Text me please

[Cestmoi]

i will occasionally email a potential hire aski a few questions and then I will just get back a response "text me please." I don't understand that. Obviously they're getting the email and they're answering it, so they can respond to email. Is there something I'm missing? Because 9 times out of 10 that response turns me off.

[Kevin Slater]

My only guess is that a phone number implies seriousness on your part, whereas someone can have a multitude of email addresses (and some guys do jack off asking the same questions from each of them).

 

Not a fan of the texting here. Were you to text me, you'd get the response "call, don't text". (Because sure as shit when I call back the number that just texted me, it'll roll directly to voicemail.)

 

You get to decide whether the required channel of communication works for you or if you want to start the search anew.

 

Kevin Slater

[nynakedtop]

Interesting.

 

I think the easy/glib answer is that it is "generational", which I at first rejected but then re-interpreted.

 

Working with kids, I realized that email has pretty much gone the way of facebook... email is becoming less and less used and seen as kind of old fashioned (as in dinosaur-like) - texting is far easier, the rules of etiquette are simpler, and, as most people are using phones instead of laptop/desktop computers, it just seems to make more sense.

 

I resisted that, but now I am a convert - it is just so much more direct and convenient. (Oh, but please do not ask me to phone... that's a whole separate issue! - and if I were to encounter a "call don't text" message, I am likely to walk on by!))

[+ oldNbusted]

I've found the communication flow improves after switching to text, so it's fine with me.

[+ GregM]

This is my preferences in order: text, call and then email. I like having things in writing first. If I feel that I need something clairified better I will ask if we can talk on the phone. Email gets lost sometimes or I may see it but forget it because I am doing other things.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[MassageDrew]

As a client, I prefer to text anyway I have received a similar reponse once. Never texted him. If the site or your own site offers the e-mail option then you should honor that form of communication and respond.

[+ Kufrol]

Interesting.

 

I think the easy/glib answer is that it is "generational", which I at first rejected but then re-interpreted.

 

Working with kids, I realized that email has pretty much gone the way of facebook... email is becoming less and less used and seen as kind of old fashioned (as in dinosaur-like) - texting is far easier, the rules of etiquette are simpler, and, as most people are using phones instead of laptop/desktop computers, it just seems to make more sense.

 

I resisted that, but now I am a convert - it is just so much more direct and convenient. (Oh, but please do not ask me to phone... that's a whole separate issue! - and if I were to encounter a "call don't text" message, I am likely to walk on by!))

I've evolved as well, but a two or three minute phone call often becomes more efficient than a series of drawn out texts. Each generation has its own preferred way of communication (I recall a scene from Mad Men in which an older ad executive wanted to set up a lunch meeting, and Don Draper just wanted to use the phone. The hurt and perplexed reaction of the older actor was brilliant.), so I've slowly adjusted to the 21st Century.

[Kevin Slater]

a two or three minute phone call often becomes more efficient than a series of drawn out texts.

 

Hear, hear!

 

Kevin Slater

[+ purplekow]

I prefer phone calls after an initial contact by whatever means is suggested by the escort. I like to hear the timbre of the voice and to get an idea if the person can hold a conversation and if their thinking, unedited, is cogent and clear. So phone calls give me more information. It does not have to be a long conversation but for me, it is easier to relay information without autocorrect and emojis. Confirmatory e mail or text with date and time

[+ bashful]

I found email works best if you are setting up an appointment with someone who is not currently in the same country.

[mike carey]

What modes of communication either escorts or clients are prepared to use are part of who they are and how they tick. If you can't deal with that, move on as you would with any other part of their 'package' that you can't deal with (even if you think their choice is irrational).

 

I'm pretty much open to using any or all of the above (maybe less so at the outset than later), although I understand the sometimes 'sketchy' nature of communication by burner numbers and e-mail accounts. I had never had any problems with calls and texts on my PSTN number here, but it seems many 'phone numbers' in the States can't receive texts and/or calls from (or in some cases send them to) overseas numbers. Problem with texts in this context is that you never know if they have gone through. So I have to do what works (this applies to 'business conversations' and others that are social). I've added WhatsApp, which tells me if a text has been received, and then if it's been opened. It's also allowed me to have several long voice calls, essentially for nothing (so far I have not used WhatsApp to set up an appointment, only for comms after it was set up, or for comms that weren't about an appointment).

[Kevin Slater]

What modes of communication either escorts or clients are prepared to use are part of who they are and how they tick. If you can't deal with that, move on as you would with any other part of their 'package' that you can't deal with (even if you think their choice is irrational).

 

 

Kevin Slater

[+ Eric Hassan]

i will occasionally email a potential hire aski a few questions and then I will just get back a response "text me please." I don't understand that. Obviously they're getting the email and they're answering it, so they can respond to email. Is there something I'm missing? Because 9 times out of 10 that response turns me off.

 

I can't speak for every escort, but I know I check my phone for texts and calls way more often than I check email. I also require a phone number that I have verified is yours before we meet. Texts allow me to respond as quickly as possible and verify the number is you.

[marylander1940]

i will occasionally email a potential hire aski a few questions and then I will just get back a response "text me please." I don't understand that. Obviously they're getting the email and they're answering it, so they can respond to email. Is there something I'm missing? Because 9 times out of 10 that response turns me off.

 

Without a phone very few escorts would make plans or go on an endless exchange of emails.

 

Is hard for me to understand why @Cestmoi you don't understand that... Imagine handling 10 emails a day, and waiting for a call/text to see if you have business.

 

If you're serious call the guy for 2 mins or text him, ask him questions and hire him. The fact that you don't understand the request for a text/call would make any escort suspicious and you might be put on a spam list or your emails might be ignored.

 

Personally I think nothing beats a 2 minutes call for you to get a feeling of the guy, after that texting address, scheduling all details.

[marylander1940]

I found email works best if you are setting up an appointment with someone who is not currently in the same country.

 

That's not the case most of the times, right?

 

Sooner or later the guy will ask you @bashful your cell to text you his address or get yours, right?

[Bayman4Fun]

I have to agree...

 

I think some guys, with all good intentions, believe they're preserving some level of anonymity by relying only on email.

 

Thing is, email timing can be weird... I've seen emails transmit immediately, and then, same senders, a few minutes later... there can be hours-long delays.

 

Plus, we've become a very "short-burst, rapid" communication style society.

 

I'm guessing that if you asked escorts to categorize or correlate client follow-through with text/phonecall/email mode... they'd all say that guys who text or call are more likely to actually schedule and keep appointments.

 

I'll bet there's a similar correlation between blocked and unblocked phone numbers.

[Kevin Slater]

I think some guys, with all good intentions, believe they're preserving some level of anonymity by relying only on email.

 

Correct. Which casts heavy doubt on the booking.

 

guys who text or call are more likely to actually schedule and keep appointments.

 

Call far more than text, in my experience.

 

I'll bet there's a similar correlation between blocked and unblocked phone numbers.

 

Near perfect correlation.

 

Kevin Slater

[MileHigh]

I find it very disrespectful when escorts get all offended when you ask them (regardless of what way you contact them) for details of what services they offer. After all, as a customer you want to know what you are getting.

 

Also, I think because there are so many foreign escorts who really don't speak English (I've had a few of those experiences), they prefer texting over phone call...

[Kevin Slater]

I find it very disrespectful when escorts get all offended when you ask them (regardless of what way you contact them) for details of what services they offer. After all, as a customer you want to know what you are getting.

 

Agree, provided you've read the ad from which you contacted him in the first place.

 

Kevin Slater

[MileHigh]

Agree, provided you've read the ad from which you contacted him in the first place.

 

Kevin Slater

I had an experience where I asked a question and the escort got all nasty saying it is all in the ad.. I told him, well... May be you should re-read your ad because it is definitely nowhere in your ad. Those types you got to lose immediately!

[+ MostlyLurking]

I don't think you can ask to "know what you're getting " if you aren't willing to respect the assumption that you are paying only for time.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Agree, provided you've read the ad from which you contacted him in the first place.

 

Kevin Slater

 

Kevin, not everyone follows your business model. I always read the ads, but often I have gotten things that were supposed to be impossible.

[Bayman4Fun]

I try to find a middle ground.... well, a little closer to my interests than his.

 

I remember that there are a lot of nervous guys considering an escort session. Some may not even be self-aware to know they're never going to follow through. There're also still creeps getting their jollies by wasting escorts' time.

 

I'm an independent contractor ... I'm experienced enough to recognize the initial/early contacts who are going to ask a ton of questions, but never engage my services. If this frustrates me, I'm sure similar behavior frustrates escorts.

 

So, with some effort to understand the escort's perspective, I'm still probably a pain-in-the-ass screener for some escorts. But if they give me attitude, I move on. I'm certain I've missed out on some good escorts because my screening questions were annoying.... but I'm also sure I've avoided some bad experiences. The trade-off is worth it to me.

[+ bashful]

That's not the case most of the times, right?

 

Sooner or later the guy will ask you @bashful your cell to text you his address or get yours, right?

 

@marylander1940 you are absolutely correct. But, I volunteered it before he asked.

 

In my limited experience, I've found guys based outside the US won't have a US phone number until arrival in the US. In my recent experience, I saw an ad on RM of a visitor from across the pond who will be in my city at the end of the month. No US number in his ad. I reached out via RM email, and was very happy to get a very prompt and welcoming response. We had several email exchanges, and set up an appointment, where at that point, I gave him my phone number. He said he will text me upon his arrival into town (which I assume will be from a US number he will have once in the US).

[+ MostlyLurking]

Have fun, Bashful!