 35 years older. Yes he would have been fine with me seeing other clients

[+ Avalon]

He's 35 years older. Yes he would have been fine with me seeing other clients

 

It seems rather odd. I think you should be very very careful!

[gallahadesquire]

I hired an escort, 36 years my junior, for a few years. I knew his life would become a shambles sooner or later (don't ask except through a PM), and it did.

I had told him that if he ever needed a place to stay (thinking 1-4 months), please to call.

 

Well, that was four years, one Cat, two total joints, two cellulitides, four hospitalizations, and a new girlfriend (who is also transgender, as my roommate now is) later ... he's still here. No rent, no utilities, no charge for food ...

 

While it's been nice having someone here with me, he's taken over the 900 sq ft house, including the living room, for which I bought a second TV because our viewing preferences are significantly different.

 

He's planning on moving out as soon as he can move in with his girlfriend, who is undergoing a divorce. I get The Cat.

 

Sigh. It's been a long four months [sic] and I think I've paid what I had to, forward enough. Now the choice is a gay Ecuadoran; a straight 25 year old aspiring actor; a straight (?) 25 year old felonious Rugby player; or a mostly-clean-and-sober ex-Medical student.

 

Maybe I should buy a bigger house?

[+ Avalon]

I hired an escort, 36 years my junior, for a few years. I knew his life would become a shambles sooner or later (don't ask except through a PM), and it did.

I had told him that if he ever needed a place to stay (thinking 1-4 months), please to call.

 

Well, that was four years, one Cat, two total joints, two cellulitides, four hospitalizations, and a new girlfriend (who is also transgender, as my roommate now is) later ... he's still here. No rent, no utilities, no charge for food ...

 

While it's been nice having someone here with me, he's taken over the 900 sq ft house, including the living room, for which I bought a second TV because our viewing preferences are significantly different.

 

He's planning on moving out as soon as he can move in with his girlfriend, who is undergoing a divorce. I get The Cat.

 

Sigh. It's been a long four months [sic] and I think I've paid what I had to, forward enough. Now the choice is a gay Ecuadoran; a straight 25 year old aspiring actor; a straight (?) 25 year old felonious Rugby player; or a mostly-clean-and-sober ex-Medical student.

 

Maybe I should buy a bigger house?

 

You could open a boarding house ;-)))

[Cannon]

I hired an escort, 36 years my junior, for a few years. I knew his life would become a shambles sooner or later (don't ask except through a PM), and it did.

I had told him that if he ever needed a place to stay (thinking 1-4 months), please to call.

 

Well, that was four years, one Cat, two total joints, two cellulitides, four hospitalizations, and a new girlfriend (who is also transgender, as my roommate now is) later ... he's still here. No rent, no utilities, no charge for food ...

 

While it's been nice having someone here with me, he's taken over the 900 sq ft house, including the living room, for which I bought a second TV because our viewing preferences are significantly different.

 

He's planning on moving out as soon as he can move in with his girlfriend, who is undergoing a divorce. I get The Cat.

 

Sigh. It's been a long four months [sic] and I think I've paid what I had to, forward enough. Now the choice is a gay Ecuadoran; a straight 25 year old aspiring actor; a straight (?) 25 year old felonious Rugby player; or a mostly-clean-and-sober ex-Medical student.

 

Maybe I should buy a bigger house?

 

This is hilarious! Thank you for writing this! Xo

[gallahadesquire]

This is hilarious! Thank you for writing this! Xo

 

It's all true. You can't make this stuff up. Especially the word cellulitides.

[+ Avalon]

It's all true. You can't make this stuff up. Especially the word cellulitides.

 

Cellulitis? I've suffered from that. I was hospitalized two weeks in 1999. I could have lost my right leg, even died. I was hospitalized again for a week in 2006.

 

In returned in 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016 but meds and shots took care of it. Fortunately it did not return this year.

[gallahadesquire]

Cellulitis? I've suffered from that. I was hospitalized two weeks in 1999. I could have lost my right leg, even died. I was hospitalized again for a week in 2006.

 

In returned in 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016 but meds and shots took care of it. Fortunately it did not return this year.

 

You're a rookie! One in 1996 left a huge hemosiderin scar, from where I bled into the strep blister.

One in my right elbow took my temp to 104.1+ degrees. They iced my head.

I was carried out of my house 1/28/2017 because I couldn't get out of bed. That was a two-month hospitalization.

Mid-july 2017 was "just an infection," but required replacing the spacer in my knee replacement.

 

PICC [peripherally inserted central catheters]? I've had four.

 

And I get Neisseria Meningitides when I have bronchitis.

 

Typhoid Mary got nothin' on me!

[jjkrkwood]

There are NO free rides in life. EVERYTHING comes with a Price (eventually)

[+ JEC]

There are NO free rides in life. EVERYTHING comes with a Price (eventually)

I agree with this. 99% chance this will not end well. I was a kid of hardscrabble roots too and had lots of offers like this from Gen men when I was young and GL, and refused every one and made my own way. As a result I now have a fantastic life. Stay strong my friend, do the hard work....and build the life YOU want you will be much happier for it.

[+ Keith30309]

I would take advantage of his offer but don’t financially paint yourself into a corner such that you can’t walk away at a moments notice if things suddenly went badly.

 

There are good people out there who sincerely want to help but ultimately you can’t count on anyone but yourself.

[+ sync]

I have no qualifications for giving advice, but from the information you have provided, I believe you have made the better decision.

[+ Topseed]

Under what terms? None.

[ChristianCronin]

I tried this situation before. A gentleman said I could live with him completely rent free and pay for nothing. I had planned to keep paying for my apartment for the remainder of the year just in case, and good thing I did! It ended up not working out so I still had a place to go.

 

If you do decide to move, I think you should continue to pay for your own place for a time until you can know that the new situation will work out.

[dcguy20]

Nothing is ever free.

[+ Avalon]

You're a rookie! One in 1996 left a huge hemosiderin scar, from where I bled into the strep blister.

One in my right elbow took my temp to 104.1+ degrees. They iced my head.

I was carried out of my house 1/28/2017 because I couldn't get out of bed. That was a two-month hospitalization.

Mid-july 2017 was "just an infection," but required replacing the spacer in my knee replacement.

 

PICC [peripherally inserted central catheters]? I've had four.

 

And I get Neisseria Meningitides when I have bronchitis.

 

Typhoid Mary got nothin' on me!

 

I've learned that no matter how bad off I may be there is someone worse off.

[Rudynate]

I'll start with saying I myself decided not to do this ...but there is a sweet guy, could not be sweeter! He's not terribly wealthy I don't think. Lives VERY modestly in a place that is REALLY only meant for one. But he's comfortable. He plans to retire in 5 yrs. He is such a good guy and so supportive. He feels like I've helped him with some heavy issues that he has in his life and he wants to repay the favor and would like for me to move in. He says he hopes Ill be his Boyfriend one day but he doesn't expect that and which is one of the many reasons I declined the offer. I like being independent and declined for a multitude of other reasons but out of curiosity I want to put this out there to the other companions to see what what your experiences have been.

 

 

Too many boundary issues to even name them all. The advantage of the client-escort relationship to both parties is it's self-limiting feature. Giving that up involves a lot of peril.

[Cannon]

There are NO free rides in life. EVERYTHING comes with a Price (eventually)

This is so true! And one of the reasons I made clear that I declined that offer. Because while he doesn't "expect" anything in return, he does "hope" which would lead to disappointment. I was actually more opening the floor to hearing other companions' experiences with this.

Edited December 10, 2017 by Cannon

[Rudynate]

This is so true! And one of the reasons I made clear that I declined that offer. Because while he doesn't "expect" anything in return, he does "hope" which would lead to disappointment. I was actually more opening the floor to hearing other companions experiences with this.

 

You really know how to take care of yourself.

[Cannon]

You really know how to take care of yourself.

I must! I have to!

[jjkrkwood]

This is so true! And one of the reasons I made clear that I declined that offer. Because while he doesn't "expect" anything in return, he does "hope" which would lead to disappointment. I was actually more opening the floor to hearing other companions' experiences with this.

 

 

Good for YOU, because when people say they dont expect anything in return....THEY DO !

[+ VictorPowers]

Your scenario is Red Flag city! Unrelated, but I ran into quite the scenario in Seattle(City changed for privacy). After 10 minutes of speaking in my hotel room, my client casually mentioned he wasn't a client. Bewildered, I found out that he was anticipating a complete relationship.

[gallahadesquire]

Your scenario is Red Flag city! Unrelated, but I ran into quite the scenario in Seattle(City changed for privacy). After 10 minutes of speaking in my hotel room, my client casually mentioned he wasn't a client. Bewildered, I found out that he was anticipating a complete relationship.

 

It seems to me that The Emerald City has more than its required share of nutcases. In this regard, it is quite similar to Beantown.