Would love some perspective here —
Last night, I was traveling and hired a guy who had several good reviews on RM. He came over and we immediately got down to business. And though I tried to control the flow, his pace of fun prevailed and within twenty minutes he got out of bed and was ready to get dressed again. I told him he didn’t have to go and he came back to bed, laid there for another 10 minutes or so and then left. He was a really nice guy, sweet, but because he was so eager to get out of there, I felt like his heart wasn’t really in it.
This morning, I log onto RM and leave a middling review, writing nice things about him in the comments, but saying I wouldn’t rehire. A couple hours later, I get a text from him asking if I left that review and why I’d thought that because he thought we’d had a nice time. I told him I was discouraged by how quickly he wanted to leave. (In total, he was in my hotel room for probably less than 35 minutes.) He explained most of his clients want him gone after climax, so he assumed I was that way. (I pointed out that I asked him to come back to bed and that should be proof I didn’t want him to leave, but that piece got lost.)
He then offered to make it up to me if I could come see him this afternoon. We went back and forth a bit because I wasn’t really sure it was worth my time. Then I had a weird feeling about the exchange because in my mind, “let me make it up to you” implied fault and he was gonna try and fix it as good customer service. However, after a couple more texts, I realized he wanted me to come over for a second session and expected me to pay his going rate. I told him I wasn’t interested; he then offered to do it for half. At that point, I told him I was disappointed in the previous night’s experience and I had no desire to pay more for another session that could possibly turn out exactly like the first. That was the end of it.
The further I’ve gotten away from this, the more I feel like the guy was trying to use me. Am I wrong to be miffed that he offered to make it up to me, but expected me to pay for that “apology?” It’s possible I’m blowing this way out of proportion, but would love an expert’s POV.
