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tennisjock Grand Master

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has anyone here been threatened by someone you have approached online..where the OP will expose you and your emails/texts to your work or family if you don't pay? If so what have you done? Any advise? My older buddy just got hit with this and he is going thru a messy divorce with kids involved. The guy he contacted said he would send out the emails and texts to his family and work if he doesn't pay a certain amount Via western union. What type of advise does the group have?

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BenjaminNicholas Grand Master

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I once had a client who swiftly dealt with this: It was another escort he met who tried to play him for a fool, but didn't realize his close relationship to several government agencies.

 

Moral of the story: Don't mess with people who have connections with the FBI.

 

(I realize that not everyone has friends in spook agencies. My personal advice is to lawyer up, collect as much personal info on the guy as he can and go from there)

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Yes I have. He had secretly video taped our entire time together, 4 in all and threatened to send them to my employer and husband. He asked for 50K to keep them private. Poor guy had no idea that a very good friend is a senior official inside one of the countries largest police departments. He knows I'm and I hire from time to time. I called him, he asked for the persons address and withing 30 minutes he was in custody. BTW he sent the extortion note via email.

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nycman Grand Master

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My real adivice is to call a lawyer.

 

If you're rich enough to be blackmailed....you're rich enough to hire a lawyer.

 

But if you're lazy, don't have much to lose, and like playing with fire.....

 

Cut, paste, and send......

 

The offense of blackmail is created by 18 U.S.C. § 873 which provides:

 

"Whoever, under a threat of informing, or as a consideration for not informing, against any violation of any law of the United States, demands or receives any money or other valuable thing, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than one year, or both."[36]

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Having faced this myself, it is an awful place to be in. Only you can decide what the best solution for yourself is. Keep in mind that if you do decide to pay the SOB off, there is no guarantee that he will honor his end of the agreement or not get greedy and come back for more. Even with a legal agreement to do so, if he violates it, then what- you are still exposed and you have to sue him for breach of contract-- if you were ok with it getting out- you wouldn't have paid him off in the first place!

 

Again, you have to make the decision and live with the consequences, but I would recommend either reporting him to law enforcement or simply refusing to play his games, ceasing all contact, and letting him know you will report him if he makes good on his threats.

 

The one thing I would not do, is make empty threats or intentionally antagonize him. This is not a time to bluff IMHO. Be prepared to follow through.

 

Hope it works out in a way you can live with in any case.

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instudiocity Mentor

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While not everyone has BN's or MM9x6's connections, everyone can bluff and make a similar threat back. Tell him that you know someone in the PD, and if he acts on his threat you won't stop until you see him behind bars. Your advantage is that he doesn't know who you do or don't know.

Why wait until the blackmailer acts?

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I, myself, didn't have access to my brain's extra sensory perception to know it would happen. o_O Gosh.

"adventurous old guy said: ↑

While not everyone has BN's or MM9x6's connections, everyone can bluff and make a similar threat back. Tell him that you know someone in the PD, and if he acts on his threat you won't stop until you see him behind bars. Your advantage is that he doesn't know who you do or don't know."

Providing context to my question: Why wait until he acts? CALL THE POLICE NOW!

 

And the PD doesn't need to talk to the wife and kids, they need to knock on the blackmailer's door.

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"adventurous old guy said: ↑

While not everyone has BN's or MM9x6's connections, everyone can bluff and make a similar threat back. Tell him that you know someone in the PD, and if he acts on his threat you won't stop until you see him behind bars. Your advantage is that he doesn't know who you do or don't know."

Providing context to my question: Why wait until he acts? CALL THE POLICE NOW!

 

And the PD doesn't need to talk to the wife and kids, the need to knock on the blackmailer's door.

 

Okay. He did know aspects of me. Stupid on my part, sure. I knew a lot about him.

 

This was six years ago. All done now. Thanks in retrospect.

 

Excuse my historical experience. Hope no one else has to go through it.

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I didn't mean to suggest waiting until after the asshole acts. Poor sentence structure on my part. I'd start intimidating back asap after getting the threat, and absolutely not wait.

 

But, isn't the threat pretty much equal to act? It was in my case. I could have fired back a "fuck-you" / leave me alone. I do say, in my experience things would have been uglier than it turned out to be.

 

I feel that posters on this thread have made their opinions very clear, helpful or not, BUT till you've experienced this true and unnerving shit in actuality, let us that have had to deal with it do it in the fashion we thought best.

 

Truly hope no one else has to go through it.

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Kufrol Community Regular

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Something else to consider. Since your friend is going through a divorce, he has retained counsel. His divorce attorney can advise him with regard to the extortionist. He's already paying his own attorney for the divorce, so it shouldn't cost too much extra to at least advise him of what to do. The divorce attorney will not have to disclose any of this to his wife or to his wife's attorney, and it's important for the client to disclose everything to his own counsel; attorneys hate to be ambushed. Good luck!

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sniper Grand Master

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Why tell your family? Tell the police!

 

Well for one thing, a lot of police departments report all their dealings to the local newspaper "police blotter." While big city police departments probably won't do this, if the client in question lives out in the sleepy suburbs or a small town where everybody knows everyone, there's a good chance the info gets out and the extortee is identifiable even if not named. There's also the risk the cops are homophobic or anti-john and choose to prosecute him as well.

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