Escorts And Confidentiality

[+ Avalon]

Kevin Spacey instead of preying upon the innocent but not wanting to come out he could have hired an escort.

 

What is the policy of escorts here regarding client confidentiality?

[+ VictorPowers]

Client confidentiality is of the utmost importance. Although many clients share personal details of their lives with me, it stays between us.

[P Gren]

Client confidentiality is of the utmost importance. Although many clients share personal details of their lives with me, it stays between us.

How would confidentiality apply/relate in a situation of criminal behaviours (if it potentially came up)?

[+ bashful]

Client confidentiality is of the utmost importance. Although many clients share personal details of their lives with me, it stays between us.

 

Same goes for clients. I've learned real names of a couple of guys I've met. I'm grateful for their trust, and cannot ever imagine betraying that trust.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Same goes for clients. I've learned real names of a couple of guys I've met. I'm grateful for their trust, and cannot ever imagine betraying that trust.

 

Ah, the beautiful names they choose to hide!

[+ VictorPowers]

How would confidentiality apply/relate in a situation of criminal behaviours (if it potentially came up)?

I must have answered the initial inquiry incorrectly? I'm not understanding the question then.

 

I feel in an investigatory scenario, confidentiality would depend on quite a bit of factors. I mean if I'm being indicted for something, I wouldn't lie to a federal agent, police, or judge.

 

@latbear4blk I prefer being called Victor in most instances as my alter ego comes out:)

[P Gren]

I must have answered the initial inquiry incorrectly? I'm not understanding the question then.

 

I feel in an investigatory scenario, confidentiality would depend on quite a bit of factors. I mean if I'm being indicted for something, I wouldn't lie to a federal agent, police, or judge.

 

@latbear4blk I prefer being called Victor in most instances as my alter ego comes out:)

Sorry I guess I wasn't clear. I meant, if I client confided something criminal to you - how does confidentiality apply then?

[+ VictorPowers]

Sorry I guess I wasn't clear. I meant, if I client confided something criminal to you - how does confidentiality apply then?

Now we are really diving into a moral question and our ethics aren't we? My momma didn't raise no snitch!

[P Gren]

Lots of professions have a duty to report - teachers, social workers, police. Snitching minimizes (I'll take it as unintentional) criminal actions (such as predatory behavior with kids/adolescents) which is what I was talking about. (Who cares if someone is cheating or not fulfilling their vows or whatever.)

[+ VictorPowers]

I do not have a profession that would obligate me to report. I'd be responding in a personal manner to the information received. It is a very sticky situation to be in. I don't think I could confidently answer yes or no here. I'd need to be presented a real world scenario and act in real time.

 

DM me your unlawful behavior and we will find out

[FTM Zachary Prince]

Confidentiality is second to almost nothing for me. I would not even talk to a cop, a federal agent or a judge about a client who was in good standing with me. Never. I never discuss client identities even casually with my friends. Confidentiality is a key component of my business model.

 

All bets are off, however, if someone is (nonconsensually) violent towards me or steals from me.

[+ Keith30309]

This is “Ask an escort” not “Ask a client” but it’s kind of an important topic.

 

I think the same rules of discretion apply in both directions.

 

I once heard from another client something about myself that only a specific escort could have possibly known. It was a trivial factoid on the order of “once choked on a Brussels sprout” and of no real consequence, however, the fact that the escort was sharing anything personal about me with anyone was concerning. I never hired or recommended that escort again.

 

I DO think that experiential info related to meetings can and should be shared on both sides: “three late cancellations”, “Unhygienic”, “good tipper”, etc.

There’s a difference between information related to how a potential future meeting may go and personal information about someone. The former is reasonable to share and the later is not. When in doubt err on the side of discretion.

[KennF]

The professions mention have a legal duty to report. It is part of their obligations to obtain licensure. Other citizens aren't under an obligation to report someone's hearsay about a crime.

 

Also, this industry is about companionship, feeling comfortable, and creating personal connections involving intimate moments. They are often in vulnerable moments or involve trust. An escort who didn't maintain a client's confidentiality, is an escort that would be out of work very quickly.

[Rudynate]

How would confidentiality apply/relate in a situation of criminal behaviours (if it potentially came up)?

 

I doubt whether there is any legal basis for a duty of confidentiality by an escort to his clients.

[MiamiLooker]

An escort who didn't maintain a client's confidentiality, is an escort that would be out of work very quickly.

What makes you think that?

[KennF]

What makes you think that?

 

Bad business practices have a way of drying up clientele.

[MiamiLooker]

Bad business practices have a way of drying up clientele.

Not necessarily. How would you ever know if an escort is not divulging confidential information about you or other clients? There’s a current escort that’s been posting “blind item” BS about clients and other escorts on his blog for over 15 years. Scott Sloan has been ripping off clients for over 25 years and still has an ad http://www.malemasseurs.com/profile.cfm?CID=100307#_self

[+ Keith30309]

Not necessarily. How would you ever know if an escort is not divulging confidential information about you or other clients? There’s a current escort that’s been posting “blind item” BS about clients and other escorts on his blog for over 15 years. Scott Sloan has been ripping off clients for over 25 years and still has an ad http://www.malemasseurs.com/profile.cfm?CID=100307#_self

Unfortunately I’m afraid you’re right. I don’t have any knowledge of these two individuals but, in general, there’s no way of knowing who does what other than to have a sense of an individual’s character and integrity.

 

Fortunately the qualities I look for in a companion usually correlate with trustworthiness and I’m generally comfortable with the guys I would rehire.

[P Gren]

I do not have a profession that would obligate me to report. I'd be responding in a personal manner to the information received. It is a very sticky situation to be in. I don't think I could confidently answer yes or no here. I'd need to be presented a real world scenario and act in real time.

 

DM me your unlawful behavior and we will find out

Sometimes I drive too fast (even though I am super safe).

[+ Topseed]

Without any prompting from me, several escorts have provided stories of their meetings with high-profile celebrity clients. Beats me why they think this is good business -- am I supposed to be impressed? If so, it's the wrong strategy, as those escorts I never call again.

[Pepper Young]

If I felt like admitting to a crime, I'd tell my priest (if I had one) or lawyer about it, not my escort.

[+ glutes]

Not necessarily. How would you ever know if an escort is not divulging confidential information about you or other clients? There’s a current escort that’s been posting “blind item” BS about clients and other escorts on his blog for over 15 years./QUOTE]

 

* snap! *

[Trick]

As a closeted gay man I do not divulge any personal information to providers I hire. My greatest fear is for a down-on-his-luck escort using such knowledge to blackmail me or maybe getting into drugs and losing the sense of discretion which most of the providers on this thread try very much to uphold.

[bigvalboy]

Not necessarily. How would you ever know if an escort is not divulging confidential information about you or other clients? There’s a current escort that’s been posting “blind item” BS about clients and other escorts on his blog for over 15 years.

 

An escorts blog should be mandatory reading when hiring.

[+ José Soplanucas]

The few times that a professional shared with me any information about his experiences with other clients, it was in a way that it was impossible to me to identify who he was talking about, and it was always from concern, never bragging or gossiping.

 

Always when we talk about confidentiality in our hobby, we discuss escorts' indiscretion. I am glad that @Keith30309 brought to the table the other side of the coin. I think it is much interesting a conversation about clients' discretion. The limits for the escorts are pretty clear and the practice is, I think, pretty solid. If an escorts trespassed those boundaries, I am sure he would be burned alive here. However we clients are sometimes sharing extremely personal stuff about the professionals. The one thing that is broadly respected is discretion on their real names, as mentioned before. But besides that we are sharing all the time information that is not directly related to their professional performance, it is as though we are auditioning them not as sex workers but as perfect human beings and honest citizens. Are we fostering an unfair double standard?