Should I tell him?

[N13]

I am seeing a delightful young escort who I believe may be very naive. I don't think that he knows that people can check out his photos from his ads and possibly discover his instagram and face book pages that share photos that are on his escort ad.

 

He has a very active face book page and video blog that have nothing to do with his escort life. A lot of personal information about his private life.

 

I think if he knew the photos could be tracked he might be very upset. I would like to let him know about this so that he could change his escort page to one without shared photos.

 

What is the opinion? Should I just let it alone or should I tell him. Of course, if I tell him, he will know that I now know who he is, etc. Even if I assure him - and I would - that I will not reveal any of this to anyone, I am afraid it may make him uncomfortable to the point of not seeing me again.

 

Thoughts?

[MscleLovr]

Tricky situation. I feel it's right to warn him of the need to secure privacy and be reticent on social media.

 

My approach would be to raise the subject when you're both relaxed and in a private setting, and I would say something along the lines of 'I became concerned after someone I don't like found out a lot about me online, so I altered my Facebook privacy settings to severely restrict who could see my postings, photos etc. Are you concerned about that at all?'

[MartyB]

Let him know. How you tell him is your call. No doubt

[+ Kman]

Let him know. How you tell him is your call. No doubt

 

I would agree...It seems odd that he wouldn't realize that anyone could find the connection between his facebook/instagram to his ad.

[MiamiLooker]

I am seeing a delightful young escort who I believe may be very naive. I don't think that he knows that people can check out his photos from his ads and possibly discover his instagram and face book pages that share photos that are on his escort ad.

 

He has a very active face book page and video blog that have nothing to do with his escort life. A lot of personal information about his private life.

 

I think if he knew the photos could be tracked he might be very upset. I would like to let him know about this so that he could change his escort page to one without shared photos.

 

What is the opinion? Should I just let it alone or should I tell him. Of course, if I tell him, he will know that I now know who he is, etc. Even if I assure him - and I would - that I will not reveal any of this to anyone, I am afraid it may make him uncomfortable to the point of not seeing me again.

 

Thoughts?

Did you find out his personal info before you first hired him?

[N13]

Did you find out his personal info before you first hired him?

 

No between the first and second time.

[+ Keith30309]

Tell him - it's the right thing to do. You'll be doing him a huge favor.

I came across the same thing... I even found a copy of a guy's master's thesis online, as well as lots of personal info. I said "Just so you know, any pictures in your Rentmen profile can be searched and found elsewhere, like family FaceBook pages."

He was very thankful and immediately removed the shared pics.

[MiamiLooker]

No between the first and second time.

He might wonder why you were still checking him out since you'd already hired him.

[Moondance]

Tell him - it's the right thing to do. You'll be doing him a huge favor.

+1. As @Keith30309 says, it's the right thing to do. Put that ahead of your worry that he might freak out and not want to see you again. There's an equal chance that he'll be grateful for your honesty and concern.

[+ nycman]

I agree. Tell the poor kid.

 

It's better in the long run.

[+ Cash4Trash]

I've been in a similar situation and told the escort immediately so that he could take corrective action.

[MiamiLooker]

Let him know, but I wouldn't be too specific about how/when you found out.

[Guy Fawkes]

If You were the escort, would you want to know?

 

I am seeing a delightful young escort who I believe may be very naive. I don't think that he knows that people can check out his photos from his ads and possibly discover his instagram and face book pages that share photos that are on his escort ad.

 

He has a very active face book page and video blog that have nothing to do with his escort life. A lot of personal information about his private life.

 

I think if he knew the photos could be tracked he might be very upset. I would like to let him know about this so that he could change his escort page to one without shared photos.

 

What is the opinion? Should I just let it alone or should I tell him. Of course, if I tell him, he will know that I now know who he is, etc. Even if I assure him - and I would - that I will not reveal any of this to anyone, I am afraid it may make him uncomfortable to the point of not seeing me again.

 

Thoughts?

[+ sniper]

Tell him and let the chips fall where they may in regards to him seeing you. To me, preventing the harm that can come to this person is more important than whether he then gets spooked and doesn't want to see you. I would guess that even if he does get spooked and drop you, six months later when nothing happens he'll hit you up again and thank you.

Young and naive people are already getting tons of BAD advice, take the opportunity to balance the scales a bit.

[LookingAround]

Please. Nobody is going to drop anybody. In 2017 everyone searches everyone (like pics). He won't think you're a stalker. You're doing your due dilligence. It's what people do nowadays. Why are people making this such a big deal? Do him a favor and tell him.

[+ jeezopete]

To those of you who handled a similar situation, would you share with the OP how things went between you & the escort afterward? I'm sure he'd appreciate that info in addition to your recommendations, with which I totally agree.

[N13]

Saw him tonight. Asked him if he knew that people could find out his personal information if he used the same photo(s) in his social media as he did in his ads. He did not know that. I suggested he change the pics in his ad right away and even took some photos for him to use. It ended up having no effect on our time together other than some fun taking pics. Thanks to everyone for their advice and concern!!!

[LADoug1]

Saw him tonight. Asked him if he knew that people could find out his personal information if he used the same photo(s) in his social media as he did in his ads. He did not know that. I suggested he change the pics in his ad right away and even took some photos for him to use. It ended up having no effect on our time together other than some fun taking pics. Thanks to everyone for their advice and concern!!!

 

Glad it worked out. This was an interesting and relevant thread.

[Tommygunzz]

I have noticed that if I get an escort's phone number and I enter it into my Outlook address book, that I will sometimes find a notice on my Facebook account that has linked the escort's phone number to the number on his Facebook account. FB suggests that I might be interested to send a friend request.