Text me please

[+ José Soplanucas]

Even after 15 years living here, talking on the phone in English is still a stressful challenge. Thanks to the God I don't believe in for text messages.

[+ bashful]

Have fun, Bashful!

 

Oh thanks, I'm hoping to. And, if so, you bet, I'll be giving a review.

[MileHigh]

I don't think you can ask to "know what you're getting " if you aren't willing to respect the assumption that you are paying only for time.

Judging by your comment, I'm sure you never intend for anything to happen for $300/HR... You are just willing to pay to spend some time... PM me, as I am willing to get $300/HR from you for time only... We can chat about this during our "time only"... We can also talk about the weather and watch TV... You got to be fucking kidding everyone with your comment here!! You are delusional if that's what you really think... Hahaha

[corymonroe]

I understand all the reasons why some escorts prefer other communication options.

 

Email communication is the only private communication some of us have, and privacy is most important to me. If an escort is serious about discretion and privacy, he will offer communication by email. I don't care how long it takes to answer my email (but waiting too long is bad for business). If an escort doesn't offer email, then I'm convinced he's not serious about my need for discretion and privacy, and I will not pursue him.

 

(and some guys do jack off asking the same questions from each of them)

It's difficult for me to imagine anyone jacking off to an email communication. I guess it's possible that there's a guy or two out there who never lets go of his cock, no matter what he does. To eliminate a valid and important form of communication simply to avoid a minimal number of people seems like a bad business decision to me.

 

I wouldn't have a successful business today if it weren't for email. Email has replaced my FAX machine, and I'm grateful for that. Every idea and suggestion I share with a customer must be put in writing. If I fuck up on communication, I could lose the job, or worse, get sued. I'd like to see an escort deal with that reality.

 

Oftentimes, the writing in an email is the reason the job moves forward. Writing can be a very persuasive tool in business. Good, effective writing takes time. Yes, it hurts to spend a lot of time writing at the computer only to lose the job to a competitor. It happens, and there's nothing I can do to avoid it, except quit.

 

Escorts who aren't interested in email are avoiding it for a reason. Negative speculation is never good for business.

[Chuckball]

I ordinarily use text. I agree that a phone call is preferable but guys like me find ourselves in situations where others are around and it is inconvenient/embarrassing to talk. I would like to talk but only after a time for the call has been set up by a text message.

[+ Kufrol]

I ordinarily use text. I agree that a phone call is preferable but guys like me find ourselves in situations where others are around and it is inconvenient/embarrassing to talk. I would like to talk but only after a time for the call has been set up by a text message.

That's the best compromise and one I respect.

[MikeyGMin]

Email communication is the only private communication some of us have,

Interesting. For me texting is the most secure and private means of communication. My phone is thumbprint protected and NO ONE gets to use it -- or at least take it out of my sight. I feel much more secure about data on my phone than anything that is on my PC.

 

EDIT: I'm obviously not accounting for the fact that the provider has your cell phone number. I have never completed a transaction without providing my cell number, but I would imagine it is a problem for anyone who only uses a company provided device.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Interesting. For me texting is the most secure and private means of communication. My phone is thumbprint protected and NO ONE gets to use it -- or at least take it out of my sight. I feel much more secure about data on my phone than anything that is on my PC.

 

My techy friends say you are correct. If you use an iphone is even safer and encripted

[wolfgangdc]

I don't always see email messages. I check texts regularly but don't always remember email. The guy may have been like me and knew it would be able to respond more quickly via text

 

I try to find a middle ground.... well, a little closer to my interests than his.

 

I remember that there are a lot of nervous guys considering an escort session. Some may not even be self-aware to know they're never going to follow through. There're also still creeps getting their jollies by wasting escorts' time.

 

I'm an independent contractor ... I'm experienced enough to recognize the initial/early contacts who are going to ask a ton of questions, but never engage my services. If this frustrates me, I'm sure similar behavior frustrates escorts.

 

So, with some effort to understand the escort's perspective, I'm still probably a pain-in-the-ass screener for some escorts. But if they give me attitude, I move on. I'm certain I've missed out on some good escorts because my screening questions were annoying.... but I'm also sure I've avoided some bad experiences. The trade-off is worth it to me.

 

The number of questions a potential client asks is inverse to them actually making an appointment.

Granted, some escorts have very little information in their profile, whenever I get a question enough I just add the answer to mine.

[Bayman4Fun]

The number of questions a potential client asks is inverse to them actually making an appointment.

Granted, some escorts have very little information in their profile, whenever I get a question enough I just add the answer to mine.

 

Is that a good thing or a bad thing?

 

I'd hypothesize a variety of reasons

1. A thorough client is trying to address all hopes and concerns for a successful session.... and if they eventually say no, it because they've determined it wasn't going to work out.
   
2. Some men, perhaps not even aware, are tempted by the idea of hiring, but they're never going to do it, and the inquiry process is their safety valve
   
3. As in all thing human, some guys are just a pain in the ass (and not in a good way)
   

It undoubtedly wastes escorts time, and also frustrates, perhaps irritates. Yet, I'd think that, in the long run, an escort is better off not setting an appointment with someone who is described by any of these reasons.

 

The practice of adding info to a profile based on questions is good business

[corymonroe]

The number of questions a potential client asks is inverse to them actually making an appointment.

That's absolutely true in my business as well. The difference is, if I don't take the time to answer the questions with care, I won't get the job. And when the subject turns to Photoshop, average folk can't imagine the hand-holding and endless questions I have to endure to get to an actual payment.

 

It's difficult for me to feel sorry for the escorts who think the work of pleasing someone is easy money. Sure, some guys handle their business that way. Others don't.

[BasketBaller]

I think the easy/glib answer is that it is "generational", which I at first rejected but then re-interpreted.

 

Agreed. My sons and their friends won't usually even answer their phones in favor of texting, and while Facebook itself is not so popular with them as it was, they use the Facebook messenger app on their phones more and more.

 

I text the boys unless it's urgent, then I call. And they know that if I call, I really need to talk to them so they either answer or call back.

[SuperJunior]

Is that a good thing or a bad thing?

 

I'd hypothesize a variety of reasons

1. A thorough client is trying to address all hopes and concerns for a successful session.... and if they eventually say no, it because they've determined it wasn't going to work out.
   
2. Some men, perhaps not even aware, are tempted by the idea of hiring, but they're never going to do it, and the inquiry process is their safety valve
   
3. As in all thing human, some guys are just a pain in the ass (and not in a good way)
   

It undoubtedly wastes escorts time, and also frustrates, perhaps irritates. Yet, I'd think that, in the long run, an escort is better off not setting an appointment with someone who is described by any of these reasons.

 

The practice of adding info to a profile based on questions is good business

 

#2.

[KennF]

Without a phone very few escorts would make plans or go on an endless exchange of emails.

 

Is hard for me to understand why @Cestmoi you don't understand that... Imagine handling 10 emails a day, and waiting for a call/text to see if you have business.

 

If you're serious call the guy for 2 mins or text him, ask him questions and hire him. The fact that you don't understand the request for a text/call would make any escort suspicious and you might be put on a spam list or your emails might be ignored.

 

Personally I think nothing beats a 2 minutes call for you to get a feeling of the guy, after that texting address, scheduling all details.

 

I think there are at least three sides to this...

While I understand it from the escort side, and the generational side, there is the client side as well.

 

If a client's initial contact is via email, I feel it most appropriate to respond with an email. It takes as long to compose an email as it does to the text.

 

If the email chain goes on more than twice, then it is perfectly acceptable to ask.. can I text you?

 

But the email response... "text me please" is terrible communication and shuts down a client.

 

"text me please" requires the potential client to re-initialize contact; says that they aren't interested in what the client asked; that they cannot be bothered to focus on/adjust to their clients; and as I discuss with my sales team at work; it allows the customer to find a reason to not make the sale or close the deal.

 

I doubt most providers think about the subtle messaging, but it exists.

 

Dale Carnegie once said... "When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion."

Just my tuppence.

-K

[marylander1940]

I think there are at least three sides to this...

While I understand it from the escort side, and the generational side, there is the client side as well.

 

If a client's initial contact is via email, I feel it most appropriate to respond with an email. It takes as long to compose an email as it does to the text.

 

If the email chain goes on more than twice, then it is perfectly acceptable to ask.. can I text you?

 

But the email response... "text me please" is terrible communication and shuts down a client.

 

"text me please" requires the potential client to re-initialize contact; says that they aren't interested in what the client asked; that they cannot be bothered to focus on/adjust to their clients; and as I discuss with my sales team at work; it allows the customer to find a reason to not make the sale or close the deal.

 

I doubt most providers think about the subtle messaging, but it exists.

 

Dale Carnegie once said... "When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion."

Just my tuppence.

-K

 

If you really want to meet an escort you text him or call him, you don't just privately and anonymously email him.

 

The fact that a simple request for a text message that will show commitment it's such a petition that the OP gets turned off and gives up contacting again the escort tells you the flakyness they deal with on a daily basis.

[KennF]

If you really want to meet an escort you text him or call him, you don't just privately and anonymously email him.

 

The fact that a simple request for a text message that will show commitment it's such a petition that the OP gets turned off and gives up contacting again the escort tells you the flakyness they deal with on a daily basis.

 

I don't doubt that there is flakiness out there. There are pic collectors, stalkers, and a host of different people who are not 100% committed to meeting.

 

However, if you don't mind me pointing out, your approach puts the onus of building the relationship on the (metaphorical) shoulders of the client. As you say, "if [the client] really want".

 

From my perspective, a potential client has initiated a contact and reached out to the provider. That first step is important to acknowledge. It doesn't hurt the provider to respond (which they are doing anyway when they email back "text me please") via email. The only real difference is the quality of the response.

Either short, curt, and focused on the providers issues (his annoyance at time-wasters);

or; short, polite, and focused on the potential client's issues (responsive to the questions posed).

 

I tell my sales team, don't put extra obstacles in the way of a potential customer. They can always call one of our competitors.

 

As a customer, when a service provider (escort, plumber, tree trimmer, barber, whatever...) responds and throws an obstacle in my way, my first thought is... "There are a 100 other people I could contact, why would I waste my time with someone not focused on me, the client?" I remember... it is my choice. Why should I pay to be blamed for other people's annoyance? Why should I pay for someone to pay attention to themselves?

 

You're welcome to your opinion, just adding a different perspective.

[MiamiLooker]

If you really want to meet an escort you text him or call him, you don't just privately and anonymously email him.

 

The fact that a simple request for a text message that will show commitment it's such a petition that the OP gets turned off and gives up contacting again the escort tells you the flakyness they deal with on a daily basis.

Are you suggesting a client shouldn't contact an escort unless and until the client is 100% sure he wants to hire the escort?

[MiamiLooker]

"There are a 100 other people I could contact, why would I waste my time with someone not focused on me, the client?"

+1

There are plenty of fish in the sea of escorts.

[marylander1940]

Are you suggesting a client shouldn't contact an escort unless and until the client is 100% sure he wants to hire the escort?

 

please don't put words in my mouth I never said...

 

 

On RentMen.com at least you have pics, stats, safety practices, and in 90% of the cases rates, travel and location might be confusing unless, but you can always ask.

 

I usually contact guys by text, ask to talk for a couple of mins and get a feeling if I want to hire them or not. I don't like dragging things by email even though I'm retired unlike some clients who can't stop texting/emailing from business meeting.

 

 

How do you contact guys on BP?

 

What do you ask them by email? Is there always basic information missing in their posts?

[marylander1940]

I don't doubt that there is flakiness out there. There are pic collectors, stalkers, and a host of different people who are not 100% committed to meeting.

 

However, if you don't mind me pointing out, your approach puts the onus of building the relationship on the (metaphorical) shoulders of the client. As you say, "if [the client] really want".

 

From my perspective, a potential client has initiated a contact and reached out to the provider. That first step is important to acknowledge. It doesn't hurt the provider to respond (which they are doing anyway when they email back "text me please") via email. The only real difference is the quality of the response.

Either short, curt, and focused on the providers issues (his annoyance at time-wasters);

or; short, polite, and focused on the potential client's issues (responsive to the questions posed).

 

I tell my sales team, don't put extra obstacles in the way of a potential customer. They can always call one of our competitors.

 

As a customer, when a service provider (escort, plumber, tree trimmer, barber, whatever...) responds and throws an obstacle in my way, my first thought is... "There are a 100 other people I could contact, why would I waste my time with someone not focused on me, the client?" I remember... it is my choice. Why should I pay to be blamed for other people's annoyance? Why should I pay for someone to pay attention to themselves?

 

You're welcome to your opinion, just adding a different perspective.

 

The client reaches the provider by email/text/call and can ask whatever he wants but if I was a busy escort I would just ask the client to call me or text me and if serious not to hide under an anonymous email?

 

We both agree that a call/text HAS to be made for the client to schedule an appointment with the escort, right? You also say the client shouldn't eternally drag the communication by email, right?

 

The OP gets offended and cuts off any chance of hiring the escorts if he replies to his 1st email with a note saying "text me". Would you do the same? Would it be ok for the escort to reply to your 2nd or 3rd email about: stats, location, avail. etc with a "text me"?

 

Damn, tomato/tomatoe let's keep dragging this.

 

 

 

Just my 2 cents.

[Bayman4Fun]

As a customer, when a service provider (escort, plumber, tree trimmer, barber, whatever...) responds and throws an obstacle in my way, my first thought is... "There are a 100 other people I could contact, why would I waste my time with someone not focused on me, the client?" I remember... it is my choice. Why should I pay to be blamed for other people's annoyance? Why should I pay for someone to pay attention to themselves?

 

Good luck with that.......

 

Sadly, these days, I don't think there are 100 other people you could contact who would be enthusiastic, with a customer-responsive communications attitude. You're just going to contact a lot of others who behave in the same manner.

 

Ignoring escorts and masseurs.... arranging services is a big part of my job and even bigger in some volunteer work I do. Of all service providers and contractors I contact, I'd say only 30% are decent in replying and following up. About half of those are truly excellent.

 

The most common response to my contact efforts.... to a provider or contractor who is advertising for work is nothing. The most common response by a contractor who's spoken with me and promises a bid/proposal is nothing.

 

Maybe its a healthy economy, maybe it's changing social values. But it sure seems like responsiveness is no longer a customer-service norm.

 

I don't like it, but I'm human. Conditioning is part of the human experience. I no longer have favorable expectations from the service industry. Which is why I always give positive reviews and make recommendations for the excellent providers out there.

[Rod Hagen]

I'm SO bad with texting. Call or email me please.

[KennF]

What do you ask them by email? Is there always basic information missing in their posts?

 

Actually... there usually missing information in every ad. For example: In my "area", the driving distance is anywhere from 5-45 minutes. All depends on which side of the county. So, yes, there is information needed from every potential provider.

 

The client reaches the provider by email/text/call and can ask whatever he wants but if I was a busy escort I would just ask the client to call me or text me and if serious not to hide under an anonymous email?

 

First, if the escort is that busy, then he wouldn't be responding to either texts or emails. He's too busy to handle the scheduling side of his busy. When I seen an email, I do not expect an immediate response.

 

We both agree that a call/text HAS to be made for the client to schedule an appointment with the escort, right? You also say the client shouldn't eternally drag the communication by email, right?

 

Agreed. But we are discussing first impression(s) and first contacts/response. After the first impression is established, the method of communication often changes.

 

So, the escort responds to the email saying... Thanks. Answers any first questions. And adds either, I prefer text over email. Can you text me instead at xxx-xxx-xxxx; or; what's your phone #, so I may text you directly?

 

Isn't that more appropriate than not answering the question and "text me please"?

 

If you don't want to discuss it, that's fine, too. I was just giving my thoughts.

[marylander1940]

Actually... there usually missing information in every ad. For example: In my "area", the driving distance is anywhere from 5-45 minutes. All depends on which side of the county. So, yes, there is information needed from every potential provider.

 

 

 

First, if the escort is that busy, then he wouldn't be responding to either texts or emails. He's too busy to handle the scheduling side of his busy. When I seen an email, I do not expect an immediate response.

 

 

 

Agreed. But we are discussing first impression(s) and first contacts/response. After the first impression is established, the method of communication often changes.

 

So, the escort responds to the email saying... Thanks. Answers any first questions. And adds either, I prefer text over email. Can you text me instead at xxx-xxx-xxxx; or; what's your phone #, so I may text you directly?

 

Isn't that more appropriate than not answering the question and "text me please"?

 

If you don't want to discuss it, that's fine, too. I was just giving my thoughts.

 

 

 

Approach with care... lol.

 

Life usually is way simpler than imagined.

 

Sounds like the script of a Lifetime movie.

 

Why do you finish your latests postings with something that sounds like "have a nice day."

[KennF]

Why do you finish your latests postings with something that sounds like "have a nice day."

 

Well, I read into your tone on the one before like you didn't really want to continue the conversation. So I wanted to leave you an out.

 

Wasn't trying to be rude or anything.