Has anyone been blackmailed by someone on line

[+ bashful]

a lot of police departments report all their dealings to the local newspaper "blotter."

 

Very true. My local suburban paper has "The Blotter" with accounts of various arrests in the suburbs. Most are vandalism, or theft/shoplifting.

[RockyMount]

DO NOT PAY!!! No matter what. The blackmail will never stop.

[RockyMount]

This recently happened in the case of Donald Burns and Jarec Wentworth.

http://str8upgayporn.com/jarec-wentworth-arrested-extortion/

 

 

The scumbag got 6 years in prison. Thank God!! The victim already gave him $500,000 and a $180,000 car. Instead of being satisfied, the scumbag comes back and demands $1,000,000 and a condo. The victim goes to the FBI and the blackmailer is busted. Happy ending.

[Guy Fawkes]

Call the Police; Blackmail is a serious crime.

 

Your buddy then gets to say to work/family: "Here's the police report I filed on the asshole." and doesn't need to say another word.

 

has anyone here been threatened by someone you have approached online..where the OP will expose you and your emails/texts to your work or family if you don't pay? If so what have you done? Any advise? My older buddy just got hit with this and he is going thru a messy divorce with kids involved. The guy he contacted said he would send out the emails and texts to his family and work if he doesn't pay a certain amount Via western union. What type of advise does the group have?

[caliguy]

The scumbag got 6 years in prison. Thank God!! The victim already gave him $500,000 and a $180,000 car. Instead of being satisfied, the scumbag comes back and demands $1,000,000 and a condo. The victim goes to the FBI and the blackmailer is busted. Happy ending.

That's got to be killing him too. I'll bet he's saying it over and over. Why didn't I just take the offer. What an idiot as well. He basically backed Burns into a corner. Basically proving that no amount of $ was going to make the problem go away.

[maninsoma]

Pardon my naive question, but how does someone get all your info? You give out your real first and last name and additional details?

 

Yes, some people give out their real info to guys they hire, particularly repeats and especially those hired to be companions on a trip. If you have guys come to your place, they can easily figure out who you are even if you make up a fake name. If you use anything other than a "burner" phone, a reverse phone number search might reveal your identity.

 

While I wouldn't welcome a blabbermouth contacting my employer about my extracurricular activities, I doubt it would end up causing me any grief beyond office gossip. And in my personal life, there really isn't anyone close to me who would be surprised to learn that I've hired escorts on occasion. I understand that the situation is a lot more complicated for men involved in relationships that involve more secrets.

[MscleLovr]

It happened to me once when a gay escort I'd dated 4x threatened me. He asked for money or he said he'd "out" me as "enjoying fucking young muscled men".

 

I remembered the Duke of Wellington's dictum (when threatened with blackmail by a female courtesan): "Publish and Be Damned!"

 

So I told him my friends and everyone in my building knows I'm gay, even the guys in the coffee-shop know I'm gay. And my gay friends envy me my handsome, fit-bodied companions.

 

I also asked him to put his threat in writing so I'd have more evidence to give to the Police than his verbal threat. Never heard from the jerk again.

[LADoug1]

I had an attorney draw up an agreement of cease and desist several years ago. T'wernt cheap - attorney and escort did okay.

 

In what way did the escort benefit?

[LADoug1]

Something else to consider. Since your friend is going through a divorce, he has retained counsel. His divorce attorney can advise him with regard to the extortionist. He's already paying his own attorney for the divorce, so it shouldn't cost too much extra to at least advise him of what to do. The divorce attorney will not have to disclose any of this to his wife or to his wife's attorney, and it's important for the client to disclose everything to his own counsel; attorneys hate to be ambushed. Good luck!

 

Excellent advice!

[LADoug1]

The scumbag got 6 years in prison. Thank God!! The victim already gave him $500,000 and a $180,000 car. Instead of being satisfied, the scumbag comes back and demands $1,000,000 and a condo. The victim goes to the FBI and the blackmailer is busted. Happy ending.

 

I admit I didn't read the entire article. Did the guy getting extorted get his money and car back?

[LADoug1]

I guess I'm lucky. If I was outed as having hired escorts the sky wouldn't fall. My closest friends already know. Only my family would now know and they would understand as they understand and love me for who I am and what my personal life is like.

 

I would however contact law enforcement and possibly an attorney if the threats didn't stop and started sounding violent.

[+ nycman]

I admit I didn't read the entire article. Did the guy getting extorted get his money and car back?

 

It doesn't say that he did. But it does say the perp's friend who sang like a canary told

the FBI where the car and $400,000 of the money was stashed. So. I'm guessing

Mr. Burns got at least something back.

[Jose305]

This is scary shit WOW!!!! Any advice what to look for in an escort, signs etc?

[SubNick]

My experience was not with a pro escort, but someone I met online. I didn't even have sex with him, just did some D/S play IRL - and wrote him emails with various fantasies.

I gave him money partly in line with the kink, partly because he gave me a sob story (all untrue, I later discovered). When I ended it, after a few weeks, he became enraged and spent 18 months trying to manipulate me into giving him more money. He wrote my parents, professional acquaintances, claiming that i was into pedophilia, all kinds of horrible things. There are a few things I learned:

a) Don't ever pay. It will just encourage him. Thank God I never did.

b) don't negotiate. Just ignore him.

c) Hire a private detective rather than a lawyer. I saw a very expensive lawyer in NYC who "specializes" in these sorts of things and I spent more money (much more) on the lawyer than on the guy. Waste of money. The police aren't necessarily going to help, I learned to my disappointment - they have a rather high standard of proof. (He always phrased it as me "repaying what I promised him.") Also going to the police might mean it all comes out anyway. In which case why not call his bluff and say "do your worst?" He loses all leverage as soon as he tells people. It was only when the private detective started making inquiries among his family, etc, that he backed off.

d) and finally always use a pseudonym, even if you think you trust someone.

[adventurous old guy]

It happened to me once when a gay escort I'd dated 4x threatened me. He asked for money or he said he'd "out" me as "enjoying fucking young muscled men".

 

I remembered the Duke of Wellington's dictum (when threatened with blackmail by a female courtesan): "Publish and Be Damned!"

 

So I told him my friends and everyone in my building knows I'm gay, even the guys in the coffee-shop know I'm gay. And my gay friends envy me my handsome, fit-bodied companions.

 

I also asked him to put his threat in writing so I'd have more evidence to give to the Police than his verbal threat. Never heard from the jerk again.

Really like your style!

[LADoug1]

My experience was not with a pro escort, but someone I met online. I didn't even have sex with him, just did some D/S play IRL - and wrote him emails with various fantasies.

I gave him money partly in line with the kink, partly because he gave me a sob story (all untrue, I later discovered). When I ended it, after a few weeks, he became enraged and spent 18 months trying to manipulate me into giving him more money. He wrote my parents, professional acquaintances, claiming that i was into pedophilia, all kinds of horrible things. There are a few things I learned:

a) Don't ever pay. It will just encourage him. Thank God I never did.

b) don't negotiate. Just ignore him.

c) Hire a private detective rather than a lawyer. I saw a very expensive lawyer in NYC who "specializes" in these sorts of things and I spent more money (much more) on the lawyer than on the guy. Waste of money. The police aren't necessarily going to help, I learned to my disappointment - they have a rather high standard of proof. (He always phrased it as me "repaying what I promised him.") Also going to the police might mean it all comes out anyway. In which case why not call his bluff and say "do your worst?" He loses all leverage as soon as he tells people. It was only when the private detective started making inquiries among his family, etc, that he backed off.

d) and finally always use a pseudonym, even if you think you trust someone.

 

D/S play IRL? Definition please. Curious here.

[MscleLovr]

D/S play IRL? Definition please. Curious here.

 

I'm guessing "Dominant/Submissive" play In Real Life

[MrMiniver]

I have always given a fake name when I was hiring guys. Always took them to my lake house which is hours from my 24/7 residence. My wallet and keys went into the safe when we'd get there so they couldn't have access to them. Used a burner phone that wasn't in my name. Used cash for meals/no credit cards. You have to protect yourself. I had a guy once who acted up. After he flew home, he started calling and texting saying he was going to mess me up, that he had all my information. I said "good luck, let me know what you think that information is." At some point, he realized that all my information was fake including where I actually lived. Powerless, he got even angrier. That's when I said "I know the local cops if you'd like to give them a call I can give you their number."

 

Once I went to see my attorney, and said I was embarassed to tell her what happened but felt I needed to give her the information. She listened to the whole story and said "I'm waiting for you to tell me something embarassing. This sort of thing happens all the time, you've done nothing wrong, nothing to be embarassed about."