Liking them young, ageist?

[Rockey]

If I have a choice between a sex partner >30 or <30, I choose <30. Physically, they're hotter to me. Am I being ageist? I've been told that's being ageist, but I disagree. If anyone else has an opinion, I'd like to hear it.

[Mydavid]

If I have a choice between a sex partner >30 or <30, I choose <30. Physically, they're hotter to me. Am I being ageist? I've been told that's being ageist, but I disagree. If anyone else has an opinion, I'd like to hear it.

I don't think so.

I will choose >30. Am I being ageist?

[gallahadesquire]

I like a certain type of beefy hunk that invariably turns to fat. So he's got to be <30 and frequently <25.

 

There's a certain escort online who's 32 and wonderful. The exception that proves the rule? And, of course, the redoubtable Mr. TB

 

My apologies to any escort members of this august board who might be among the elder set. These two gentlemen are known to me (and well respected). I have my bucket list and I'm slowly working on it.

[Rockey]

I like a certain type of beefy hunk that invariably turns to fat. So he's got to be <30 and frequently <25.

 

There's a certain escort online who's 32 and wonderful. The exception that proves the rule? And, of course, the redoubtable Mr. TB

 

I just had a 23 year old. It felt so good.

[LaffingBear]

If I have a choice between a sex partner >30 or <30, I choose <30. Physically, they're hotter to me. Am I being ageist? I've been told that's being ageist, but I disagree. If anyone else has an opinion, I'd like to hear it.

Yes.

 

Your desires are at least partly beyond your control, and, except where someone is hurt or affected involuntarily, there is absolutely nothing wrong with pursuing what you want. Its not a hiring decision, or accepting business-patrons, or even friendship.

 

If I like giant chest muscles, does someone label me pecist? Are size queens "cockists"?

 

Choose who you want to choose for sex, and dont worry about labels. Youre under no obligation to be politically correct.

[+ HornyRetiree]

IF I am paying -- I go for the ideal and that for me is guys in their 20s -- low 30s --That said!! There are a couple guys on here in late 30s and late 40s (pushing 50) that I would hire in a second if the opportunity presented itself! Also know those more "mature" guys have offered an opportunity to know more about them on this forum and that influences they way I see them AND they still have great bodies.

[Guest DeepSouthDad53]

Is it overly simplistic to suggest that attraction to young flesh is a curse (or blessing) of testosterone? A consequence of being male?

[marylander1940]

If I have a choice between a sex partner >30 or <30, I choose <30. Physically, they're hotter to me. Am I being ageist? I've been told that's being ageist, but I disagree. If anyone else has an opinion, I'd like to hear it.

 

It's just your type, but there might be exceptions.

 

IF I am paying -- I go for the ideal and that for me is guys in their 20s -- low 30s --That said!! There are a couple guys on here in late 30s and late 40s (pushing 50) that I would hire in a second if the opportunity presented itself! Also know those more "mature" guys have offered an opportunity to know more about them on this forum and that influences they way I see them AND they still have great bodies.

 

I preferred them young(er) too!

[marylander1940]

I just had a 23 year old. It felt so good.

 

How old are you?

 

I'm 76, a 23 y/o could pass as my grandchild.

 

I've met a lot of guys in their 20's who after turning 30ish weren't attractive to me anymore.

[LaffingBear]

Is it overly simplistic to suggest that attraction to young flesh is a curse (or blessing) of testosterone? A consequence of being male?

Just a little narrowly applied, IMHO

 

A great many of the challenges facing gay men arise from being male with testosterone.

 

Ive seen the following commentaries

• Its easier to find gay hookups than guys genuinely interested in platonic friendship.
  
• Soo many of the guys I know who were vocal about gay marriage rights, are in open relationships, or cheating.
  
• Gay guys only see other men as potential sex objects, initially.
  

I dont necessarily agree with these positions. But where I used to attribute some of the behaviors to being gay... I realize its more likely to arise from being male.

[gallahadesquire]

How old are you?

 

I'm 76, a 23 y/o could pass as my grandchild.

 

I've met a lot of guys in their 20's who after turning 30ish weren't attractive to me anymore.

Admittedly, he's in it for the money, but my Personal Trainer says I look younger than I did when we started working together three years ago.

 

People misguess my age by 10 to 15 years ... routinely. This has been going on for a few decades.

 

I love it!

[nynakedtop]

... none of which is (I hope) to say that we fail to recognize that ageism is a HUGE issue within our community(ies), yes?

 

but that is a topic for another thread!

[BasketBaller]

I think there is a difference between preference and prejudice. If you prefer a certain age, size, build, race or hair color, you're not harming those who don't fit your ideal. If you let any of those factors affect hiring, housing, education, or civil rights, you are. Not the same thing.

[Good Grief]

I think there is a difference between preference and prejudice. If you prefer a certain age, size, build, race or hair color, you're not harming those who don't fit your ideal. If you let any of those factors affect hiring, housing, education, or civil rights, you are. Not the same thing.

 

+1

[handiacefailure]

No. But I also don't think older guys should get pissy if a younger guy isn't attracted to older guys. When I was in my 20s I was only attracted to guys around my age and I would have guys twice my age or older hit on my and a couple got bitchy when I said I wanted someone my own age. They felt it was ok to only like guys half their age but had an issue with a guy in their 20s only liking guys his age.

 

I love playing with young guys (and that's why I hire a lot but have found a few young guys that like older guys) but for something serious I want someone closer to my age. When I was 44 I dated a 22 year old I met on recon for a while (Asian doctorate student who was very smart but loved older white guys) and he was a lot of fun to play with and even have an occasional dinner with but we had nothing in common. We had an entirely different set of friends, he liked different music, I love to travel and he never had the cash being a college student and I love broadway and it bored him.

[Kenny]

Youre under no obligation to be politically correct.

What does that even mean?

 

"Not PC" regularly gets lobbed as an empty excuse to feel better about insisting "I'll do whatever I want!" Mostly it shows that one feels guilty about doing it.

[nynakedtop]

What does that even mean?

 

"Not PC" regularly gets lobbed as an empty excuse to feel better about insisting "I'll do whatever I want!" Mostly it shows that one feels guilty about doing it.

I have very little patience/tolerance of people who use the expression(s) "PC" or "politically correct" to demean others who adhere to well formulated political positions with some degree of passion.

 

"PC" is nothing other than a put down - often replacing authentic argument and objection with a dismissive wave.

[Kenny]

I have very little patience/tolerance of people who use the expression(s) "PC" or "politically correct" to demean others who adhere to well formulated political positions with some degree of passion.

 

"PC" is nothing other than a put down - often replacing authentic argument and objection with a dismissive wave.

 

A substitute for thinking.

[+ quoththeraven]

I have very little patience/tolerance of people who use the expression(s) "PC" or "politically correct" to demean others who adhere to well formulated political positions with some degree of passion.

 

"PC" is nothing other than a put down - often replacing authentic argument and objection with a dismissive wave.

Which is why calling a political figure you despise a monkey looks like a double standard.

[+ Eric Hassan]

If I have a choice between a sex partner >30 or <30, I choose <30. Physically, they're hotter to me. Am I being ageist? I've been told that's being ageist, but I disagree. If anyone else has an opinion, I'd like to hear it.

 

I'm curious how you would behave and what you would choose if you didn't know a persons age.

[Guest]

I just came back from seeing one of my regulars whos 3 times my age he's truly a wonderful person that I have grown to care about. I really love listening to his stories and the era he grew up because it was so different living then and now especially being gay. He said something that touched my heart tonight, he said he would still see me and pay me even if we don't have sex. He just loves to talk, kiss, cuddle and to make sure I'm doing ok.

 

I know a lot of people hire me because Im young, they like to be that nurturing older figure in my life

I always wanted to ask them will they still hire me when I'm in my 30's lol, or will they find someone younger to take my place once I've matured

[+ Funguy]

Geez . . . We like who we like.

Who cares?

 

I'm 68, love to be mostly with guys 35 and older but they have to actually be mature. I have never met a 25 year old who is as mature as a 40 year old. Plenty of 60 year old silver foxes and DILFs out there who I would love to be with over a 25 year old any day of the week.

[liubit]

My preference is 19-25. If that makes me an ageist, so be it, guilty as charged. That is why I hire....

[+ sync]

For me it's just too individual for me to specifically target an age range. Over time I've met early-twenties who exuded so much sophisticated maturity that I swooned. Conversely, I've met some early-thirties (my favorite) who exuded so much immaturity and pettiness that I was disinterested.

[Guy Fawkes]

You my friend are finally starting to understand what being an escort is all about.

 

I prefer not to date teens or 20-somethings; It's too hard to change their diapers and I'm too old to want to teach them how to do it. Hurry up and turn 30, you'll be surprised at how your audience will appreciate it.

 

I just came back from seeing one of my regulars whos 3 times my age he's truly a wonderful person that I have grown to care about. I really love listening to his stories and the era he grew up because it was so different living then and now especially being gay. He said something that touched my heart tonight, he said he would still see me and pay me even if we don't have sex. He just loves to talk, kiss, cuddle and to make sure I'm doing ok.

 

I know a lot of people hire me because Im young, they like to be that nurturing older figure in my life

I always wanted to ask them will they still hire me when I'm in my 30's lol, or will they find someone younger to take my place once I've matured