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hmm … a dilemma … then it gets soft

Diego Klattenhoff https://78.media.tumblr.com/a472f6780b6e7a68ca04447729fcf579/tumblr_npcij4dnOb1rnnrbto10_400.gif

happy birthday you big liberal. the pool sounds like a good idea.

Is it a strip bar - El Stock?

How did the Village People ever meet? They all lived such very different lives.

PTBtCSD haha … I get it

Do you surf? I see it's right by the border, is it easy to cross over to Brazil?

Are you going to be in Montevideo or one of the resort towns?

Between having kids and coming out later in life, and/or adoption and/or various other ways, there are lots of gay men with kids - but let's not quibble about that, just different experiences talking I expect. As a gay dad I run into gay dads all the time. The common belief part was what I was wondering about, do gay men really have more problems with aging than straight men - and why - or is it just a negative stereotype as you mention? Lots of discussion locally about the need for gay and lesbian retirement homes, the lavender-grey wave. With a much higher percentage of women than men in assisted living and/or care homes, maybe this is more of a gay concern than a lesbian one.

lots of gay men have kids. so do you think gay men do have more trouble with aging than straight men? and that it just results from more (stereotyped) family structures

that applies to both gay and straight

Good point

Sounds like an urban myth developing. I've hired (and fired) lots of people, lots and lots in their 20's, never ever heard from a parent, even as a reference.

It seems to me gay men struggle with getting older more than other men. Why is that?

Its the National Party that is the main opposition, and they are (very) not supportive of LGBT rights.

There are Presidential elections next October. The parties running against the Broad Front are not supportive a lot of the socially progressive legislation of the last 10 years. (Not to be a Debbie Downer)

esteemed and self-esteem are different applications of the same concept - one is externally bestowed (to use your word) and one is internally bestowed (the self part of self-esteem)

I believe you are confusing privilege and self-esteem. A person may be born into privilege, but self-esteem and self-respect are both built and/or undermined through life.

Self esteem is not the same as privilege. Self esteem is something that is built.

Hard to choose, I think both are important. The way you are describing them, I'd say one (self-esteem) was an internal assessment, and the other (self-respect) was and external assessment.

I found a wallet in a locker at the swimming pool with $80 in it. I turned it in to the front office and it was returned with a thank you. The next week I had my wallet taken at the swimming pool (from my unlocked locker). No good deed goes unpunished.

everything is political - not a bad thing - and a subject for a different thread I expect

what are the politics of a white guy fucking a beautiful big assed black guy?

sounded like 'thanks for the compliment' but 'I'm not interested' and the negative spin sounded like direct but unclear disinterest in an older guy